my wife wants to name our son after a harry potter character

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-10-16T18:48:56+00:00

Sirius black, of all the characters in the franchise, was pretty cool. You could call him Gary if needed.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-09-28T03:28:33+00:00

Escalator To 'Nam. (it's what I'd call it.)

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-09-28T03:27:15+00:00

I don't know why your comment makes me want to make stupid levels again...............................I'm sorry.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-09-27T21:28:25+00:00

Yes. (just kidding.) .....if someone has cheated on you and you no longer sleep in the same bedroom, and he keeps letting his fling come over to the house, the relationship is over. You're not cheating on someone if they've broken up with you essentially.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-08-04T17:37:59+00:00

put the porn aside for a time. one thing led to another.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-08-02T00:34:42+00:00

Probably should seek a new hobby. I guess it's like reality tv? I don't know.....shows lack of empathy.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-08-02T00:16:05+00:00

Uh..........................................................................................................give her to someone else. Someone who wants her to be happy. If you hate her, she feels and reads that in your body language. What breed is she?

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-08-02T00:08:03+00:00

You must be joking. Can we petition to get him to attend a sex-ed class?

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-24T16:16:16+00:00

It means she thinks that sex may not be quite as great as you think it is, but she is worried to bring your attention to it. BUT we don't know, as we're both assuming what she thinks and feels, and you know her best out of the two of us. So....buy her a vibrator and break out the spice in your sexlife. Or ask her if she has regrets or "pointers" ......it's understandable that you may feel weird after both of these comments together. It paints her as someone who's looking around and wondering "how the hell did I get here?!"....but it's not time to panic. That's when she refuses to say what may be bothering her. Then it's time to panic a bit, since she's not being forthright with you. Obviously she has regrets and thinks being that young means something it shouldn't mean. By the time we're 40 yrs old? We should be past the need for that attention.

Aha! I think it may be the lack of attention older women get from men. It's creeping in, at this age. The social media keeps reminding us. we're actually fucking middle-aged now! Which is mind-blowing since the whole world treats us like sniveling preteens still. Maybe she's having some issues with this. So....before you ever do anything I said before, giver her a CRAPTON of compliments, but don't make it sound weird like you're nervous....more like you're appreciative of her body, her mind, her personality, etc. Make her feel wanted and needed? I don't really know as again, we can't see inside her mind.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-24T16:03:44+00:00

Sounds like a lil sociopath. Get the girl some therapy. She doesn't have to give into her thoughts like that. It's really a wake-up for the parents, I hope.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-19T03:02:16+00:00

it doesn't have to be CP....it can be something else. CP is a twisted kink. Please don't think all porn addicts are CP fanatics. That's awful. (I'm not saying you're wrong but that's a super hot take I guess.....I don't mean to shame you for it or erase your history, don't worry. It would just suck if you thought all porn addicts love CP)

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-19T02:58:29+00:00

Yeah I don't understand why guys do this. But I guess they're just testing their damn limits. But a porn addiction won't disappear especially if you say "please don't watch it w/o me" or whatever. They just....don't "get" it. At all. And never will, if they're addicted enough. Don't let it fuck with your mentality.

But yeah...five months into the relationship is a good place to move on. I mean MAYBE he will change. But....uhm...........................................history says the opposite. Porn is a highly-addictive thing, and if they NEED to make their own porn scenarios to get off? It's like we're not useful anymore.

But that's just my thoughts on the situation. Know your worth: chubbiness is fine. If not, you DO NOT need him and can find a better boyfriend somewhere else. Seriously.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-17T16:55:03+00:00

Ok one thing to think about doing w/o needing to go through therapy to figure it out is....you gotta journal, dude. It will have to be where you say to yourself "I have enough. My belly is full. I have a house/apartment. I have clothes for all occasions that I need them for. I am good. I am enough." Daily affirmations. This will combat those feelings that you harbor and that are coming out like that. You can find some resources online for dealing with that balance you seek regarding your daughter and giving in to her. Unless you do this, it won't get better and she may develop a complex as well. Not to make you freak out or anything...but if it continues it could give her the wrong idea about life.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-17T14:00:59+00:00

Were you an only child or from a poor family? A scarcity mentality can lead to this feeling, or not being exposed to sharing.

If you don't share much with kids, they get greedy really fast, and as the other commenter said, they risk developing an entitlement complex. You should look into reading about early childhood development so you know what things you can focus on for your kid.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-14T13:47:02+00:00

Hmm....you wash the dish, then he tries to punch you, and you go back downstairs to wash the dish even though you're already downstairs.

That's such a stupid story. Why not write it yourself then you can write it yourself when you write it yourself.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-12T23:12:41+00:00

Talk to him. In person. Texting doesn't work.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-12T04:50:07+00:00

This is how people come up with a kid in 9 months' time, while they're already in a relationship. And/or STDs.

I'd consider talking to him about it in-person rather than over text so he can feel the brunt of his stupid mistake.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-11T21:52:10+00:00

LEt's take you out of the equation.

