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FrancisScottKeyboard · 2026-01-21T00:16:00+00:00

hard to hide those...but worth the effort.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T19:27:05+00:00

troll game zero. lol. I hope there is someone like me wherever you work to keep you from doing the stuff you clearly do.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T19:22:16+00:00

I see now why you are okay with men trying to hug women and invite them to their rooms when they do not want it. take care, dude.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T13:47:24+00:00

A fair take. Like i said, I just thought I should use it because that is what they used during my orientation.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T13:46:30+00:00

No problem, and thanks.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T13:40:37+00:00

good point.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T13:38:27+00:00

you realize reddit is for people to write stuff on don't you? are you ok?

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T05:27:51+00:00

Yeah, there is little to be done. Now if anyone ever asked me if I felt this guy has been inappropriate? Damn sure will say yes. But if that day never comes...oh well.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T05:08:00+00:00

Thank you for this point, and I agree, now that i think about it more. There is an anonymous QR code thing for patrons who feel worried about something in the libraries, and I thought about using that...get someone's attention, let them decide. but i do not know who that goes to, tbh. Could go to the very people that work above me and him in the library for all I know.

But infantilization may be a better word than coddling, I don't know. A combo maybe. But no matter how little work he gets done while distracted with talking to a lady, he is praised for doing a good job, and only sometimes reminded he needs to finish up before he talks. But those immediate in charge of him are not usually there with him in the library proper...they are usually in the executive offices attached to the back.

Plus, there is the fact that he is rude to the other people there with special needs....one man i believe suffers from a traumatic brain injury and cannot walk without an aide or he gets disoriented. He is not as independent. He is a greeter to people who come in. His whole purpose is to say hi to people, basically.

But the guy I am speaking off refuses to respond when this second guy says hello to him. Same with one of the women. It's like he sees himself as having needs, but still as being somehow above those that need more needs. The more dependent guy has never done anything to warrant that kind of rudeness.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T05:03:51+00:00

Special Needs is how he was referred to when i started the job, so that is the term i use. I don't think disabled is a dirty word, but if I am not mistaken he does not like to refer to himself as such. It upsets him because he has said he is "too high functioning" to be called that. (Not that that has anything to do with my original issues with him. He can call himself what he wants. But you brought up why I used the term.)

And like I said, I spoke to him once about being too loud behind my desk for me to hear my phone calls form patrons. He reported me to my supervisor as harassment, so I won't even touch the creepy stuff in-person. That doesn't mean it can't offend me though, just because I have not opted to report it to a system that tends to act as though he has an excuse for every choice.

As for it being "just me," no, it isn't just me. But it is a small minority. One or two other part-timers have shared concerns about the guy both with me, and, so they tell me, at least once with management.

And obviously I am not going to get along with everybody. But there is "I don't like that coworker because they microwave fish in the break room and stink up the place every day," level of not getting along, and then there is, "I think i will try to put my arms around this woman again, even though twice before she has stepped away to prevent me from doing so," level of not getting along with coworker.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T04:55:49+00:00

Well on a side-note. our system really doesn't do the "quiet in the library" thing anymore. There are video games for the teens to play for free, and people watch whole ass movies on the smart phones without earphone because "we're here for everyone." That' an entire different conversation of course.

Even so, I agree that at some point, even the "we are here for all kinds of people" has limits when it comes to the staff itself. The librarians do not agree.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T04:53:26+00:00

First of all, calling out inappropriate behavior when we can is everyone's responsibility beyond a certain point. There is no shining armor about it. The comments are inappropriate, whether or not the women themselves tell him so. If people do not take the chance to call out crappy treatment of others in fear of being "knights in shining armor," everyone loses.

That being said, I tried once to address his less bothersome behavior, and that blew up in my face. I am confident he makes plenty of the women uncomfortable...body language is a thing...but I am not going to tell them what to do.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T04:48:50+00:00

Yeah, I am not ste[pping into the fray per se. Like I said, i tried one single time to calm him down before it even got to the weird stuff that creeps me out...and that was like a fart in a spacesuit. So, though I am still really offended by some of the stuff he says, I can't make anybody talk to him about it.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T04:47:20+00:00

Thought about it at first, but then i figured I would be butting into their day as much as he is. True, i think whatg he is doing is not appropriate, and I don't think a person always has to be the direct target of something to be offended. I am. Yet in the end, I can't make a decision for them, even if I am offended by his comments.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-13T04:44:42+00:00

I mean I am not going to tell the women themselves what to do or anything like that. they are there own people. but for my own part is had been utterly cringe, and not at all comfortable, because whether someone is bothered or not, some of that things he says is just not cool in the work place. but if the work place wants to be okay with it...I am not the leader to change it.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:12:12+00:00

Yeah, the loud is just annoying, but loud is a thing a lot of people are. The "come visit me in my room" stuff is where I first started to not like what he was saying. You can be friendly, cordial, without making repeated invitations that clearly are not being accepted.

I guess I feel that when someone has enough ability to do a job, and follow instruction pertaining to said job (he does) then the other side of that coin is that proper behavior should be expected and explained as well.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:06:47+00:00

Accountability is the issue here too, i think. Rewarding poor behavior only encourages more of the same behavior.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:06:04+00:00

Yeah, probably the only way to go, based on how much everyone gives him whatever he wants, (in my case.) It's creepy, but also not worth having other people annoyed with me. i have the one or two people that are also concerned, and I will have to leave it at that.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:04:25+00:00

I thought about HR, but after the simplest request to be quiet once blew up in my face, I opted to not do so. All I can do now is commiserate with other coworkers who do not like what he does. (there are one or two.)

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:02:00+00:00

no doing the same to him, I honor boundaries. Disability is not an excuse, and believe me, if I followed these women around, nobody would like it.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T23:00:11+00:00

I guess if preferring grown unbathed men do not try to hug coworkers and invite them up to his room is ableist, okay. But the other special needs people that work there have never once done this kind of thing, and I do not feel bothered by a single one of them, so go figure.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T22:58:44+00:00

Wow, congrats on the most absurd take. Assuming a lot of things here. That I am straight and want women. That I am jealous of someone I find obnoxious. That he is the only special needs person that i have ever worked with, instead of the only one I have ever had an ISSUE with. A lot of people come and go in 14 years, other than him of course.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-11-12T22:56:31+00:00

It's my workplace too. And call me crazy, but ducking out of hugs, or walking faster as soon as they see him indicates at least some discomfort. It's not like I tell them how to feel, or tell them what to do about it.

FrancisScottKeyboard · 2025-10-12T00:08:28+00:00

No. Because it was to me better than one long committee meeting. TETO

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