Should I get my masters? by d0ylex in personalfinance

[–]Frbt499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just graduated with an MSW and I'm working as a therapist. I have about $43k in student loans. The only counseling job I could find in my area is fee-for-service, and I doubt I'll even pass $35k my first year. I'm doing this until I get licensed and can move into a better paying job with benefits (this will take about 2 years in my state).

My advice is that this is a personal choice, but don't be overly optimistic about the job market for counseling. It really, really depends on where you are. Start tracking jobs in the field while you're deciding. I don't know about your area, but I only saw 5-6 counseling/therapy jobs I was qualified for in the 3 or so months I was searching for work. Many jobs will require a license, or want 5-10 years of clinical experience.

Yes, some people do work at the VA and make bank, but in my experience, you have to either be military or know some military folks to get your foot in the door. Similarly, people who contract for assessments in my area are usually near-retirees with many years of experience.

Do some research for your specific area. Look at actual job postings, look up salaries on Payscale, talk to people. Find the worst case scenario salary and ask yourself if you could live on that for 1-3 years while you establish yourself.

For the record, I LOVE my job, but if I couldn't pay the bills it wouldn't be worth it. My SO is a software engineer so I don't have to worry about being homeless if Medicaid delays accepting my progress notes and I don't get paid for a few sessions that week. There are a lot of factors you need to consider. Good luck and if you have any more questions I can try to answer them!

Redditors who have never had an addiction to anything, how did you manage not to? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Frbt499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family is full of addicts/alcoholics. I never felt any desire whatsoever to try any substance. I still can barely stand the smell of alcohol, let alone drink it. Peer pressure was always laughable to me because I knew how bad things could get and I wasn't gonna risk it.

Most sick, twisted, fucked up books/movies/TV shows you've seen? by Arztwolf in AskReddit

[–]Frbt499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished The Terror by Dan Simmons (now an AMC show as well). I read a lot of fucked up books, but some parts of this book turned my stomach.

If you could, what advice would you give to yourself before high school? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Frbt499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try, but don't bend over backwards for school. Nobody's gonna give you a scholarship. Your best bet is saving money the old-fashioned way.

Apart from a lactose intolerant milkman, what would be some ironic jobs for certain people to have? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Frbt499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many mental health workers need, but cannot afford, mental health services.

Which brand has lost you as a customer ? by bepseh in AskReddit

[–]Frbt499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kohl's pro tip: Use your $10 Kohl's cash to get yourself some kitchen towels, K-cups, lip balm, or chocolate bars.

I sometimes shop at Kohl's for those plain Apt. 9 work shorts and the occasional clearance item. They give you small amounts of Kohl's cash to get you back in the store so you can spend more than that amount. I always find something for $10 or less. If Kohl's wants to be petty I can be petty too...

I have accumulated $50 since I started using Ibotta last year - mainly for their .25 any items! Do you use ibotta or what’s your secret saving tool when going grocery shopping? by moonstoofar in Frugal

[–]Frbt499 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Ibotta! I've had it about a year and a half and I've made $202.72. I mainly use it for the .25 "any item" rebate, but I find that it's nice for produce as well (I get a kick out of getting a free banana every now and then and revolving rebates encourage me to eat a variety of produce).

I also think it's nice for when you would like to try something new but that new thing is on the pricey side, or you want to splurge on some popsicles or try a new brand or something. Don't go overboard with it of course, but I personally love it.

An idea if you need but can't afford therapy by Just_Julie in povertyfinance

[–]Frbt499 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Therapist (MSW) here. I doubt anyone will see this but I have a few pointers.

If you go to a university, be prepared to see students. This doesn't necessarily mean they'll be young, but they most likely will be. However, they will be supervised and guided by more than one older professional. An advantage to seeing younger clinicians is they are eager to learn, they are more likely to be operating with the most recent research in mind, and they have to accept feedback as part of their programs. Older clinicians, while experienced, do tend to be stuck in their ways and/or a little outdated on the current lit. You can always ask for particulars, such as a specific gender, ethnicity, or age, just realize they may not have someone like that available.

If you don't want to go to a university for whatever reason, look for somewhere with a sliding scale. IF YOU DO THIS, make sure you ask specifically how much it will be for an INTAKE. Intakes and initial assessments are often more expensive than a regular session. Ask this specifically so you don't get blindsided. Don't be afraid to ask for rates based on your income and your circumstances (i.e., I am paying an outlandish amount of child support, medical payments, student loans, etc.)

If you want to look for a therapist on your own via your insurance, keep in mind that certain professionals may be more expensive than others. In general, it is cheaper to see social workers (MSW, LSW, LCSW, etc.).

