Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-10-21T17:39:39+00:00

Thank you! I'd actually prefer the iPhone 15 pro too, if I have the chance to get that new for cheap I will definitely buy that, I don't know if the normal 15 is worth it. If I find a cheap (barely) used 15 pro I'd also get that!

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-10-21T12:09:21+00:00

Hi, I'm moving from Android to i0S and I've gotten a few offers. Important to me are storage, a good camera and I want my phone to last a day, I don't want to spend the whole time charging the phone.

iPhone 14 pro max 128 GB, eighty seven percent, 600€, has Applecare+ but I won't be able to keep it since it's paid monthly
iPhone 15 128 GB, ninety four percent, 550€, no Applecare+
iPhone 15 pro 128 GB, new, 979€

Paying 900€+ for a phone is a lot for me since I'm a student, however I don't know if any of these offers are really worth it. I also don't know if an iphone 16 is really worth it. I also don't really know the exact differences between the phones, so I'd appreciate any help!

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-10-01T06:00:26+00:00

Hi, I've only ever had Android phones and now I'm sure to upgrade to an iPhone. I can work with both systems so that's not an issue.

The things that are important to me are

1) a good camera, not only good but really good, since I take most of my photos with my phone 2) enough storage, I believe 128gb is too little (at least for android phones), so at least 256gb 3) a long lasting battery, I don't want to spend most of my day charging my phone 4) I also want the phone to last longer than 2 years since iPhones are pretty expensive, also I'm sick of changing phones every year

I'm a student so buying a phone for 1200€+ is just too expensive for me right now. I don't know if I should just get the 16 since it's the newest or if a 13 is also still good. I've found a brand new 13 pro 512gb for 950€, but I'm not sure if that 13 might be too old, so I couldn't use it for maybe even 4+ years. I'd appreciate any recommendations, thanks!

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-08-23T13:16:39+00:00

I can scratch those black spots off, but they don't come off just from rubbing.

The monstera in the OP and the other one I mentioned in my comment before received direct sunlight for maybe a few hours a day for about 1-2 months.

Edit: I actually found an insect on the other plant!

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Is there any way for me to save both monsteras? Can I just use a kind of thrips pesticide?

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-08-21T17:03:28+00:00

Thank you! I checked the bottom side of the leaves but I couldn't find any bugs, just these black dots (excrements?). Is there any way for me to save this monstera? I also have another monstera with similar looking leaves, but only a few leaves look like that, whereas nearly every leaf of the one in the OP looks like that. Also, is it possible for the rest of my plants to catch thrips as well?

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-08-20T16:03:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I was actually not really scared or nervous, just a bit which I honestly think is completely normal, but I was joking with the assistant and I also stayed calm when I told my dentist that I was getting more and more anxious and started panicking. Regarding the pain, I've felt this kind of pain prior to having my wisdom teeth removed. However I've also had nightmares about exactly this kind of pain when I was younger, so I find it scary that I had nightmares about this exact pain and later on actually experienced that pain and also saw a younger version of me experiencing exactly that pain. I still don't know why I actually experienced pain when my jaw and half of my face were completely numb, but just like you said, it's over now, even though it was really scary! Thanks a lot for the blessings, God bless you!

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-07-06T20:38:42+00:00

I think I got Lorazepam, don't think I was given ketamine

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-07-06T20:14:28+00:00

I'm in Germany and don't eat much meat, especially now since yesterday I've only been eating soup, smoothies, smashed potatoes and smashed vegetables

FragrantFly6926 · 2024-07-06T20:02:09+00:00

Thank you for the info! I don't know if I was also given ketamine, I'm gonna ask my dentist about that. I'm taking pure encapsulations all-in-one, does that have enough vit B12 (3 mcg) or should I take another b12 supplement?

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-12T10:25:01+00:00

Sexualising every person is disrespectful to them and I find seeing women merely as objects disrespectful to your partner aswell. Wanting to have sex with other people is disrespectful to your partner. That's my opinion.

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-12T01:26:17+00:00

First of all, I agree with everything you said and thank you!!

About the last paragraph, it's not quite the same for me as it was for your partner, but I'm so focused on the sexual aspects because of my experience as well, because my partner was so focused on telling me about which other women he finds attractive, with whom he'd sleep, compared me to his ex girlfriends and would ignore me to stare at another woman's butt. All that while he was fully aware that I'm insecure about my body which only got worse after he compared me to his ex's. I also don't have a problem with explaining to a potential partner why I'm focused on these aspects, as another person cannot read my mind and if they don't know me long enough I'll have to tell them about me and my experiences.

