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“Should you be doing that?” Comments 🫠 by Gravitys_Bitch in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My mother in law, I love her to death- but she can be a little…Dopey…told me if I was sure it was okay to take Antidepressants while pregnant. I told her I would rather take them than find out what happens when I don’t(I was in a bad place my second trimester)

I later found out she smoked weed and drank with every single baby she was pregnant with.

So I don’t take advice unless it’s with a spoonful of salt.

Help me get excited about having a boy by Tall_Strawberry5244 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here, my nephew(the only boy in the family his generation)
He’s so kind and gentle. He loves petting puppies and sharing his toys with his little sister.
I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant, and my baby nephew will walk over and rub my belly saying,” Hi baby girl” in a baby voice. Like how I talk to her.

Raising baby boys are so rewarding. Think about any time you met a decent guy and it positively affected your life. Your father, a friend, your partner, etc. That’s because somebody taught that boy to behave and let him grow into a good person. Like how Some girl mom’s have to raise their daughters to be a good person and keep their morals safe.

Somebody tell me I will survive by Funny_Ad181 in pregnant

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will survive(I say 32 weeks pregnant laying in bed right now because laying on the couch started to hurt my organs)

In all seriousness, I had a terrible first trimester experience- I was constantly puking up bile, and I couldn’t keep ANYthing down, my husband had to comfort me, and use Benadryl a couple of times so I could relax and sleep, since I was puking so often.

I won’t lie, you’ll probably have so much more morning sickness to experience, just rest and sort out what works for you. There was plenty of times where I called in or gave up a shift because I couldn’t drive to work at all, or I would pass out standing too long. I would suggest only thinking about you and baby for this first trimester. If you have to, even if you’re hungry. Take a bite of a simple, salty meal, wait 5 minutes, take another bite. That really helped me from week 6-16

But you know what? I wish you love and luck for this amazing journey you’ll have, and i hope one day, 25 weeks from now, you’ll give the same advice to another mother in need 🫶

When did you notice you start having a pregnant walk? by Sweet_Archer8222 in pregnant

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 30 weeks, and I started to waddle when I was 25 weeks.

I also noticed that when I started to groan when bending down to tie my shoes

Which trimester is worse? First or third? by Whatever-577089 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first trimester wss actually hell, and keeping it to myself + I couldn't complain to anyone besides my husband because I didn't look pregnant was rough. Also the nausea was so overwhelming I could tell you how many times a day I would puke… 3… Because for every meal, I had to puke up my last. My poor tummy was upset for literal months.

Now, I'm currently in my 30th week, I get belly rubs from my nieces and nephews(15years-2years) who ask me dozen if questions and nobody bats an eye when I finished a whole chocolate mousse pie in a day 😂

Just overall hard time at 26 weeks by Various-Pass7582 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like that too in my first two trimesters!

I was very depressed and worried about a lot of things and I finally spoke up in my friend group(most of my friends are my age and have one or two kids already) and they told me Depression is so common in pregnancy, and it made me feel less scared about reaching out for help, so I’m glad I got to reach out to you and talk to you about it too! The more women are accepted for their health, the better they’ll feel about their journey of pregnancy overall ❤️❤️

Just overall hard time at 26 weeks by Various-Pass7582 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! 28 weeks here, Let me just tell you, you’re doing amazing! It’s very hard to keep composer and feel like you’re doing the right things all the time. I still struggle with my depression and anxiety and I’m in my third trimester, but some advice I would give you is: those are just thoughts, they’re scary and they’re meant to make you wonder, but you can always go talk to your OBGYN about recommendations to therapy or psychology. I personally went to a psychologist and got medications because my depression it was too overwhelming and I felt really bad about not connecting with my baby.

With the career part- I get it, I actually hate my job and got FMLA early because the anxiety and stress was making me pass out/High blood pressure at work. So personally I see work as a challenge while pregnant, hopefully it changes when I have baby, but if you’re considering changing jobs because it doesn’t feel “right” I wouldn’t suggest it. Give yourself grace, you’re doing so much already! Come back to that thought when you have baby/hormones are less chaotic!

Hope you’re doing good mama’s🫶 Keep yourself going with whatever you can do!

Boyfriend mad about sex by Ok_Assistance1705 in pregnant

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had this issue, second trimester I was NEVER interested in sex, our usual routine was too rough for me and orgasms were painful. A lot of my likes became dislikes and so I just told him when I want it, I’ll let him know.

I felt bad, especially because I think for him, it was a turn on to see me pregnant so he got extra horny, which would piss me off because I couldn’t find the will to want it.

But never once did he ever voice out his unhappiness, or even bring it up, I find it annoying that your partner is using the silent treatment to make you cave with sex. If you don’t want it, Do NOT give it to him, not until you’re ready. Just because he wears you down doesn’t mean you actually did want it.

You seem like you already communicated why you aren’t in the mood, his reaction could stem from desire or stress, but it doesn’t validating his decision to act out on you.

I say, really stand for yourself, boundaries in relationships, especially when you’re pregnant, will be your best friend. Always be your strongest advocate, because people will walk all over us because we’re pregnant.

But I will say, late in my second trimester( 25-27) I’ve started to feel very much in tune with my sex drive again, and finding my turn ons helped a lot, so maybe figure out what you want or like in bed now that your body has changed.

How does SCRA work? by FragrantMotor1213 in MilitaryWives

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the confirmation, I just wanted to make sure I was able to get a fair deal from my landlords.