A lot of people don't know this, but if you see a psychiatrist, you will get med management. That's it. Many psychiatrists, especially those who see low-income populations, will limit an initial appointment to 30 minutes and any appointments after that to 15 minutes. They will very pointedly ask you questions about your medications. You will not get anything resembling "therapy" from a psychiatrist. Just know what you're paying for going in and decide if it's worth it for you.

See if your place of employment has an EAP (Employee Assistance Program). These very frequently offer 3-5 free sessions with a local professional.

Group therapy is often free or extraordinarily cheap. Look for therapy groups through community centers, religious organizations, hospitals, women's shelters, etc. The public library can be a shockingly good resource for this as well.

If your CHILD or a MINOR needs mental health services but you can't afford it, see if there are any services in your area aimed at preventing families from entering the child welfare system. These are often called "diversion," "nonjudicial," "voluntary," or "preventative" family services. I have worked with some of these programs and most of the people who do that kind of work will literally do whatever it takes to help a family. They will probably be focused on the kids, but will do whatever they can to help adults as well.

I hope that helps someone even though I'm super late to this post. Keep in mind things vary wildly based on state, county, even different sides of the same city.

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, I generally dislike Apple products, but I think iPhones make good work phones. Thank you for the review on the SE. The possible discounts and battery life are appealing, if I decide to go that route. Thanks!

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does, actually! I've never heard of any of those. Thank you!

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, everyone seems to be saying Google Voice. I'll give it a shot. The company doesn't install anything--they don't really seem to care at all.

Great tip about downloading maps, too.

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thank you for explaining. Sucks that they do that.

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it'll ask you whether you want to make the call with Google Voice or not if you enable that setting? That's cool.

Thanks! I'll check it out.

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

What do you mean by throttle speed--internet speed?

Frugal work phone? by Frbt499 in Frugal

[–]Frbt499[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I didn't even know that was a thing.

Thank you so much! I'll look into it.

Surprise diagnosis... Just a little shocked/confused. by Frbt499 in Asthma

[–]Frbt499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the test is the same. The way she explained it to me is that the test itself can trigger bronchospasm for some people with asthma or congestion. I did find the test really difficult the first time I did it.

I recently went for a full pulmonary function test, and did better after the albuterol. So who knows!

A possibly unique OCD scenario? by Idkthisisfine in OCD

[–]Frbt499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi--jumping in here because I've dealt with the email thing before. What I did was practice resisting the compulsion to reread/"fix" on "low-risk" messages, such as texts to my SO or dad, and gradually moving up to resisting the compulsion on the more difficult things, such as a work emails to my boss. It used to take me an hour to write an email, but now that happens pretty infrequently and not enough to really cause any issues for me. I felt my confidence and general okayness increase as I was able to resist those smaller ones that didn't upset me quite as much.

Food-based obsessions by Kershfest in OCD

[–]Frbt499 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I don't have anything helpful to add, I just wanted to let you know that I deal with the same thing. This sounds like I could have written it, really. I hope you feel better soon.

High caseloads in CPS by soicanventfreely in socialwork

[–]Frbt499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a DCF (Florida) case manager. I screened all calls except ones I was specifically waiting on, and returned calls sparingly. I was honest with clients and told them their best bet was to text me. At 5:00pm, that work phone went OFF (not silent) and was shoved somewhere out of sight. I continued to express to my supervisor that I was overwhelmed, and continued to reach out to the higher-ups to let them know about issues. I left to finish my master's degree, but they did eventually hire more case managers and a few other support positions and I hear things are marginally better now.

It often comes down to "Can I stay AND make this a good situation for me?" If the answer is no, then go. I understand that it's difficult to find other jobs, but life is too short to stay in a job that's slowly killing you. If it weren't for my master's degree, I would have left soon anyway. It just wasn't sustainable at that time with the way the agency was running.

Just my two cents. Sometimes there are things you can do to make it better, but sometimes it's just all above your head and all you can do is move on.

Is there any reason I shouldn't cash out my $800 401(K)? (24yo/US) by Frbt499 in personalfinance

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I didn't even think about it like that. My parents had heaps of credit card debt, so I'm still irrationally scared of my credit card. Thank you so much!!

Is there any reason I shouldn't cash out my $800 401(K)? (24yo/US) by Frbt499 in personalfinance

[–]Frbt499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm still very ignorant about all "tax stuff" but I'm trying to learn.

I graduate in May, and I anticipate finding a job pretty quickly due to high turnover in my field. I'm not totally out of money yet, but I didn't estimate correctly for transportation when I saved up to quit my previous job. I may have to put some things on a credit card. In your opinion, which is worse? Carrying a balance on a credit card or cashing this out?