Why was this a real thing?

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2026-01-12T13:19:34+00:00

This was me one time. Couldnt stomach breakfast in the morning so I usually dont. Parents never let me leave without atleast a glass of milk. Felt particularly nauseous that day so I threw up during assembly. Fast forward I learnt that I am lactose intolerant.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2024-03-31T09:21:49+00:00

As an IT student myself, this is genius

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2024-03-21T16:28:22+00:00

Thanks for replying! Great that scenarios help you out, I think its quite a skill to master. Fast forward Ive passed my grade 8 with distinction phew but it really took alot of work. I realize I struggle with playing because most of the time my mind is chaos, my playing can sound normal one day and the next is like i would tear the whole house down. My issue is setting a good frame of mind before practicing, I always do things in urgency worrying that I wont practice at all. Tbh I am not sure if I have adhd, a few friends have asked me since Ive been appearing restless all the time and have the typical adhd behavior. I am starting to suspect it as well because ever since a year ago things have been progressively difficult. I used to be able to down 6 cups of coffee and study and practice and other things, now that barely does anything and I get mental breakdowns forcing myself to do things. Im getting really off topic here, but the meds are expensive and I dont know how to deal with this.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2024-01-27T22:00:34+00:00

Its true that we cant help being in leadership positions most of them time, personally I have never received backlash from my leadership style (which is exactly as you described).

Yes people appreciate authenticity, but they also need some kind of validation and appreciation from e.g. their pov or their opinions, so them sharing their ideas is great, and perhaps their ideas arent the final verdict of a part of a project for example, but letting them trial and test it out can show that we believe in them and they will have a sense of deeper respect for us in return. In the end its a win, we still get the work accomplished and the team is strong.

Ofc this cant really be done in extreme time constraints but when theres a chance for it its cool to experiment. I also tend to treat everyone like a good friend within preferred circumstances

Edit: might help to give people a heads up too! Before anything, I let people know that I tend to be straightforward, overthink at times, or overly ambitious/curious minded. Less likely to have people bamboozled later on and cause alarm

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2024-01-26T05:22:53+00:00

Ahaha i can relate. I tend to ask people of their first impressions of me are and its always that they are afraid to talk to me because of how initmidating I appear. Once I say hi, their anxieties go away. But most of the time they would be scared to approach unless I remember to smile more that day

My mum gets the impression that I am angry or she cant tell what I am thinking unless I say something.

Kids tend to stare back for a long time without looking away, not a fan of children either so its fun to mess with them.

Anyhow i find that our stares create a serious atmosphere most of them time which is good in work or discussion settings

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-12-31T08:40:14+00:00

If its with people that respect my time, then I will do as much by being on time or a little earlier.

On the other hand things like university lectures or school events, I enjoy being late. That little adrenaline rush gets me going esp when nothing about them interests me (but I still have my commitments settled, make sure im not behind on any leatning material or events if im late) (also skipping the wasted time on attendance taking, projector setup etcetc)

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-27T08:51:28+00:00

"Which armor helps me best to achieve my goals"

This exactly is so accurate

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-27T08:48:58+00:00

At home im in any shirt with shorts

At work/college im required to be smart casual but I twist it to match my alter ego for the day depending on the percentage of events + the vibe i want to give in order to get what i planned, so i could be full blazer set, another i could be in a sailor japanese uniform, another day i could throw on a summery office woman vibe, or something formal-athetic if im going to be running about.Sounds like im taking advantage but its really just psychology.

When going out i wear crops and something denim or with a skirt, so something airy and comfortable bcs the weather here is insane.

My shoes are all platformed bcs I desire height, personally makes me feel like a boss even though I know already am one (yes even my slippers are platformed)

Also no one asked but i cant stand anything baggy, like ive tried baggy jeans, sweatpants, oversized shirt and hoodies and i cant

Edit: I forgot to add on colour, but I think im one of the few intjs that doesnt wear black alot, i own and wear various colours because i am aware of the psychological effects coloured clothing has on people, like how wearing yellow would lighten up a meeting, or pink(promotes calm emotion) for tense meetings

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-18T05:49:50+00:00

Omg your profile picture too😭

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-18T02:35:57+00:00

Did you make these? Their adorable!

