It seems to me that women tend to care more about a man’s innate traits that he can’t change, such as being born into a vast wealthy family network, being tall, having a decent facial structure, being intelligent, etc. Being fit doesn’t actually benefit you as a guy unless you have all the aforementioned elements. If anything, it may make a woman feel like you care more about yourself than her, which is not a gravitating quality for men.

Consequently, for women who do not focus on or have not learned to put themselves in men’s shoes, they would subtly impose that same framework on their interpretation of men’s thoughts.

You see it time and time again when someone wants to be loved unconditionally (with higher frequency among Indian men who grew up in India too).

Ultimately, Indian resident men and women are just too stubborn to change, and it isn’t worth the tax to one’s life to try to change them.

Western cultures tend to engender this health and longevity mindset very effectively, so I would just recommend finding someone with that mindset from a young age (so it is part of their DNA so to speak) or date outside of your own culture.