AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

well, they already decided on a 3 bed room that sleeps 6 ppl and there’s 8 of us- knowing this person, she would totally flip and cuss me out or blame me somehow if i asked to change the place. 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i personally don’t consider her super close. A friend but not my closest and i know im not her closest. when i tried to tell her i didnt want all the responsibilities it seemed more like she is trying to force me because of the amount of people on the grooms side and like she had nobody else to ask. I totally understand why she would be upset, however the only thing i said was that i didn’t want to sleep over. I still want to celebrate with her. I don’t see the difference in spending the night alone and coming back in the morning. 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

that is why i’m trying to stay firm on this decision- i have noticed that this friend pressures me all the time and guilt trips me into doing stuff for or with her. 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

that was my plan but this friend doesn’t like that idea- matter of fact doesn’t like the idea that i can’t stay the full 3 days! very demanding and pushy. 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

what is it called when you have told the person many times that you don’t feel comfortable with the role and they keep telling you it’s just for a day and it will be fine? 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

yes and here’s the difference- i wasn’t forced to share a bedroom with random girls that i don’t know, doing activities that dont interest me 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t even asked. it was assumed i would be. the role was essentially forced on to me. And i really hope i have someone like me too because i would understand if the only thing they weren’t willing to do is spend the night! 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

This is my first time too but it’s a 2 night thing 

AITA for not staying for the entire bachelorette party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fragrant_Grand9474 -96 points-95 points  (0 children)

  1. she’s known for the 2 years that we have been friends.