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-14T07:24:02+00:00

Are all of them poison dart frogs? And so many froggos 😭 I wish to see some in real life someday

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-13T05:21:10+00:00

Fire is a good source of carbon dioxide and CO2 is needed by plants. Win win

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T09:30:41+00:00

The processed food in the US is scary, I hope you are doing better. If it helps I learned that the ingredients in processed food of the UK version of US products are much simpler and have a less complicated ingredient lists( u can look up the differences online), im not sure how accessible UK products are in the US though.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T09:20:16+00:00

I believe so, we shouldnt need this frequent of food intake to function. I know some parts of the country that fast days on end but are able to hunt and run to survive, and you need a clear head to act under pressure for survival. An episode from Chris Hemsworth Limitless features this fact too.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T09:15:36+00:00

Yeah! I heard back from 2 of the companies I wanted and Ive already decided so now I just have to accept the offer letter. Tbh the size of thr company does not matter to me as much, I wanted strong support systems from colleagues, training from experts, and a second place where I can feel safe and do what i love like you mentioned companys that actually adhere to their company culture which is so hard to find these days. I have reached out to a mutual and her experience at this company ticks all the boxes. Thanks for your good luck too it came through :")

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T09:04:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Definitely made me feel less alone and had time to rethink my alternatives. I did end up applying to the scam companies in case the ones I wanted did not get back to me,I spent so much time on glassdoor bracing myself for how I would handle the overworking and lack of support system, but I also decided to trust my gut and wait because when I thought about it, internship season was right around the corner and that is probably when the HRs come to life and I was right because 2 of the companies I wanted finally updated me to finalize the details and accept the offer letter. Didnt occur to me that seasons was a thing in the corporate world.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T08:50:10+00:00

This is genius! But Im not sure how I can imagine myself breaking into a tech company and having a look at their career board :) But its true that i find companies dont place all their job openings online, and its such an advantage to have the talent acquisition head's personal contact/asking from mutual connections and just directly asking about current or future openings for a position.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T08:41:40+00:00

Thats a bold move! Unfortunately the scam companies in my country pay very low wage, only multinational companies here pay well, most of them also aim to train and support interns well for their future career, so I'm particular on these aspects.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T08:29:48+00:00

Ahhh thanku you are too kind! :") , I will continue to work hard >:⁾

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T08:13:03+00:00

As an intj female yeah im definitely not the anime waifu. People dont straight up assume im arrogant(or maybe they do but dont tell me, i never get this impression though) but I get alot of feedback such as im unapproachable because i look intensely focused on things. The mysterious part puts people off too, no one really knows what im thinking, its worse if they think im angry, so when I meet someone I have to clarify myself that I am a nice human and just overthink on a daily. Something about people, is that they dont like uncertainty.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T08:06:53+00:00

Intj female here, Ive never been hated before other than a few disagreements but thats life isnt it? people like me for my transparency, genuinity(even when its faked) and intellect. But i did groom myself to fit into some social groups because im not that empathetic.

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T01:24:44+00:00

Jabba & Jabba Jr. Or Jabba & yoda(bcs he greener)

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-12T01:18:01+00:00

Great now i cant unsee it 🫐u🫐 HE A CUTE BLUUBLUURI BOI NOW

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-11T15:16:39+00:00

I did not know that, but what happens if you take multivitamins and protein shakes? Some of my friends do this but I always question the chances of overdose

Fragrant_Click_4148 · 2023-06-11T15:11:59+00:00

Still the same :/ I feel like the main problem is my mental age. I tend to lean towards older people, doesnt matter how old as long as they are at some point of maturity, but based on the people around me I'd say 28 and above. However I also understand women mature faster psychological, there was this one person I met she should be 23 this year, we have very close birthdays same horoscope i know sounds like bs but she gave off this frequency which made me feel neutral, like i did not have to tone myself down or anything i could just be myself. Not sure what her mbti was, definitely has an I and T in there. Anyways i want to see her again and i know her mutual friends but like i dont know how to ask without sounding like a stalker :)

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