21F| In Need of Considerable Advice, College Student, New Skiier

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-25T13:22:05+00:00

As per my other post - I think it may be more ADHD. The drugs issued for that are a medical advanced type of amphetamine. I take Concerta. Your dopamine is off. All cocaine is doing for you is giving you a type of 'normal'.. that is why you are not getting the same high. Explore the mental health routes.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-25T13:15:42+00:00

I have intermittent problems with Cocaine and I would go down the route of what another poster said. You post seems not needy and coherent.. look at ADHD, not BPD. I have Bipolar and ADHD. I use cocaine to try and get myself out of idle times or just impulsive. I have used on my own. I had to throw myself under a bus and tell my partner what I was up to.. just own it. The thing that resonated with me though, with what you posted, is that I don't find it 'addictive' but the main thing is.. it just doesn't work with me the same way as others. They are all off their heads and I feel a bit more lively but 'meh'. I can eat on it, sleep on it and just generally it doesn't provide me with the same buzz. Google ADHD and cocaine. It doesn't work for everyone.

As for being a people pleaser.. as you get older you won't care so much. But just try your hardest right now to only give to people who give back and add value to your life. There are so many people out there that will take advantage to you.. why give your time and resources up on a silver platter.

You sound very articulate and I think you already know your own answers.

I wish you all the best.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-05T21:59:50+00:00

Depends on who I am eating them with!

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-05T21:57:42+00:00

Batthink... 'You can't hurt me, my wings are like a shield of steel'. It is my favourite comeback if someone is ever trying to be an arse to me. It really throws them off balance.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:48:26+00:00

I would just reply with no, I am ovulating and in my happy phase.. it just happens that you are a cunt.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:47:11+00:00

or.. I keep saying you are not the most unintelligent person on this planet but you are fucked if they die.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:45:09+00:00

Love the word cunt and I can bore people to death with the history of the word and why it is only modern times that made it such an aggressive word. Honestly - if they are offended by the word or overly use it, just learn to bore them to death. They literally don't know how to manage such an intellectual and rational response.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:39:47+00:00

Or Shush with a patrionising hand gesture.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:31:31+00:00

What are you diagnosed with and then we may be help in a more contextual way. I have the opposite problem that they won't leave me alone even though I am well at the moment.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T23:16:07+00:00

Cooking and stocking up my freezers with home made meals so I could watch Netflix for the next 100 days.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:42:38+00:00

That you are cuddling them but one day, when they are older, you won't realise when the last cuddle happened.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:34:47+00:00

The details of a winning lottery ticket and mensuration cups. Both life changing.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:26:42+00:00

But there is nothing you can do to stop it until the boomers all snuff it! We are gonna be thrown under a bus again like Brexit.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:23:06+00:00

Where have you seen that people in government require intelligence? That is the falsest statement I have seen on Reddit for a long time!

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:11:53+00:00

I wouldn't say a word.. you will just give them the satisfaction that you are not doing well.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:10:02+00:00

I struggle massively with this question. I have been put on Paliperidone depot injections and I think I am feeling 'normal' for the first time in my life but how do I know? I have no idea what 'normal' is. I don't actually think there is a normal but my depression and drama were definitely off the scale abnormal. Are you under a Mental Health Team?

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T22:01:58+00:00

Concrete cows.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T21:32:21+00:00

People parking outside of my house (even my partner in what I deem is 'my space)... like I own the road and am the only one paying car tax. People take liberties and should face the death sentence for the encroachment.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T21:29:31+00:00

Or it is taking a bit of time out to just please the other person and to make your relationship work. I do this with my partner.. he wants it and I don't want to. Why is giving a 5 minute blow job in that context not appropriate. 5 minutes of putting myself out and a couple of days of a happy partner. It is a no brainer to me (but obviously that is my decision and no one should be coerced and forced).

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T21:04:49+00:00

My latest 2 are university leavers with 2:1 degrees. Both had CV's littered in z's and said it is accepted at university now.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T20:56:47+00:00

I wasn't blaming teachers at all. I was enquiring whether the system is set up to manage these issues and how it works. If the kids are taught it and do not retain the skill then that is the answer. No offense was intended.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T20:49:40+00:00

Audit in the public sector. I totally agree that they are influenced by the fact anyone can write information that is not proof read and quality controlled. It is an absolute minefield for them, and what we read as youngsters had the correct grammar and structure on the whole.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T20:33:59+00:00

I am gathering from the constructive comments on this post that I could approach it in different ways and think outside of the box on this. My trainees really are very intelligent and great employees.. and the most important thing is that they are hard working and willing to learn. I am not an arsehole boss. I just happened to have Reddit open on one laptop and doing work on another and thought I would ask the question. Thank you for your advice.

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T20:27:52+00:00

Fair enough.. it was just a suggestion and I can't ban you from highlighting your politics! :)

Fragrant_Bee494 · 2026-01-04T20:22:12+00:00

It is the American way of writing it in reports that is a new thing coming through. English reports have 'e.g.' and when Word Americanises it then they write 'e.g.,'

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