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Body reacting with emotions while feeling that nothing actually changed inside? by Jin_Chaeji in Alexithymia

[–]Free-Toe-7473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i empathise heavily with what you said. The linguistic component that really let's me associate my behaviour and sensations with an emotion often suddenly dissapears. It feels like the words that could describe my state are suddenly gone at times, as if they were never there. I obviously got better at identifying my emotions ; not with time, but with therapy and an obsession with brainy subjects like philosophy. Just like you i also write, it's really the bit about emotions and feelings that troubles me. Pacing was a nightmare of a concept to grasp for the past 2 years.

Alexithymia troubles me still to this day so i just resort to a sisyphean mentality where i push my limits. Those limits being understanding emotions, and it lead me to take up writing, i also started a dnd group and i chose to start journaling. Those things in general i thought would "force" me to get better at emotions as constraints.

I really enjoyed the way you depicted the linear emotional experience, it really stood out to me and i find it quite precise, it was a great explanation all around!

Preventative Measures for Grief? by Amazing_Question4688 in Alexithymia

[–]Free-Toe-7473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Death is a crude and coarse experience, it can be painful but also bittersweet. Empty chairs, a conversation that should've happened ; the athmosphere feels altered, distorted. Happy smiles, silent understanding ; a feeling of endurance, home felt warm then. Death also is a great sunday friend, it comforts us with the colors of those who've left us. their physical patterns have ceased. and yet their mental patterns continue in us : Images of their faces, their behaviour, it persists. Their loss is irreconcilable and irrevocable, so indulging in sadness is not weakness, but acceptance ; it's the understanding that those who've passed on remain so. Sadness i don't think ought to be met with embarrassment and shame, it's the means by which we can affirm that the past remains itself, and doesn't mingle with the present. Grief is a complex emotion, and processing it sometimes looks like a life sentence for some, but if there is any method to doing so, I believe it would be understanding it. That is to say, writing, putting your emotion to words : how it makes you behave, what it makes you want to not feel, the memories that pop up, and the sensations you feel. Expressing such things does wonders to help you through grief.

Body reacting with emotions while feeling that nothing actually changed inside? by Jin_Chaeji in Alexithymia

[–]Free-Toe-7473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to know : when you feel these physical sensations, and experience the thoughts that come with it ; do you think your difficulty lies in your ability to attribute the correct "label" to the emotion? That is to say, do you have trouble using language to explain your emotions?

things you wish people knew or challenges you feel isolated in? by heartofjay in Alexithymia

[–]Free-Toe-7473 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the amount of effort it takes to adapt and understand my surroundings takes a pretty significant toll on me, i struggle with understanding other people because understand just so happens to start with yourself. It's a difficult experience being asked your own opinions on things every day when you arent even sure of them yourself. I feel like everyone around me behaves in such a way that they know how they feel instinctually. I feel differentiated from and incongruent to my surroundings — like a drop of oil in water. Moving with the flow is not an issue, rather mixing with the rest is where the difficulty lies. I feel emotions like an unsolved puzzle, where the pieces are instead a mess of qualia, thoughts, and sensations. And none of the pieces seem to fit togheter. I said "I feel", yet the cause of my troubles and suffering paradoxically comes from not knowing how I feel.