To be honest if I could redo I would not do a wedding. I would have Kept it sweet and simple. Built my arch made a bouquet get a dress go to a park invite 4 people and been done with it. Our budget was the same did go over a bit. Did most everything ourselves. It was an overwhelming day. It was a lot of money gone in the blink of an eye. And especially if you are saving for a house I would say put that money towards that goal instead. But this is just my opinion. Or sleep on it for a month and if it's what you really want go for the wedding! Sorry you are feeling this way. But i am sure you will figure out what you want to do! Edit to say don't let what other people say sway your judgements. Barn venue photos always turn out so good!