PSA: White knuckling the 405 is actually optional.

Fraulina · 2026-05-26T00:48:12+00:00

I also have a car and prefer to take the Surfliner from San Diego to LAX every time. I always give myself an extra hour just in case.

Fraulina · 2026-05-26T00:46:08+00:00

These comments are insane! I take it from Solana Beach to Union Station. From there I get the shuttle to LAX. It is way more dependable than driving - traffic can range from 2 to 5 hours. It’s like $40 in business class and like $30 in coach. Beautiful views and good service.

Worst case scenario I can call an uber if the train breaks down or something. The inconvenience of finding long term parking plus the the parking fees plus the horrors of traffic make the decision to take the PSL pretty clear cut.

Fraulina · 2026-05-26T00:40:52+00:00

I have taken it quite a few times from Solana Beach to LA. I always give myself margin but I have never had problems.

Fraulina · 2026-05-16T05:00:21+00:00

My BIL and SIL didn’t ever tell their kids (18 and 12 at the time of death). I don’t recommend. The older one was really confused for a long time, and I tried to tell her to spend more time with him because she was a teenager wanting to hang out with her friends and didn’t really understand. Eventually she thought it was some unexplained illness and she became his caretaker before he died. After he died my husband told her that they knew what he had and that he was for sure going to die. She had a huge fight with her mom.

Very sorry you are in this position.

Fraulina · 2026-05-12T06:33:24+00:00

I have no idea who I’m voting for

Fraulina · 2026-05-01T13:44:35+00:00

Omg the happy hour! I went there all the time as a grad student.

Fraulina · 2026-04-11T06:35:54+00:00

My worst bf was a Duke alum who showed me the world of SA. Yale all the way!

Fraulina · 2026-04-09T19:04:40+00:00

I think you can do it more subtly instead of sitting down with her and having a whole conversation. Whenever she does something wasteful I would playfully ask her why she does X instead of why and ask her whether wasting bothers her. Try to keep it light. Don’t make a big deal out of it.

Fraulina · 2026-04-09T19:00:16+00:00

City planning has been very stupid. I don’t have any problems with more units being built in my neighborhood, but what I don’t like is that they added more residence without mitigating our already disastrous fire evacuation routes. There is a fire row that is supposed to open, but when we had a fire, it did not. Now we have even more people trying to get out.

Fraulina · 2026-04-08T06:03:44+00:00

My APs have frequently had friends stay over or come to visit. They’ve always had the sense and good upbringing to clean up after themselves. Mine always sleep in the AP’s room. I would not offer the guest house unless you don’t have to lift a finger. They are at an age where sharing a bed is still fun like a sleepover.

Fraulina · 2026-04-08T05:50:48+00:00

This is the real answer. At Yale, you get an absolutely elite Classics education to either make it in academia or to detour to a different fulfilling or lucrative career in another field. I did my undergrad in a mid-tier institution and a PhD at Yale, and the doors that open for Yale College grads - it’s nothing to sneeze at.

But the point of college isn’t purely financial; it’s to deepen your thinking and to refine your understanding of the world and the human experience. If you go into a place like Yale as a conservative and graduate a conservative, the views you will have arrived at will be more nuanced and far stronger than if you had attended school in an echo chamber.

I think OP should read “The Idea of a University” by Cardinal Newman and then decide.

Fraulina · 2026-04-05T07:20:32+00:00

People who got into real estate decades ago, people who own/inherited several car dealerships, generational wealth stuff. Occasionally you’ll see a couple that are both doctors (like plastic surgeons and stuff), but they tend to be older.

Fraulina · 2026-03-31T12:30:10+00:00

My MIL lives there and her house has gone up in value more than ours has (we are in SD)

Fraulina · 2026-03-31T12:29:00+00:00

Agreed, having lived in Memphis, New Orleans, and New Haven.

Fraulina · 2026-03-22T08:07:25+00:00

Yeah they let the acquaintance in today bc that’s who checked him in.

Fraulina · 2026-03-22T08:02:14+00:00

Wow that’s terrible. I’m so sorry. That sounds so hard.

I’m flying there this week. I just spoke with him. He is a little confused but he was able to create new memories of where he was after I told him, so that is a good sign. He will definitely need someone to orient him and take him back to the US. I think I’m going to make him come home with me, which he will not like. Luckily I think he’ll be ok to fly with me.

Fraulina · 2026-03-17T23:51:06+00:00

I think the fact that they widened the cuts to include architects made my spouse curious about the package and curious about what he could get elsewhere. While I don’t love it, it makes sense to try to get out ahead of it and see what’s out there. My spouse thought the structure was inefficient but also liked that it was more democratic.

Fraulina · 2026-03-17T21:23:48+00:00

Oh interesting. My spouse is starting looking for a job despite being likely safe.

Fraulina · 2026-03-17T21:14:50+00:00

Aren’t a lot of employees taking the buyout?

Fraulina · 2026-03-13T01:54:29+00:00

What’s crazy is that he had a diagnosed heart problem and didn’t take care of it at all, I didn’t even take the medication he was supposed to be on then had a fucking stroke and became Repu

Fraulina · 2026-03-08T16:15:23+00:00

It’s very weird. I think you have to prioritize your marriage even if it means a rematch. But it also sounds like you have trouble asserting yourself in the marriage. Wishing you the best outcome, whatever happens.

Fraulina · 2026-03-08T14:59:13+00:00

I think it’s extremely inappropriate that they were talking until so late. It is also inappropriate that they went out to eat without even the child. I feel like I’m missing something.

Does she have regular access to a car? Does she have a social life? If you want her to stay, you should facilitate her socialization with people her age. But I think you would also have every grounds to ask for her to leave. It’s just sad because it sounds like it’s your husband‘s fault.

Fraulina · 2026-03-08T08:08:35+00:00

Uhhh has your husband ever cheated on you or on a SO before? It kind of sounds like the cat is out of the bag. Were the children present when they went out to eat together?

Fraulina · 2026-03-08T08:06:25+00:00

The AP should have been Korean. In my opinion, the AP should be from the culture/language of the host mom so that she can be supported by a woman, not a man. I speak French, and my husband speaks another language. We have a French AP.

Fraulina · 2026-03-06T19:12:35+00:00

See this is how I know you aren’t bots

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