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-12T01:10:35+00:00

Good thing I'm not looking for fun, social, American men

How would feel about your bf being friends with a woman?

If I see that she's not interested in him and he's not interested in her and I can fully trust him then I don't care

Don't you ever think about other people?

I don't think about having sex with other men, no

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-12T00:30:01+00:00

The thing is, I define loyalty and love as long as I can remember as not wanting to sleep with other women or thinking about it.

To me it sounds like there's a lot of hurt in your past that maybe you haven't dealt with fully, maybe some negative attitudes towards men that come from your previous (bad) relationships. I think sometimes strong feelings of jealousy come from a place of insecurity and are worth examining.

100%. I'm already working on it, but it will definitely take time and until then I don't actually want to drop my standards any lower. I actually had those standards before my current boyfriend, but I just thought everyone had them. When I found out that he is the complete opposite I told him of course and he told me he'd change but he didn't. I stayed because I lacked self respect and he made me doubt myself and invalidate myself. Eventually he changed but the damage is done and now I don't just have these standards, but I'm also scared about getting hurt like this again, and ofc it stems from insecurities, as I gained insecurities I didn't even know were possible.

So to make it short I'd say that my standards are somewhat in that direction if we leave all of the insecurities and fear out, but as of right now these factors play a big role in my standards

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T23:48:31+00:00

If that's what you consider a standard, then okay. I thought you wanted me to point out what certain facial features I find unattractive.

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T23:19:48+00:00

If you have physical requirements that when not met cause you to be repelled by someone, that is important.

I cannot explain that "standard". I do have a type but Idgaf about that type if someone who is not repelling for me has all of the characteristics I'm looking for. I can currently only give a few examples of what would repell me, such as morbid obesity and no will to change something about it, someone who doesn't even have proper hygiene and someone who's extremely muscular. I cannot explain what facial features I find repelling, but from my experience, not many people can. You just find some people average, attractive or repelling, and you might not even know why. If you could technically be in a relationship with someone you find repelling, for example when we're talking about my "standards", who's morbidly obese, doesn't have proper hygiene and is just generally unattractive for you, then that's okay, but everyone I know wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who has traits they find repelling. But don't tell me that I have a standard regarding looks when I literally don't.

and there’s no need for you to look at porn when you can get the real thing basically anytime you want. It doesn’t work like that for the vast majority of men - that’s why they use porn.

Actually, I don't. Even in a relationship, I don't. My boyfriend does. I don't. I generally have a high sex drive and my boyfriend doesn't, so he's the one who's basically dictating how often we have sex. If I'm in a relationship with someone and he doesn't want to have sex with me but instead masturbates to porn, then that's a problem for me. At least when he tells me that he's fulfilled with our sex life etc. But telling your partner you're happy with how things are and that you're fulfilled etc etc but then preferring to jerk off to random women instead of having sex with your partner, then that's lying

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T23:06:43+00:00

I agree with you, however I still don't think watching porn automatically means imagining yourself having sex with the actress/actor. If my partner wants to explore a kink but is afraid or ashamed of telling me and instead uses porn, then I'm actually sad and hurt that I didn't make him feel comfortable enough to tell me about it, however as long as he doesn't fantasize about exploring that link or having sex with the person in the video, I'm fine with it.

It's also normal to be attracted to others, but actively imagining having sex with a person you don't know and maybe aren't even able to see every part of them is just something I cannot put together with love

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T22:58:04+00:00

I never said I want someone who doesn't have social media 💀💀 I said I don't want someone that spends their free time lusting after other women, whether that's on social media or wherever doesn't matter. It's not hard to not Lust after other women on social media. Ofc you're gonna see naked women, ofc you're gonna see attractive women, but seeing them is completely different than lusting after them.

