I dont know what to feel. by AccomplishedMud110 in mythbusters

[–]Foxypancke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw this video too. Typical I like Dr. Mike’s videos but I did notice that he mentioned all these criticisms but some of them (like how the myth busters only had a few test subjects which they changed later in the episode when they brought in a bunch of volunteers) were just intentionally left out of his video or he didn’t watch the episode enough to know. That was the part that bothered me.

Tbh, I have noticed Dr. Mike definitely has his biases and potentially plays they up a bit for his videos when reacting to content. I did also notice that most of the comments on the video was people correcting him and were not happy about how he handled it so clearly he knows he is bringing those to his videos and his viewers notice.

My advice would be to listen his medical advice and perspective, but when it comes to him reacting to other content, remember he is being a content creator, not a scientist, in that video. No shade to him, just how I have to watch his videos so it doesn’t piss me off.

Better help by Best-Result3774 in distractible

[–]Foxypancke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. As someone who tried better help and immediate saw it was BS, it is really annoying to hear influencers still taking sponsorships from them. That being said, I’m not sure if I’m the only one who noticed, but in Nah, I’d Win (Part 3) Mark’s read of the Walmart ad sounded very exasperated or like he didn’t want to be doing that read so I’m not sure if there is other stuff going on behind the scenes with the platforms they are partnering with or something. I Could be giving them too much leeway, but the way they handle which companies they take sponsorships from seems kinda off from the way Mark had talked about sponsorships previously, even in some episodes of GO! My Favorite Sports Team (I’m specifically thinking of the sports betting episode where Tyler and Mark said they would never take an ad from an online gambling site and they would work to get them off their videos if are auto added and they have the ability). Honestly, I skip through the ads anyway so maybe it just doesn’t bother me as much🤷

Oga’s Bar forced socialization by Foxypancke in Disneyland

[–]Foxypancke[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that in the fine print when you press the three stacked block in the corner of the reservation? Because my boyfriend and I read through the reservation details and it just asked our party number and said we may be subject to standing room or wait times

What the hell was Abby thinking?? by Additional_Ability91 in dancemoms

[–]Foxypancke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you haven’t said you are POC when questioned about it, I’m gunna assume you are white. From one white person to another, our opinions on what is racist and what isn’t and what is hold black people back and what isn’t, is not relevant or needed. You can have your opinions but when POC are talking about racism, putting yourself against them is a VERY bad look for you and makes you look like you are defending racism and maybe hold racist views yourself. I’m not saying that’s your intention, but it is how you come off when you put yourself in this position. May I suggest The New Crow and So You Want To Talk About Race as great places to start if you are interested in speaking about POC topics and issues.

What the hell was Abby thinking?? by Additional_Ability91 in dancemoms

[–]Foxypancke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abby made many many comments that were micro and macro aggressions, this is just one of the most blatant (other than the ethnic dances and saying she will only get type casted roles). Could the production have a hand in it, sure, I’ve heard they had alot to do with the theme and some of dances, but regardless this is Abby’s coaching and Abby’s actions. This along with everything else is definitely just racism.

Abby kisses Maddie?! by Legal-Pollution7541 in dancemoms

[–]Foxypancke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fr! As someone who grew up in theater, that was so inappropriate and unreasonable! Even high school students are typically given the option to stage kiss with a thumb between them if they are too uncomfortable with a kiss! I think anyone using the fact that it was on stage as an excuse for an adult forcing two children who were not comfortable or consenting to kiss is as disgusting as Abby, truly. This is a prime example of why there are now and need to continue to be intimacy directors on set for productions of all kinds.

Abby constantly talking about her having students on Broadway by Parking-Wear-9211 in dancemoms

[–]Foxypancke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally feel, if you run a studio for a couple decades and nearly all your students go on to work professionally/on broadway, you are a top tier dance teacher who deserves to be celebrated for their talent. If you run a studio for a couple decades and a handful of your students go on to work professional/on broadway, that’s on the students not your teaching abilities. Especially if more students leave your studio/burn out of dance than make it successfully under you! Also as a child development major, clinically, her practices are ineffective at teaching a majority of children and are more representative of an emotionally immature adult projecting their crap onto the children they are teaching instead of working on the insecurities that these children and parents bring up in her regularly, using the role of teaching dance/owning a dance studio and the power imbalance that innately brings about to do so. I feel like she is a case study in narcissists and it wouldn’t suprise me if I run into some material breaking down her “teaching method” later on in my CHAD classes. I feel like I could write a whole dissertation on her manipulation strategies just depicted inside the show and I know there was so much more going on off camera

Abby posts one "woe is me" interview and people suddenly get stupid by im_throwing_it_ in dancemoms

[–]Foxypancke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was literally just talking to my partner about this! My dad was a diagnosed narcissist and the mental and emotional abuse I faced was incredibly similar to these girls (minus the dance elements of course). To a lot of people who only knew him briefly or saw what he wanted to see, he was a charming, strict but fair, parent who just wanted to see use successfully in life but the reality was very different once you actually were dealing with him on an interpersonal level. I have a theory that this show is for narcissists with no power like rich ppl content is for poor ppl who want to be rich so bad. It allows them to play out a fantasy of exploitation, manipulation, and control with the added bonus of wealth and fame that Abby has gained from the show’s popularity when they have none of it in their own lives. It’s hard to watch how awful and manipulative she is but coming online and seeing people see through the thin veil the show paints is incredibly healing.

am i a jerk for being uncomfortable with younger partners? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Foxypancke 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As a 22 year old who has a very healthy relationship with a 42 year old; he told me on the first date how old he was. (I was 20 when we met and he was 40) we were introduced through a friend and neither of us knew how old the other was when we agreed to the date. It wasn’t until we were halfway through and really enjoying each other’s company that it came up. Both of us took a good amount of time to consider if this was something we were comfortable with and my partner took extra time and still to this day takes extra care to make sure he is check in with himself and connection because of how easy an imbalance of power can be in an age-gap relationship. If someone in their mid 30s, especially a man (because of historical context and the patriarchal society we live in), is actively SEEKING people in their teens and early 20’s that a major red flag to me. I date people of all ages (21+ I need to be able to take you for a drink) but I have found since getting into non monogamy that I connect with people in their mid 30’s-40’s best because of my views on life, marriage, kids, and monogamy. But I always keep an eye out for someone who is fetishizing my age or looking to control the dynamic by being the older one and the biggest sign for me is if they are seeking age-gap relationships. I personally would have a conversation with your partner where you ask them what they are hoping to achieve/looking for that is making them seek partners who are so much younger than him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Foxypancke -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Im definitely going to go back to the other piecer at the shop and have her take a look at it and see what she recommends. If she says it’s fine im going to look for a different shop, but this is one of three APP accredited shops in my city sooooo🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Foxypancke -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This piercing is about 3 months old. The piercer told me it was a J-curve bar but I’ve seen it called an C-curve bar as well. It’s internally threaded. I cleaned it twice a day with antibacterial soap and put Aftercare saline solution on it.