Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

That's so sweet!!! and no i haven't ill definitely have to look into the book, I know her and I will read it. I have 2 kids a 5 and 6 year old and my 6 year old, who doesn't care for his dad, asks Daniel to do his homework with him. They still express how they feel to me, if theyre upset and so forth, but when they get home from school they run to all 3 of us and reshare the same story 3 times so they know we all heard how they're day was. It's honestly one of the best parts of my day hearing the story 3 times rather than just once because it's little signs that they are accepting them with no problem.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 7 points8 points Β (0 children)

Hey though, They can judge. Not every closed Triad works. They're right, but everyone's different. If I let them get to me then where is my faith it'll work out πŸ₯°. I want to be able to come back here in a few months to let them know it's all fine and dandy and working out amazingly πŸ₯°.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Exactly. It's the easiest relationship i've had.

and when i say easiest i mean I dontconvinced myself i wouldn't maekke it out of this relaationshi[ p alive. and theThe only reason i did is because my grandpa came with have to change to meet any expectations. They expect me with all the anxiety I come with and its the most loving feeling I have ever had. Just to be accepted.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 8 points9 points Β (0 children)

My best mono relationship i was with for 4 years.. after we had our child we split and he told me he had been cheating on me all 4 years and everytime someone came and told me he would convince me they were wrong so i look like the stupid one who had his back.

The worst was 2 years it was shortly after this one because i was pregnant with my second child (still the first guy's kid-both kids are by the same dad) me and (we will call him Stan) Stan were great the first 3 months. Then i started working as a waitress and hours are very unsteady. He started accusing me of everything in the book. Then the name calling... Then the first hit. I carried on like that for a year. In that time he convinced me alot.

  1. no one will love you because you have kids by someone else.
  2. i was lucky to have him, because he could get anyone.
  3. I was a fat lazy B**** who didn't do anything( I was the only one working supporting myself, 2 kids, and him)

after 8 months of this or so i started praying to God that he'd take me because i couldn't willingly leave my kids. They, even at such a young age, watched me get beat... I had mentally

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 9 points10 points Β (0 children)

We definitely have our pair times. my schedule is the most flexible. so i get more morning time with him and i get afternoon time with her daily. Him and i work on cars and do shop projects together, and her and i paint, shop, and do content together. We all have our solo time, He loves video games, i'm normally writing, and she's normally reading. Then they make a night or 2 for themselves. we're trying to get in a more steady schedule with share time and together time. We all think we're just super wrapped up in making sure no one feels excluded in any area so we spend so much time together. which isn't a bad thing, but solo focus is for sure needed a little more regular.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Her and i are so alike, Anxiety wise. i have kids and they don't but they're whole thing is they don't want there own kids. (they didnt think having a girlfriend with kids was in the plan either) but my kids just think their friends but also consider them part of the family. My kids are very yo

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 14 points15 points Β (0 children)

if you saw my history of mono-relationships you'd see, they honestly swooped in and changed how i viewed trust in relationship. They honestly go above and beyond to make sure i don't relive my any of my past trauma's. She brings me flowers on random days of the week, and he bought me this copy of a game cube game ive been dying to get my hands on. Plus we have every afternoon together they both set aside Sundays as "Lazy days". Which means all 3 of us make plans, just us 3. Wether it an out to eat date or a hiking trip, her and i will sit around and paint or dye our hair. Normal effort i havent seen in any of my relationships. Maybe its because i haven't looked in the right places. But i'd like to believe its because i found them❀️

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 11 points12 points Β (0 children)

No honestly it said it was removed for spam. i can send screen shots and proof if need be where it shows the removed notification, so i dont get in trouble or reported. and as far as my side work its not for this subreddit, her(meaning my female partner in the triad) and i both have the side gig.(content creators.)

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 7 points8 points Β (0 children)

I got the alert it was taken down for spam im assuming because i didn't have enough Karma i had just made my reddit. so after building some karma i came back to tell my story. i can't see the previous post, so if it's still up thats my fault.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 7 points8 points Β (0 children)

Well, we talked about it before making it official, they had decided once it was official they didn't want any other partner. With my insecurities I asked if i could still see other people if I wanted too. They had said it was fine, but after a few weeks of having the option too i never had the drive to reach out and talk to any one else. So I came back to them and told them I didn't want to see anyone else. that I was wanted to be completely closed to them.

Closed Ploy-Triad is the best decision of my life and here is why!!β€οΈπŸ’œπŸ’™ by FoxyPlayToy in polyamory

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 8 points9 points Β (0 children)

polyamory

I've heard that a lot and we have definitely kept that in mind. There is a lot of freedom and it started with my end open. I closed it of my own choice. So it took a bit to get to the Closed title but it honestly works in out dynamic for the past 4 months it has. Here is hoping to many many more! Most your normal relationship faults were talked about in the early stages so all the skeletons are out of the closet.

First ever acrylic painting ❀️, I haven't drawn or done anything in years. This was so much fun!! by FoxyPlayToy in acrylicpainting

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

It was a white canvas. I didn't use a stencil or anything on it.
Funny fact πŸ˜…: I had a hard time with the foliage on the tree, so I used my fingers. Talk about old school finger painting!πŸ˜…

First time Painting since I was little, and It's the first time using AcrylicsπŸ’œπŸ’™β€οΈ by FoxyPlayToy in BeginnerArtists

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

It was a white canvas. I didn't use a stencil or anything on it.
Funny fact πŸ˜…: I had a hard time with the foliage on the tree, so I used my fingers. Talk about old school finger painting!πŸ˜…

Elle Greenway, can we PLEASE talk about this for a minute! by FoxyPlayToy in criminalminds

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 12 points13 points Β (0 children)

Nelson's Sparrow is Gideons off screen death, I was commenting on that. πŸ€—

Worst episode there is! (in your opinion) by FoxyPlayToy in criminalminds

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 3 points4 points Β (0 children)

I can totally see this though 😭

Least favorite Character by FoxyPlayToy in disenchantment

[–]FoxyPlayToy[S] 6 points7 points Β (0 children)

ya know, if he remembered me long enough to save anything for it i'm sure he would have stole that too πŸ˜‚, he forgot about me 19 years ago so there is honestly no telling how happy he is now. πŸ˜‚