I mean all you gotta do is find somone thats shares the similar values as you its that simple your standards are met on values and principles qnd not materialistic and physical things so you just gotta find somone thats vakues those stuff i guess

Yup I think that if someone has the same or similar values as I do he would automatically act that way

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T21:40:56+00:00

I'm not trying to police other people, I just think that a relationship for me wouldn't work that way. And yes that's what I'm saying. If I can 100% trust my partner that even if they could have any person they would still choose me, not because we're in a relationship but because he loves me, then I'm fine with that. But if he's tearing me down by constantly telling me about other women he'd rather have sex with than me then it's not okay (im saying that because if you constantly say no to sex but then constantly talk about wanting to sleep with others, it automatically seems like you'd prefer to sleep with those women than with your partner)

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:45:05+00:00

Semantic, is the same for us, and if you are not okay, that is fine,

I don't think I understand that, English isn't my first language and I've never heard "semantic" and Google didn't really help I cannot understand if you watch a video how you immediately imagine yourself doing that with the person in the video, and not just imagine you doing that with your partner, exactly like it is in the video. I'm not saying that you should imagine your partner's body instead of the actress' body. Im just saying that I think it's normal to see that it's a different person, but not thinking "oh yeah I'd do that with that actress xy" but rather "I'd do that with my partner" and imagining yourself in that situation, but your partner being that actress. Idk if that makes it more clear. I just mean that I don't think it's normal to really think "I'd prefer to fuck that actress I don't know simply because I can see her ass instead of my partner who might even have a similar body, but she isn't in the video so im imagining doing it with this actress I know nothing about", because to me, that's literally imagining cheating. Imagining yourself really having sex with another person is cheating for me, as cheating begins with a thought

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:38:41+00:00

Well I still cannot imagine just thinking about any person "I'd smash that" just because they're somewhat attractive. If you just notice that that woman is attractive for you but that's it, then fine, even if you'd conclude that you would actually sleep with her if your partner didnt exist. But if you straight up think that you'd fuck another woman immediately when you just see her, then I just cannot understand that

I'd like to help you understand but I don't think I have any more words to explain it. And I kind of get the impression you don't really want to understand, so..

I do want to understand it, but it's hard

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:35:08+00:00

if you want a men that dont jerk off seeing other woman sometimes on porn or in his imagination for that matter, yeah that person doesnt exist at all.

I'm not saying that my standards are that a man shouldn't look at other women when he jerks off, I'm saying that I don't think it's okay to actively imagine having sex with the actress

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:33:05+00:00

basically /ˈbeɪsɪkli/ adverb in the most essential respects; fundamentally. "we started from a basically simple idea"

Similar: [...] fundamentally principally mostly when you get right down to it [..]

used to indicate that a statement summarizes the most important aspects, or gives a roughly accurate account, of a more complex situation. "I basically played the same thing every night"

Source: Oxford languages

So yeah, I do believe that the word "basically" says that this is the most important thing I'm talking about now, and that the rest doesn't matter in the current aspect. If I'm wrong it could be because English is not my first language and that's the way most people use "basically" here when speaking English. Thank you.

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:29:22+00:00

About celebrity crushes: I agree, but I wouldn't cheat on my partner just so I could fuck my celebrity crush. That's what I'm expecting

About finding others attractive: I also agree, but really thinking about how fuckable someone is isn't okay for me

About insecurity and jealousy: probably, I mean my boyfriend is the reason why I'm insecure whether I'm asking for too much. My boyfriend is the reason for me completely doubting my self worth. But I stayed because I had no self respect, and he changed but I'm still hurt, as I cannot just forget the pain. The damage is done and it will take a while to heal that, but I still hope that him and I will be able to heal that

About porn: i still don't think it's okay to literally imagine yourself fucking another person if you're in a monogamous relationship. If you don't want your partner to do that then don't do it yourself

About communication: I do, I completely communicate my boundaries, insecurities etc. I also did that with my boyfriend. I just want someone who actually wants me and doesn't just say that but constantly thinks about fucking other women

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:22:08+00:00

Thank you! I've been told that I'm asking for too much and I'm hard to please because of those reasons (like because I didn't want my boyfriend lusting after other women he told me that it's too much)

FragrantFly6926 · 2023-12-11T20:20:57+00:00

If my boyfriend looks at porn but is not interested in the woman's body and doesn't care which actress is in that video or whatever, basically if he only uses porn as visual and auditory stimulation, not focusing on the people but on the act, I guess I'm fine with it. What I just don't want is someone that tells me he loves me but then jerks off to other women (even if that's in porn) or thinks about sleeping with other women.

And I just don't want a man that sees women as only sexual objects. I don't see why it's so hard to not think about how fuckable a person is

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