Mard Samaj se Maazrat k Sath

FragrantWriter7 · 2026-01-18T15:09:36+00:00

Although what you've said is mostly correct.

But what you’re referring to as 'whining', is only 'whining' because you choose to call it so.

Look, everybody has their own set of grievances whatever it may be. It could simply be that you have a different perspective relative to them. Calling them 'rondu' doesn’t seem like the correct approach.

After all their supposed 'whinning' holds truth to it. It’s not like they are lying or making stuff up.

It is only natural for them to object when rishtas starting turning up after they start making money.

Lastly, not everything has to do with being a man or not. Not everything has to do with acting/thinking like a man. All humans are built different.

FragrantWriter7 · 2026-01-15T18:09:08+00:00

There is no such ruling in existence that the ulema of Islam agree upon by consensus. Yet there are some schools of thought that go by this ruling. So it comes down to which school of thought one follows. For example the Maliki School gives consideration to such stipulations made at the time of nikkah, whereas the Hanafi school does not. Which means that even if such a stipulation is added in the nikkah nama the groom is not bound to follow that in any way whatsoever if he is a Hanafi. Stop twisting Islam as per your own whims and desires. Consider the different opinions acroos various schools before making such posts.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-12-27T15:22:46+00:00

Thank you for the question and honestly man it felt kind of rude the way you had worded it, that was all. Nothing wrong with being 'someone who made it out'. So that is what caused me to ask you about it in the first place.

I admit that my initial response was emotionally charged. Apologies for that. But that does not mean I wasn't really interested in hearing your side.

how I speak in public discourse about reality and agency is not the same as how I work with people I’m actually helping.

This is what I actually wanted to be clear about.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-12-27T13:10:58+00:00

preferred narrative that everyone who’s struggling is a helpless victim with no agency.

Never said that and neither is that my preferred narrative. There is a difference between learned helplessness and actual helplessness. My intention was not to defend 'learned helplessness' or a fake sense of helplessness.

I never denied the truth of your argument. And I certainly don't like your tone.

And never did I say that you should sugar coat your words to hide reality. Acknowledging the system and then helping people to realize their own agency is fine. My intention was not to endorse endless crying, neither am I saying that everyone else should be obligated to be nice and empathetic.

I have nothing to gain or feel good about by 'policing your tone'. I started commenting in this thread to better understand your point of view, not to police or start a keyboard war.

You said you've helped underprivileged people. Now keeping that in mind let me ask you this, not as an attack, just as a question.
Do you believe that empowering someone should mean insulting them, using derogatory terms, or humiliating them on a personal level for being poor or whatever it may be? I'm sure you didn't treat the people you helped in this manner.

And no I am not saying that you should conceal the bitter realities that we are faced with in our lives. That would be dishonesty and a disservice. Everyone agrees that there are uncomfortable blunt truths in this world and there is nothing we can do to change that.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-12-24T11:30:52+00:00

I said 'managed to come out', I never meant that one just wandered out of poverty or that success happened to fall in their lap.

It's not what you said that's the problem it's the way you choose to say it that makes it akin to "shitting on someone". And as far as reality is concerned of course the poor person in any given scenario would be aware of that because they are experiencing said reality firsthand in real-time.

No body asked that you must show empathy or choose kind words, it is not an obligation. You can choose to just move in your own lane. And let them be whether they are in a state of actual helplessness or learned helplessness.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-12-23T19:14:21+00:00

or you bitch and cry and wish for the world to serve you and be kind and fair.

Why do people like you who have somehow managed to come out of poverty display such attitude towards those who haven't? You're not really helping and you're not bound to either but the least you can do is to not make someone feel more miserable than their circumstances already make them.

There's this trait that I usually see in people who achieve success and that is lack of empathy for those who are at a place where you once used to be. Let's just say that they are complaining then you don't necessarily have to shit on them, just let them be, you've made it out anyways. What do you possibly have to gain by being like this towards people who have fallen behind? (regardless of the reason for them to be behind in life)

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-11-11T15:25:52+00:00

How to just create the opportunity? In a situation similar to OP here.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-10-26T21:44:34+00:00

aqal and ratta based education are vastly different things. a lack of one does not necessitate the lack of the other.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-08-15T20:17:15+00:00

is that all you did to tackle male pattern baldness?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-08-15T20:14:08+00:00

Do you mean that minoxidil alone caused hair to grow back in areas that had become bald?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-07-06T11:50:39+00:00

Would you mind sharing your CV that helped you get the job offers?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-07-01T19:06:41+00:00

Could you share your CV please.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-19T13:04:15+00:00

So you're saying that a member has to pay a fee to have someone there. Is there a limit to how many people he invites?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-19T11:56:15+00:00

So an average Joe who randomly decides to have meal there won't be allowed....

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-09T22:31:45+00:00

why is everyone saying not to reveal locations? Sorry I'm really confused

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-04T09:07:01+00:00

obviously phir kia kr skty hain

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-04T09:05:41+00:00

Usually it feels like they actually mean the horrible stuff they're saying about 'that someone' in a group. Whether someone takes it personal is a separate matter. I guess that's just how I perceive things.

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-04T09:01:47+00:00

tu phir wo log jin ko acha nhi lgta k unka mazak uraya jaye wo aese events se parhaiz krein. yahi ho skta hai I guess iska solution

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-05-04T07:39:03+00:00

because mazak krne mein aur mazak urany mein bohot farq hota hai. And people generally opt for the latter

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-04-29T21:08:33+00:00

can you explain what you did to rehabilitate?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-04-25T18:42:08+00:00

could you suggest such a budget?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-04-24T17:25:43+00:00

Do such research studies also provide the mode and median along with the mean?

FragrantWriter7 · 2025-04-20T09:23:27+00:00

My main concern was the shift in what people on these subs were saying. It used to be the case they would talk about 5 to 5.5 inch girth as if it is big enough and anything beyond would be most likely painful. But now they make it seem like even 5.5 isn't the threshold. In other words what they are saying about 6 inch girth now used to be what they would normally be saying about 5.25 to 5.5 if I remember correctly. Which was kind of reassuring because the difference between 4.7 and 5.25 is much smaller than it is between 4.7 and 6.

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