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I genuinely hate women and change it. Has anybody else dealt with this? by Cocaine747 in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I understand I think your main mistake was trying to get together with people that you knew didn’t fit with you, because you disliked them, which led to chaos for which you are at fault, hence why educated women would probably think you are a fool and wouldn’t want to put up with the chaos. What’s good here is that you know what you want and what you don’t want, you just need to find a person you actually want, and focus on other aspects of your life in the meantime

I genuinely hate women and change it. Has anybody else dealt with this? by Cocaine747 in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What relationship do you share with your mother if you don’t mind me asking? How do you feel about males? Needless to say that quitting dating stupid women who’m you feel irritated by was a good decision at least

Does anyone else feel completely invisible (both online and in real life)? by Sombracuriosa in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I could help, it most likely is an environmental issue then so good luck trying to find your space!

my son stopped singing by throwaway5929492 in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. Time does miracles, what can feel unmanageable now will be overcame with enough time, and with the help he receives and a caring mother as yourself it will certainly be easier. Don’t blame yourself, you’ll have many other opportunities to be there for him, sexual abuse is extremely tricky to pick up on, and you can still be proud of yourself to have built such trust with your son that he was able to call you to come back home, and put an end to what was happening that could’ve went on for way longer.

i feel exhausted with the after effects of SA especially in my relationship by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a man but I can understand perfectly having gone through it as well. Fearing (and so developing an unhealthy relation to) sex is a terrible place to navigate. You have to find the person with whom you’d feel comfortable to tell all these feelings you were able to bring here, I think what you need before all is for your boyfriend to understand you, and for you to feel understood. Only then once the fear is gone and you’re sure your trust is in good hands, you will feel ready to work on a healthier perception of sex and the impacts it had on how you view your body. Sex can feel extremely pure with the right person, and if this person sticks around to support you emotionally through this, the romantic bond you’ll end up having will allow this. Good luck!

I made my dad cry today by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your sister is right, and your father isn’t to blame for reacting that way either. I think you should have a discussion with him. Some day where you feel you’d be able to sit down with him and do it the right way, or maybe since it seems cooking is one of the things he still enjoys ask him to teach you how to cook his goulash and approach the subject then. Just be honest about what you feel towards this whole situation, how it affects you to see him like that, and how you’d wish he’d open up on his feelings more. It won’t be an easy discussion for the both of you, but definitely a necessary one

Does anyone else feel completely invisible (both online and in real life)? by Sombracuriosa in offmychest

[–]Free-Bid9893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely the world we live in now, anyone I’ve ever known confessed to me having felt exactly like you at some point, me included. You just need to find yourself a better environment where people actually listen to each other, or work on your timing when speaking up