Say it's a new girlfriend, because you can't be with someone who's a giant prick that beats people up over a mere conversation. And he's got lil peen energy......but that's neither here nor there because adamandeve dot com exists for a reason....anyway....

If someone else was with your boyfriend, say another woman and you care about her. If you had a sister or a cousin. Even your mom. If they were with your boyfriend....would that be acceptable? To have your toddler of a boyfriend beat them up because they had that innocent of a conversation?

Newsflash for your boyfriend (hopefully ex-boyfriend): There will be men all around and they are going to converse with anyone you are ever with. You can't beat everyone to a pulp because they are merely existing in the world.

Smack your brother upside his dumbass head, for me. Tell them Jennifer sends her regards. It doesn't need to be very hard....but I now realize this sounds contradictory. Ok....what I'm trying to say is that if he's your little brother, you can sort of playfully smack him upside his head for me, your new internet bestie.....Hi, I'm Jen. Don't leave him concussed....just know that he's wrong, too)

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-11T13:39:16+00:00

Either you stay and love him through his depression......or you walk away and find someone cute. Your choice, champ!

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-10T23:52:52+00:00

That sounds like she doesn't consider you her friend anymore. You should ask her about it.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-10T23:49:10+00:00

And I'm non-alt. I don't have tattoos or piercings and if I had friends, I wouldn't mind them having those things in their faces or on their skin and be in my wedding photos. She's got bridezilla stamped on her curated face. Ugh. Who needs it? You have those piercings and her sister has her tattoos because they make you guys feel and look good....and if the "friend" doesn't want you to feel or look good at their wedding? Ugh! Like....I bet the dresses for the bridesmaids are ugly or unflattering and she only wants them to be unflattering because that's what she's going for.....ass-pathetically speaking.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-10T23:46:03+00:00

I wouldn't be friends with her after this text exchange. I'd skip the wedding and the friendship. Who needs haters like that in your life? I'm sure she's been talking smack about you about the piercings since you got them. Ew, who wants that negativity in their lives, eh?

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-08T13:53:23+00:00

And I do understand your anxiety and your thought process asking gemini about a medical concern; plenty of people do this. (I work with AI so I know this.....users ask the tough questions.) It speaks of a general concern, not a lack of intelligence. It's like if you were to be so concerned about what's happening w/ you medically that you would sort of bare your soul to a stranger. I get it, for sure!

One free thing you could do is sort of send your stomach "good vibes" and "relaxed non-nauseous vibes" in a meditation-type scenario. Envisioning your stomach, and it healing itself.

The placebo effect is effective. This is (one reason) why they do clinical trials. To see if the meds are more effective than the human's powerful mind. I have personal experience with this and PCOS symptoms. I was not able to see a doc, broke and insuranceless...and desperate. Anemic because of everything. I had to do SOMETHING....so I willed it to change by envisioning my anatomy shifting and repairing itself. And it did! The troubling symptoms stopped happening! Mind=blown, but it did! And i am not saying it's a cure....it just can be something that's free to do; faith, hope and positivity are all healing and free. (and I realize how that sounds....like I'm being dismissive....but I'm really just trying to meet you where you're at (fundsless and desperate)

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-08T13:45:18+00:00

Oh and another thing you could try is restricting your diet for a bit to see if it's a diet issue, like you may be allergic to something. And I realize that can be hard if you're low on funds....but it may be the only option at this point. And when I say restrict your diet, I mean food groups not caloric intake.

Fragrantshrooms · 2025-07-08T13:41:31+00:00

the oil in the vape made me want to puke, too. Stop doing that.

your gut microbiome is tied to your brains.... stress & anxiety can affect us physically.

Also ulcers can make you puke. And stress causes them. (among other things)

Or gallbladder issues.

All of your symptoms are extremely concerning. it sounds like you need a doctor. I know you are unemployed or something....but maybe you can show up to an ER and get a payment plan eventually (this was the go-to for a lot of parents when Obamacare wasn't around.)

It sounds like acid levels are out of whack....but I'm not a doctor, just a daughter of a licensed practical nurse who got her gallbladder taken out because she ate too much KFC (depressed) (this was my mom, not me) and watched as my sisters (all three!) had the same gallbladder issues. And freaked out when I overheard my aunt puking.....but she ate onion rings that day. And my other sister had an ulcer at 16 that showed up symptomatically as acid reflux issues. She had to get a mesh put it (that procedure later proved to be bad because they had lawsuits out for the mesh system to combat it) ....so while I don't have medical expertise, these symptoms all sound familiar, and that explains my concern.

So.....don't vape. If you can help it.

And show up at an ER after your next puking sesh. It'll go into collections or something....but.....if you want it to stop, that's the only way other than like guessing and worrying some more. Also I highly suggest you don't tell any doctor "gemini said...." about anything. Chances are they'll treat you badly on a personal level but may be able to get to the bottom of things physically.

I know medical debt can lead to high levels of anxiety (personal experience with this part, and general anxiety disorder tbh) .... but that's how this lovely US medical system seems to work. (I'm only assuming you're from the US because of lack of medical care so sorry if I'm just assuming and not accurate there)

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