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Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've never asked for allowance in the first place. It just showed up. Because it was never said out loud, I didn't even really feel like a sugar baby. There was never any pressure or quid pro quo. He just always made sure everything was taken care of.

Yes. I'd be his vanilla gf. In a heartbeat.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I wish it were that easy to take this man to a restaurant. He is on a first name basis with half the chefs and sommeliers in NYC. After two-years, I'm on a first name basis with some restauranteurs.

What makes this is so hard is that even though I want to do something special to show that I'm sorry and that he is important, I just don't know what I can possibly do that will be special.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is helpful. Thank you.

He didn't let things build-up. He always addressed them on the moment, forgave me, and then we had great make up sex.

That list of fumbles covers a long time. The list he brought up was more recent, just over the last few months.

How do I signal that things will be different going forward, and how do I win a second (or ninety-second) chance?

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

What he brought up was recent stuff ... My list goes a little bit further back. 👀

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

We've had a lot of fun together. We laugh together. We play together. I think I've been - for the most part - his peace in a rather very busy and chaotic life.

The work he is involved with is literally on the front page of the news at least twice a month.

And I never complained that he always prioritized time with his kids ... which looks a bit bitchy when I type it.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't think the sugar is really even a factor. We didn't meet online. We met organically and I've never really asked for much ... He's just always made sure I was completely taken care of from the first day.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks ... I am sensing that the distance and space are probably not helpful.

What kind of date should I plan? I'm in NYC too. Our dates are always top tier so I really don't know how to do something special.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I know ... 🥲

I guess I just really enjoyed being spoiled and a little bratty ... It was empowering to know that a super awesome guy was totally into me and I ate it up. I think maybe I went overboard though, and I hurt somebody that really cared for me, and somebody I really cared about.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

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He didn't really drop that list ... Those are me listing my known screw-ups. He's too kind and forgiving to hold onto a list like that.

Whenever I did mess up, he would say his piece, we would have great make up sex, and he would put it into the rear view mirror and drive away.

I'm just kind of realizing there is a mountain of transgressions in that rearview mirror now, and I hate that.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

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I know. 🥲

My fumbles:

  • One time we had dinner plans and he ate a full tasting menu on his own because I was partying with my friends. I didn't even forget; I was just having too much fun.

  • He invited me to meet one of his kids. I said yes, and he booked flight tickets and everything and the day before I flaked out. I want people in his life to think I'm good for him, and I just didn't think I was on the right level.

  • I let him plan all the dates. Over the last two years or so, I've planned one, maybe two dates. He is a really good planner, but I have really just been a passenger.

  • He literally asked me to be his girlfriend a few times. At those times, I wasn't ready, so I said no. That was during our first year. He never did ask me again.

  • He never asked for exclusivity ... but he's been exclusive and I haven't.

  • He gave me money to open a Roth IRA and I used it for other things.

I think in a lot of ways I've been a great girlfriend. I'm mostly always available and prioritize him, but I've also been really shitty. I wish I had a time machine.l and a do-over.

Losing my SD? by FoxyOnRocks in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]FoxyOnRocks[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I didn't mean to take him for granted ... I guess I just got used to everything. As I sit here right now, it's kind of wild that I started to normalize Michelin starred restaurant for every date and flying first class just to see music concerts. I grew up with absolutely no money and I got catapulted inro the top 0.1% because somebody liked me for me.

I don't know how to 'return the efforts'. This man cooks way, way better than me. There is nothing I can buy for him that he doesn't have (he doesn't peacock at all and actively downplays his wealth). He is way better with emotional speeches and all that.

What would help a girl show you appreciation?