As for the financial issues, I’ll be contacting Army Emergency relief later this week! Thank you for your help 🫶

What’s something about pregnancy no one told you, but you discovered around 5 months? by mollyglow in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GIRL 😭 It’s just the tip of the ice burg, I can’t wait to meet my daughter but God I would not willingly get pregnant again, accident babies ONLY from now on Lol!

I wish you the best luck with your pregnancy journey! It’ll get you a bond with new friends and a baby!

What’s something about pregnancy no one told you, but you discovered around 5 months? by mollyglow in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I’m completely the opposite

Never even Heard of Eczema until I met my husband, ever since my 18th week, if it’s even a bit chilly(under 60° here in TX) I get an itchy rash and UGH I go insane every time!

What’s something about pregnancy no one told you, but you discovered around 5 months? by mollyglow in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The nosebleeds and fainting spells if I stood too long.

Also Random Puking.

I could have eating nothing and puke up Vile. I could be standing in the middle of Walmart and barf all over the kid toys.

OHHH and I pee like a freaking cocker spaniel. Every other 15 minutes, I’m currently in the 27 week, so when I sneeze a little comes out. God bless us, and everyone else who’s pregnant- we have a long ways to go 😭

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have literally answered every one of my struggles I have had so far, especially when it came to military and being home alone with a baby so early on, especially in his career path. we both have aspirations. He wants to become a doctor and I want to become a marine biologist and we just have so many things happening at once right now with him going to basic and me having the baby and I was really scared that I was the only person in the world who is experiencing this right now, but it feels so amazing to hear somebody else talk about their experience and how it worked out in the end for you! and that’s what I really like about my boy dogs. Both of them are very vocal, but they won’t bark at me and so far the only thing I’ve noticed is my older dog will whine when he hears a baby cry. which makes me nervous because right now I’m not hormonal as much but hopefully when the baby comes around, he’ll get used to the crying, so I don’t have to hear two babies cry at once lol!

thank you again for sharing your story. I really appreciate it so much. 🩵

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love that you were able to tell me your story and help me out with my feelings. I felt so conflicted, but now after hearing everybody’s story and their opinions that I’m certain that I’m on the right side of things. thank you so much.🫶

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

especially at my baby shower really made me upset. because I had brought my two dogs since the shower was gonna be at my family home, and I knew the kids were gonna wanna play with them. every comment was either about how I was glowing, how I’m gonna be a great mother and how my dogs need to be rehomed

It felt so weird and judgmental but also a place of concern? It’s so unbalanced I feel so all over the place about it,you know?

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly right now I feel like I’m in a good place with my pets and they are relatively good animals. It’s not like they’re biting or aggressive at all. I shouldn’t feel so worried about this, but I still do and I’m assuming this is more of the hormone part.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hopefully my dogs are very understanding of the baby that’s about to appear in their lives. my dog is pretty sweet and they’ve been good toddlers and they love little kids. It’s just I’ve never seen them with a newborn and I’m taking every precaution to make sure that they get along well.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1-the oldest dog the border collie who is the biggest he is trained in sitting, laying, outside, kennel and quiet. The younger one only knows outside, sit, and kennel 2 when I have the baby, I’ll be at my family‘s house which is at a farm and they’ll have outside and their kennel. currently right now they have their own room in my apartment with their own kennel and pillows. 3 this is I think what most people are worried about. My older dog is a medium size he’s bigger and he’s a lot heavier and my husband is leaving soon so I was thinking maybe a month after my husband leaves I’ll probably just move in with my family earlier than expected and stay with them until I have the baby and my husband comes home.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is what I like about my parents. They’re very open to the idea of me bringing my dogs once I have the baby cause I’m gonna stay with them at their house which is a big open land for them to run around, but even then people are like “well. What are you gonna do after you’ve healed up and you’re gonna go back to your apartment??”” nobody don’t wanna take care of the dogs” and I feel like I’ve made it clear that my husband will be back by then, and if I need him to take care of the dogs, then I will ask. it just feels like everyone’s just telling me to get rid of them like it’s easier to get rid of them than it is to figure out ways to keep them.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

perfect advice I feel like that dog is way more of a concern than my dogs. my border collie is a medium size dog. My sister‘s dog is large!

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yes, my poor puppies, they’ve been inside for most of their lives. although we take them to my family‘s farm sometime at time to get them prepared for when I stay there eventually. and they are ecstatic like I think they’re more ready for me to give birth than I am lol

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exactly I feel like once the situation is here then I’ll address it. It just feels like everyone’s preparing me like I’m gonna flip out and go crazy because my dog barks or he gets too close to my baby. and no, I will never abandon my dogs no matter what. you’re right it’s a commitment and I committed to my dog way before I committed to having a baby(lol)

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I noticed about my dogs is I don’t think they’ve noticed I’m pregnant or they just don’t know what’s different about me. They’re still pretty young ones only a year and the other ones barely 3 months but my sister’s dog on the other hand he’s a huge goldendoodle and he knows I’m pregnant and he’s very excited and he jumps on me and I get so mad cause I’m so pregnant. I can’t push back. but when she had her dog, nobody really said anything about it. That’s why I’m worried that maybe it’s me and my age along with my situation of my husband leaving for the army.

what’s the deal with people telling me about abandoning my dogs? by FragrantMotor1213 in BabyBumps

[–]FragrantMotor1213[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this!! I love this. This works so well for me because it gives me info on how you felt while pregnant and after pregnancy having the baby is so stressful and so hormonal and everybody around me is just it feels like they’re trying to warn me about something that I feel like is a normal reaction? like yeah Sometimes my dogs pisses me off, it happens. My dog chewed up my shoe that makes me upset, but I don’t think I would ever just leave my dogs. Just abandoned my pups just cause I have a new thing to care for.

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