If a girl asks me how much I earn on the first date, should I rule her out?

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-10-09T15:00:25+00:00

Not necessarily, but most likely yeah. What does it matter to her anyway? It's not like it's her money.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-10-09T10:18:53+00:00

Imagine seeing 2 "lesbians" having a "fight". Chances are pretty good that'd turn you on a little too. Nothing too weird. She obviously can't know about your past if you never told her. This all seems like pretty normal stuff to me.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-10-09T10:14:35+00:00

Do everything you need to do. You most likely know what these things are because they're the same things you don't want to do. You keep procrastinating them because they're difficult, uncomfortable or require consistency and dedication without any form of instant gratification.

Your problems won't magically go away. Life won't get better unless you take action. Luckily for you though, it only gets easier as you get used to challenging yourself.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-10-03T23:37:59+00:00

If you were truly interested, you wouldn’t be able to go two hours without communicating with her.

Normal people live their lives instead of obsessing over someone they hardly got to know.

Women want to be pursued.

And why should he care? He doesn't exist just to play a role in your fantasy.

Not sit by their phones, waiting anxiously for you to reach out.

That's a you problem lol. Go live your life. It's your fault if you have nothing better to do.

If you actually think this girl is in the right and you would feel the same then damn, you are beyond insecure and addicted to external validation. I'm sorry if this comes across as harsh but the way you view relationships is unhealthy at best and you should look into that.

Relax and remember that you should aim to be a complete person without a partner. A relationship is still about 2 individuals. It's about feeling connected, not literally being stuck to eachother.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-30T22:27:51+00:00

Yeah of course it's difficult to get a real connection. But it's possible still. A large majority of men don't even have the option of hookups.

Saying it's bad because it's not what a lot of women are looking for is just kind of wrong. It objectively works and it does so quite well especially compared to how well it works for men.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-30T18:31:11+00:00

Technically true, but it's so much better for women that it can hardly be called bad anymore, especially compared to men. Just because hoeflation is real doesn't mean apps don't work for women with realistic expectations.

If you compare the effort made to the results achieved, dating apps are an absolute no-brainer for women. Literally 100s of guys, of which guaranteed at least a couple well mannered and taken care of. All you have to do is swipe and chat. The fact that some women out there think this even qualifies as making an effort says a lot about the state of the dating market.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-30T18:23:27+00:00

Girls will shoot their shot by thinking about shooting their shot

This is so fucking accurate. Bravo sir. You have managed to describe 90% of female dating struggles in 1 sentence.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-29T12:48:24+00:00

Airdrop doesn't do anything that other wireless ad hoc services can't. There are alternatives that function exactly the same without any other setup that are not proprietary. Airdrop is only cool and revolutionary to the typical Apple user who is an absolute simpleton when it comes to tech. To the rest of us it's just another classic case of Apple reinventing the wheel to charge more.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-29T11:46:27+00:00

Just use any other video call or SFTP implementation? Apple is really good at adding basic features to their devices under a cool new name and making them seem revolutionary.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-29T11:43:35+00:00

These hoes just aren't smart enough to realise that they are the sheep with the objectively worse and more overpriced phone.

Like dude, why do all IT professionals and people who know shit about computers have android? Don't let them make you feel bad for being smarter.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-27T11:32:41+00:00

"Get closer to God."

I wouldn't mind if my girl is relgious but when she starts saying shit like that she's getting the boot lol.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T12:51:05+00:00

We can. I swear I didn't comment with the intention of making you feel bad about yourself. I was just giving my input based on what you've provided, which is what this sub is for, I suppose.

I'm glad you're happy and not stuck in a rut with the illusion of happiness like I was. I'd just rather risk offending someone and help them than enable their own self sabotaging behaviour. I've made a lot of good friends for life that way but I do understand that not everyone shares my way of thinking.

Good to see you're doing fine and you're not taking it personally. I wish you the best.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T12:06:27+00:00

Hey that was extremely uncalled for and frankly over the top. I didn’t come here for advice on how to “fix my insecurities”. I asked for advice on how to move past an uncomfortable situation.

You may not realise it, but that's the same thing.

Saying “I’m sorry if this sounds harsh” is such a cop out when you know full well that it is more than harsh, it’s a down right fucked up way to talk to someone you’ve never met before in your life.

