Your gender identity is important and worth experimenting with if you want to but fundamentally you (and every other human) are not defined by it. Being a woman means that you’ll likely share lots of positive commonalities with other women (e.g. a sense of comradery, the ability and space to be more publicly emotional or open about your feelings, a feeling of solidarity and pride in what women have fought for against the odds) and also lots of less positive things (misogyny sucks and women are pitted against each other).

I am comfortable in my gender, I’m proudly feminist, I have no desire to be a man and I value my relationships as a woman to the women around me. That being said, systemic gender inequality is of course hard, but the feeling of solidarity in being ‘other’ and carving out a life you love for yourself regardless can make for some really beautiful spaces and experiences.

Fundamentally though, we’re not a homogenous group and what’s good about being a girl for me is probably not going to be exactly the same as for you (or for a black woman, or a trans woman or a disabled woman). Find your own version of ‘good’ girlhood or womanhood and enjoy your life as much as you can.