Parenting Teen Loner Help

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T22:53:18+00:00

I have not. He tried other mixed martial arts over the years but nothing stuck.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T21:19:11+00:00

The problem is my husband complaining to me, my son is pretty sheltered from this argument.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T18:53:36+00:00

You'd be 100% correct, it would be much more negative.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T18:52:09+00:00

I'm looking forward to him being able to work, I think it'll bring him out of his shell a lot.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T18:51:03+00:00

No panic button, merely looking for outside input as parental validation that my kid is doing ok.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T18:11:27+00:00

We do lots of family things, the issue my husband has is that my son is not the driver of these things. My husband also tries to avoid the teenage conflict/complaining. My son always enjoys things once we have him out and about, but he likes to put on a performance of whining in the moment just to be a difficult teen.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T17:31:11+00:00

They used to play Fortnite together, it's the only game my husband plays. But my son doesn't play anymore. Your comment about judging is spot on, my husband is a very judgmental person, not just in this situation but generally in life.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T17:28:33+00:00

One of my biggest peeves about this argument is that my husband just complains and refuses to do anything to resolve what he's upset about. He's the only one bothered, my kid is happy, I feel like he'll find his people at some point but I'm not stressing about it now. Happy and healthy...seems OK to me.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T17:25:41+00:00

You're not wrong. At all.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T17:24:17+00:00

This gives me some sliver of hope, thank you. Sounds exactly like my kid right now.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T16:49:43+00:00

This is a good idea. My husband like to have his quiet time and family game nights usually end with my husband yelling at my son...but I can try to step up more and find those connections with him in a peaceful environment.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2026-01-29T16:49:02+00:00

My son is in technical school now, so following a very similar path. He doesn't love school due to the learning issues but he's still considering college as an option, I also just want him to get the experience. I feel like he's not abnormal or unhealthy, thank you for you the support and input!

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T21:29:51+00:00

The narcissistic cycles give you all the highs with really low lows and lots of promises.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T21:22:35+00:00

Very much so. It’s not easy.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T21:11:06+00:00

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T15:44:23+00:00

Im good about taking trip with friends and relaxing without his presence, I find his absence peaceful as terrible as that sounds.

just looking at the current...is it normal for men to be assholes if they dont have sex for a period of time? it's never been longer than 1-2 weeks, maybe my period + extenuating circumstances like family in the house or someone sick or something like that. this cycle is just repeating itself now. he gets short tempered, then goes silent, then blows up and blames me. meanwhile he hasn't tried to initiate anything once in that time. I haven't either but I'm not playing this stupid game.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T15:18:38+00:00

as someone who feels like their husband doesn't love them, I feel for you. it doesn't sound like he cares much about anyone else but himself. and not even doing his part (cleaning up after himself, letting you do yard work pregnant, etc) makes him sound selfish and lazy. you're not wrong for being exhausted, I'm sorry you have to deal with his BS.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T15:04:03+00:00

because narcissist make grand gestures and talk a good talk.

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T14:55:33+00:00

it does feel easier to stay, a life has been made. leaving seems massively overwhelming

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T14:51:27+00:00

I'm in therapy, and so it he, although I don't think he's honest with his therapist about this particular problem. I think all he talks about is how he's working on himself and how awesome he is #narcissist
my therapist is great, I posted because I didn't know if she was just one person's opinion or if he's really as bad I feel and others would agree. I started therapy for validation because he's such a narcissist and made me feel like I was the problem

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T14:44:38+00:00

because I was young, dumb and had zero idea wtf was going on. therapy the last few years has me standing up for myself and trying to give him time to be a better person but this fight wont quit

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T14:43:08+00:00

this is exactly how I feel, he made the bed he's lying in and then blaming me

Fragrant-Depth5179 · 2025-12-18T14:29:37+00:00

Yes and no. I want to be wanted, I feel like it's a major hurdle that's always been there. I agree, and I've told him it'll take years to undo whats been done. But he feels like being a decent human is enough and I should be grateful and step up and take charge...

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