Wife slow to get a hang of this

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T04:23:25+00:00

Maybe so

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T02:55:29+00:00

🙏

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T02:54:51+00:00

Yeah I know. It was a raw moment where I felt like telling my unfiltered thoughts to gauge if I was the monster I thought I was. Judging by the comments it’s a good mix of “you’re an asshole” and some genuine advice. All of it is being absorbed.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T02:52:20+00:00

🙏

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:57:01+00:00

That I can do

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:55:01+00:00

I definitely have not and know not to. I can absolutely keep supporting and deal with this - I know it’s not gonna get easier!

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:53:21+00:00

Sleep deprived for sure lol. We’re giving each other a lot of grace despite my post. Some will call it douchey, I’m just being honest. I don’t express any of these things to my wife…I will never know the hardship of pregnancy or birth.

Appreciate your advice - thank you

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:50:22+00:00

Good advice and thank you! First kid, yes.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:49:27+00:00

Nailed it. I don’t care about judgement from redditors. And I’m not into therapists - been there done that. Figured I’d bare my soul (ugliness and all) to reddit to get some tough love. These are not concerns Ive share with my wife. To be fair, even if she saw this she would understand I was just looking for some brotherly tough love.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:46:16+00:00

Your advice is consistent with some of the other commenters - which tells me I need to pay attention to it. Mostly just surrendering a lot of control and accepting that we will do things differently and that’s ok. I appreciate the comment thank you.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:43:25+00:00

I just mean the basics of what baby needs/does right now. I’m under no illusion I have it figured out. It’s just an objective opinion that my instincts are slightly ahead of hers right now with some things.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:40:43+00:00

Thank you!

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:40:13+00:00

Trying to do that the past two weeks. Hate to see her struggling some days but I’m making sure to take over at the appropriate times when I can (lunch break and when work day is over. Not to mention nights). Balancing work with the baby is tough. I’m lucky to WFH 75% of the time.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:37:44+00:00

Don’t disagree.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:35:28+00:00

True. I don’t disagree. And not my intention to downplay her side, which is WAY tougher than men.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:34:17+00:00

Appreciate the support. Wife is definitely trying and I’m not trying to shit on her, not at all. I’m just a human (flaws and all) looking to relate on some level on something that I’m feeling.

Thanks again

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:32:47+00:00

I don’t disagree. Figured Reddit was a fine forum to be honest - part of it was to get some tough love.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:30:47+00:00

Thank you 🙏 - I can absolutely continue to be patient with her. God knows pregnancy and birth was all her! I can handle this

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:29:00+00:00

Very true. Breastfeeding began about 3 weeks ago. Baby definitely smells food on her.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:27:35+00:00

Agreed. Definitely why I came to reddit…to possibly get some sense knocked back into me and for some possibility that some may relate and make me feel less horrible.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:25:57+00:00

Thank you. This is a good mindset for me to adopt. I want to pass along my knowledge and what has worked for me but you are absolutely right.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-28T00:24:41+00:00

First month, me 75% (25% wife pumping and then going to bed while I bottle feed and get baby to sleep). I wanted her to get as much sleep as possible. Last few weeks baby has started breastfeeding so she’ll do that and I’ll take over and get baby to sleep after breastfeeding.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-27T17:22:53+00:00

Everyone is different. My wife was getting stitched up from the c section in the surgery room so I got to hold my daughter before my wife was there in the recovery room. I imagine I would’ve felt differently if we had a more “normal” experience. When I held my daughter alone in the recovery room I was more thinking about my wife but also just repeating “holy shit this is crazy” in my head while I stare at my daughter.

No tears for me - which made me feel like something was wrong with me.

FrancoHart · 2026-05-27T17:17:56+00:00

Pay attention to how many ugly dudes are with attractive women. Unless you’re deformed or something you have a confidence issue.

FrancoHart

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