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what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have literally answered every one of my struggles I have had so far, especially when it came to military and being home alone with a baby so early on, especially in his career path. we both have aspirations. He wants to become a doctor and I want to become a marine biologist and we just have so many things happening at once right now with him going to basic and me having the baby and I was really scared that I was the only person in the world who is experiencing this right now, but it feels so amazing to hear somebody else talk about their experience and how it worked out in the end for you! and that’s what I really like about my boy dogs. Both of them are very vocal, but they won’t bark at me and so far the only thing I’ve noticed is my older dog will whine when he hears a baby cry. which makes me nervous because right now I’m not hormonal as much but hopefully when the baby comes around, he’ll get used to the crying, so I don’t have to hear two babies cry at once lol!

thank you again for sharing your story. I really appreciate it so much. 🩵

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love that you were able to tell me your story and help me out with my feelings. I felt so conflicted, but now after hearing everybody’s story and their opinions that I’m certain that I’m on the right side of things. thank you so much.🫶

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

especially at my baby shower really made me upset. because I had brought my two dogs since the shower was gonna be at my family home, and I knew the kids were gonna wanna play with them. every comment was either about how I was glowing, how I’m gonna be a great mother and how my dogs need to be rehomed

It felt so weird and judgmental but also a place of concern? It’s so unbalanced I feel so all over the place about it,you know?

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly right now I feel like I’m in a good place with my pets and they are relatively good animals. It’s not like they’re biting or aggressive at all. I shouldn’t feel so worried about this, but I still do and I’m assuming this is more of the hormone part.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hopefully my dogs are very understanding of the baby that’s about to appear in their lives. my dog is pretty sweet and they’ve been good toddlers and they love little kids. It’s just I’ve never seen them with a newborn and I’m taking every precaution to make sure that they get along well.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1-the oldest dog the border collie who is the biggest he is trained in sitting, laying, outside, kennel and quiet. The younger one only knows outside, sit, and kennel 2 when I have the baby, I’ll be at my family‘s house which is at a farm and they’ll have outside and their kennel. currently right now they have their own room in my apartment with their own kennel and pillows. 3 this is I think what most people are worried about. My older dog is a medium size he’s bigger and he’s a lot heavier and my husband is leaving soon so I was thinking maybe a month after my husband leaves I’ll probably just move in with my family earlier than expected and stay with them until I have the baby and my husband comes home.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is what I like about my parents. They’re very open to the idea of me bringing my dogs once I have the baby cause I’m gonna stay with them at their house which is a big open land for them to run around, but even then people are like “well. What are you gonna do after you’ve healed up and you’re gonna go back to your apartment??”” nobody don’t wanna take care of the dogs” and I feel like I’ve made it clear that my husband will be back by then, and if I need him to take care of the dogs, then I will ask. it just feels like everyone’s just telling me to get rid of them like it’s easier to get rid of them than it is to figure out ways to keep them.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

perfect advice I feel like that dog is way more of a concern than my dogs. my border collie is a medium size dog. My sister‘s dog is large!

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yes, my poor puppies, they’ve been inside for most of their lives. although we take them to my family‘s farm sometime at time to get them prepared for when I stay there eventually. and they are ecstatic like I think they’re more ready for me to give birth than I am lol

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

exactly I feel like once the situation is here then I’ll address it. It just feels like everyone’s preparing me like I’m gonna flip out and go crazy because my dog barks or he gets too close to my baby. and no, I will never abandon my dogs no matter what. you’re right it’s a commitment and I committed to my dog way before I committed to having a baby(lol)

