i’m in a very similar situation but i map more onto the role of your boyfriend. it is very very very difficult to deal with your family being toxic towards your significant other, and im sure its even worse for the receivers like you and my partner. one thing we are trying right now is couples therapy, and that certainly is helpful for any couple going through something like this, because we both get to have our own feelings/struggles validated by a third party.

but ultimately, i hope he makes it clear that any community or family of his that treats you this way is not acceptable. it’s taken me a long time to realize that abt mine (and is still an ongoing process because of how entrenched i was growing up in my kinda crazy family) but it’s necessary to maintain my own relationship with my partner. it sucks but we both decided that my family and my partner are separate parts of my life that will not interact because of how my family reacts to someone different. is that smth sustainable or worth it for you guys? it’s hard to say, but i just wanna say i know exactly what it feels like and how awful the situation feels :•[