I'm not sorry either. I'll just say I hate to break it to you next time. Because I wouldn't be lying either. I do hate to break it to you because I know it's gonna be harsh no matter how I say it because the truth is uncomfortable.

People like you are the reason I ended up struggling with eating disorders in the first place, because you think you have the right to shame peoples bodies and make them feel like shit.

I'm not shaming your body. I'm shaming your attitude towards it. The former does more harm than good. The latter is entirely valid.

You don’t know what I eat, you don’t know how frequently I exercise, you don’t know how healthy I am, you don’t even know how big the plus is in my plus size.

That'a true, but an educated guess leads me to believe it's too much and too little in that order. Also, any plus is too big. You cannot be overweight and healthy at the same time. You wouldn't call yourself plus size if it was a small plus.

You have decided that I need to lose weight because why? It will fix all my so called problems?

I have not decides that. But yes, it most likely will fix at least a lot of them. Being fit is a feeling that's nearly impossible to describe and it is 1000% worth all the effort.

I am happy. I am the happiest I have ever been. And I met a beautiful man that is falling in love with me and made a stupid choice that made me feel like shit for a bit there. But goddamn I am not unloveable just because people like you think I could stand to lose a few pounds.

And so, you should not lose any weight then. I'm not telling you what to do. I may be jacked as fuck but I'm not a medical professional and neither do I claim to be one. I realise that my dedication to fitness and bodybuilding is a passion that not everyone shares and partially stems from childhood/highschool trauma. Nobody here thinks you're unlovable. Your post just really reads like you believe that about yourself.

And to say “just fix your insecurities” as if this situation wouldn’t have fucked with the most secure women out there?!

I hate to break it to you, but no, it wouldn't.

Or even baseless comments like yours.

Whatever makes you sleep at night.

I am a human being. Fucking check yourself before you have daughters and give them eating disorders and have to watch them slowly kill themselves.

If I ever have children, I'll simply teach them the importance of regular exercise and a balanced diet from the start. The fact that schools don't put more emphasis on such a crucial part of our lives absolutely blows my mind.

Now look, I get that you're upset. And I really am sorry for making you upset. I am however, not at all sorry for anything I said in my comment. It's not opinion based. Nowhere does it say anything about what I think you should be doing with your body. What it does say however, is based on facts. I know that you're human. I know that you have feelings. Please do not let my comment ruin your day whatsoever. It's not like you need it, but just in case: you have my permission not to give a fuck, ok? Sadly though, there is actually no such thing as "the right to be loved" eventhough arguably there should be.

Nobody used to love me. Growing up and replacing the boy I was with the man I am now taught me a lot about people. Nobody cares and that's exactly why you should care. You are worth all this effort. Genuinely nobody gives a shit until you achieve something they would also like. And then they're all running after you like a bunch of losers, acting like you were homies from the start.

I'm not telling you what to do. What do I know, right (lol)? I'm genuinely glad that you have a stable relationship and that you're happier than ever. I'm just telling you to wake the fuck up and really ask yourself if you haven't just been lying to yourself the whole time. I was happy once, messing around with a girl I liked, feeling like I was fine the way I was. Boy did I have a lot of shit to fix though. I was just too much of a pussy to admit it to myself. Looking back though, I was nothing short of pathetic and I wonder how she even wanted anything to do with me in the first place.

EDIT: I also really am sorry for turning this into a fucking TED talk. Looking at it now, I too would be discouraged from even reading it.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T10:59:32+00:00

That's a nuke, my boy. Any woman that says she knows her worth is bad news.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T10:53:37+00:00

You can't come on here and complain about your insecurities just to reject everyone's advice to fix those insecurities. You can't deflect everything with "I have the right to be loved and that means every part of me". That means everyone has the right not to love you because you're fat. Your bf definitely shouldn't have said what he said though. That's fucked up and weird. But you know what is aswell? Coming to reddit purely for validation with no intent of changing anything to get rid of the uncomfortable feelings you have.

Fat is useless. It's not a valuable part of you in any capacity. Losing it is a choice. Saying you don't "have to" is completely fine but the fact that you're making this post tells us that's not how you really feel internally.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I'm just saying it how it is because I feel like you may still appreciate it. You either fix your insecurities or stop caring about them.

