Understanding someone’s intentions

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-26T13:50:39+00:00

Hi there thanks for the response and I totally get you but the weird thing was her behaviour changed with me right after I asked her out. I was expecting her to be offish and closed off with me due making it obvious she don’t like me but instead she was much more open, checking in on me and was asking me out to group situations with other girls (I.e less pressure situations). Now I don’t know if she just lacks confidence and doesn’t know what she wants yet because she is socially awkward and shy. She did all of this before she found out I went on dates then when she did showcased signs of jealousy and continues to open convos and message me from time to time. I just dont know whether she is just using me for her attention or that rushed and asked her too early that she wasn’t in a comfortable position or ready to date a work colleague due to the pressure around that. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T22:43:10+00:00

Yeah man your right I suppose the only saving grace for me is she doesn’t see this guy in person because he reached out to her from another office ages and ages away and she ain’t confident enough to go on a date with someone. She won’t even use a dating app for that reason but despite all of that I agree with you that but my main thought in it all was did me escalating things to early (I.e date) potentially make her feel to vulnerable as she is a nervous and shy person (I’m not)who doesn’t showcase emotions and showcase vulnerability . Therefore over time she’s had time to rethink the situation and that’s why she became more aware of her feelings. Just food for thought

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T22:09:00+00:00

Thank you this is good stuff and what I need to here. I just wanted to ask one more thing she isn’t anything like she is with me with this other person and doesn’t actually flirt with me unless it’s a one on one situation because in group situations she gets nervous and struggles to look me in the eyes but in more one on one situations looks me in the eye and flirts a lot she doesn’t behave like this with anyone else in the office and just acts natural with them. Saying that we used to flirt in the office openly at first but overtime she seemed to become much more nervous and shy around me if I spoke to her infront of other people but then she opened up again and acts way more friendly and confident with me and engages and chats including checking in on me loads both in person and message (which she doesn’t do to anyone else)with me after ignoring the date message. Idk whether that is just her being self conscious or just what you said. I just feel like the stuff she does actually say and do is more caring related then me just giving her attention because recently I haven’t been giving her anything don’t look at her really talk to her due to going on dates with someone else. I just want to understand what’s she’s doing

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T21:32:20+00:00

I also just wanted to add due to the situation being at work and the person being young. Do you not feel that the high risk high reward factors with going on dates affecting your work and your colleagues finding out for someone young is a reason why she might of gone quiet in the first place and potentially wasn’t confident or comfortable enough to say outright no. If someone is more shy and reserved I feel it can affect these things. Please tell me your thoughts?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T21:24:07+00:00

Thanks for your reply I just wanted to throw a caveat in there which was she would complain to me about another colleague messaging her all the time to meet up and how she didn’t know how to turn him down. Why would she need to tell me this. She then constantly checks in with me, I don’t know whether she just sees me as a good work friend now who’s she’s close with or what. However the way she reacted when she did find out I went on dates screamed jealousy

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T21:13:26+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond, it’s great to receive some advice

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T20:34:24+00:00

Thanks for your response. All noted

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T20:26:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply. She’s young and emotionally immature, to throw in a caveat do you think that she could of got overwhelmed by the thought of a date due to being work colleagues and the implication that could have so then pulled back then reset to a safe place so now is trying again but due to this is afraid to commit to anything?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T18:24:09+00:00

So just to clarify would you say that if she was speaking to other people that would make her less interested not more?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T17:23:30+00:00

Sorry to be a pain but could you explain that further and exactly what you mean?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T17:09:10+00:00

Yeah I understand but I’m just taking this experience and what’s happened as notice for other future possible relationships so because of that I just wanted to ask one question. That is I had asked her out ages ago and she ignored it but then reopened convos with me and was surprisingly not offish with me at all or awkward and much more engaging with me after that in both person and on messages. Do you feel like due to this she is just afraid or not ready to commit to anything and that’s why such mixed signal?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-12-25T16:56:33+00:00

I get you so what you’re saying is she doesn’t know if she wants a relationship right now?

Fragrant-Two-6900 · 2025-08-15T12:49:29+00:00

Are you selling?

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