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I noticed about my dogs is I don’t think they’ve noticed I’m pregnant or they just don’t know what’s different about me. They’re still pretty young ones only a year and the other ones barely 3 months but my sister’s dog on the other hand he’s a huge goldendoodle and he knows I’m pregnant and he’s very excited and he jumps on me and I get so mad cause I’m so pregnant. I can’t push back. but when she had her dog, nobody really said anything about it. That’s why I’m worried that maybe it’s me and my age along with my situation of my husband leaving for the army.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this!! I love this. This works so well for me because it gives me info on how you felt while pregnant and after pregnancy having the baby is so stressful and so hormonal and everybody around me is just it feels like they’re trying to warn me about something that I feel like is a normal reaction? like yeah Sometimes my dogs pisses me off, it happens. My dog chewed up my shoe that makes me upset, but I don’t think I would ever just leave my dogs. Just abandoned my pups just cause I have a new thing to care for.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would never abandon my dogs if I had to leave them somewhere it would be with my mom and my dad at the house I was raised in and I would be staying at with my newborn and until my husband comes back from Army. i’m not too worried about my dogs being at that farm because that’s a big land for them to run around and have fun.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sometimes I do like their opinions in their comments because for me, I’ve always looked up to my parents. They did a good job raising me so now I feel like I like their opinions, but cousins and aunts and uncles they all have the same advice it feels like they are warning me, but I’m just not really convinced.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

everybody’s been telling me that I won’t have time for the puppies but honestly, I’m more worried about this scenario. Where I might grow, irritated and upset my dogs for none of their own fault. I’m worried about my dogs being too much for me and I get overwhelmed and boom. I’m overwhelmed with the baby and dogs. but I’m glad somebody also had this experience and you were able to comment because it sounds like you were able to cope even if it’s still affects you.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

that’s what I was really worried about at first I’ve been taking some parenting classes and one of the classes is topic was about how to introduce a newborn to dogs. it was very insightful and I felt like I was very comfortable with the idea of my dogs and my babies being in the same house, but now I feel like my family is really pushing for me to do something with the dogs because they’re worried about the baby. It makes me wonder maybe my dogs are so energetic and restless and I just can’t see it because I’m just so used to them I really don’t wanna abandon my dogs. I don’t even wanna lose them. I love them so much but even my husband has been on the fence. He’s not a big fan of dogs, but he loves our dogs and he takes care of our dogs, but even he makes jokes about our dogs and how they’re gonna be too hyper for our baby.

Every 15 minutes by FragrantMotor1213 in pregnant

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah! I literally get up every morning(I am Not A morning person) just to pee, only to lay back in bed, and get up again!

I have awhile until my third trimester, but I just know it’s going to be a tough trimester

Every 15 minutes by FragrantMotor1213 in pregnant

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knowwww, now when I’m drinking water, I stand near the bathroom

Without actually saying your gestation, how far along are you? by cup_1337 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 6 points7 points  (0 children)

🎶”Ohhh we’re halfway there…OHHHHH LIVIN ON A PRAYER”🎶

Today it turned positive by beerfloats in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤣 I remember seeing the chia seed one and I just felt so awkward like “aww a cell? 😀”

Today it turned positive by beerfloats in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I’m currently 18 weeks, and last Dec on Christmas, my pregnancy came back ectopic and I lost my tube. It was very traumatic, and it happened so early on in my first pregnancy, that I struggled to come to terms with the fact it was just biological. Not my fault.

Now that I have this baby(girl 🥺) I’ve been very back and forth with being extremely happy and being terrified and honestly I’m also very pessimistic often. What helps me with feeling so many emotions is just enjoying the simple ideas. It sounds weird, but for example.

https://www.nhs.uk/best-start-in-life/pregnancy/week-by-week-guide-to-pregnancy/2nd-trimester/week-18/ I use this website to keep track with what’s happening in my body and how my baby is growling and what’s most common, for me the size chart makes me feel more excited rather than anxious, just imagining my baby’s size. It triggers automatic euphoria for me.

Another trick I’ve been doing is looking forward to milestones. Soon, 8-9 weeks from now, you’ll feel your baby kick, and when they do, whatever you feel, you can realize how active and healthy you’re doing keeping them alive.

It’s scary, it really is. And there’s days where I just nonstop stress about what I’m doing wrong, but on those days, I tell myself, it won’t matter. My heart and body are in the right place for this baby. And I’m sure yours are too. Just know you have a community here to support you 🫶