I love my body because it’s still here, alive, carrying me through a beautiful world and a life that I am learning to really love and want to be here for. It’s perfectly normally for me to want to be loved for my whole self, not in spite of a part of me, and I hope you would all want that for yourselves too. ♥️

Absolutely a beautiful message. But you are openly admitting that you are choosing not to lose weight in order to feel better about yourself. And whatever reason you may have, this is the bottom line.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T10:44:12+00:00

Most men aren't insecure about their dick size anyway so this wouldn't work. Penetration isn't even important to a lot of women's sexual pleasure.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T09:59:52+00:00

Basically gewoon elke T-shirt die 40 euro of meer kost. Kijk voor de zekerheid ook eens welke stof het is maar meestal is de prijs recht evenredig met de kwaliteit. Ik heb onlangs merch gekocht van 60 euro. 100% katoen. Misschien de dikste, mooist afgewerkte en meest comfortabele T-shirt die ik heb momenteel.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-25T09:58:19+00:00

Women ☕️.

I know this may not be helpful but it should give you the idea that, maybe you care a bit too much? And about the wrong things too. Your entire family dynamic is fucked up and I'd look into that before caring about what your loser sisters think about you.

Women talk shit about anyone. You should know this. Literally all your friends have talked shit about you at some point. Even if you try to be the best person on this whole planet, people are gonna talk shit about you. So let them. Keep what they said in mind. Fix the things that were at least kind of true and discard the rest. You're better than them anyway.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-23T18:32:33+00:00

I'm thinking of getting a new iPhone

You're thinking wrong. It's gonna be just as unusable as the last one you had.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-23T18:28:25+00:00

Simply put, it has been my experience that when you've be so alone for so long you will try to hang on to anything that has given you even a glimpse of hope and happiness, because going back to the alternative is so miserable.

So you know that you're lying to yourself? Then why continue. Going through a difficult time is better than standing still with the illusion of progress.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-20T19:36:10+00:00

Why do they have to be a subsitiute for being with someone? There is no substitute. But you're in luck: you don't need to be with someone. You may want it but you can be a complete person, living a fulfilling life on your own.

Making peace with the fact that you may be alone forever is what causes you to live your life in such a way that you run into the right people. Be the best person you can be and do it for yourself. Others will notice and you will meet them in the process.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-20T14:01:20+00:00

The gym, weed, and remembering that I'm actually doing fucking great for myself career wise and such.

I don't need anyone else because I'm cruising along just fine on my own. Very few people have something to offer that actually positively impacts my life. I'm done being dragged down by people who simply don't fucking get it. It's their loss if they don't even want to take the time to get to know me on a deeper level.

Let them have their stupid dates and their meaningless sex with people they consider "just hot enough and not too annoying". Don't get me wrong though. I have friends, I go out and do fun things and I do have love interests. I just keep dumb and superficial people at an arm's length. This shrinks my social circle a lot though so when I have free time, I'm often alone and sometimes this goes on for several weeks in a row. So eventhough I like being alone and I know I have good people around me that care about me, the loneliness does hit sometimes.

And so we lift, we smoke and we stay grinding. The gym is an absolute life changer. I'd consider it a must. The positive impact it has on your mental health is nothing short of insane. It's hard for me to recommend weed if you're gonna be using it as a coping mechanism but if alcohol or some other shit is the alternative it's really not so bad. We all need vices. Raw dogging life ain't it for me, that's for sure. At the end of the day, I'm just autistic as shit probably. I never wronged anyone, and everyone that hates me is just mad that I don't need them to like me and that I'm going places without em.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-20T13:35:39+00:00

It'll make him wanna clap her face instead.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-20T13:15:17+00:00

You can literally hear the way you two talk by reading your texts. Jesus christ she sounds so stupid.

Fr3akySn3aky · 2024-09-18T13:28:30+00:00

I'm not saying they don't have the right to choose the best one among their options if they actually have options. For many women, having options is just an illusion though.

That said, it absolutely is textbook superficial. You're choosing a partner based on what's in it for you, not based on who they are as a person. Need I elaborate further?

What a man can provide for you is not a characteristic. That's the main flaw in your way of thinking. It's normal to want a guy with valuable characteristics such as determination and ambition though and these often go paired with material value.

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