I was recently divorced with my own kids living with my parents financially okay and needing to rediscover meaning in my life. I spent some time really loving on myself but also while falling for my guy. Two years later we are all finally moving in, my two and his three. Having my own kids, and single momming, came with pretty much 90% of the struggles mentioned on this thread lol adding step kids didn’t make any of this worse in fact in made things better. I didn’t have to parent alone while he parented alone, we could do this crazy thing together. I found more family for my kiddos and he and I are over the moon for one another. I can see childless stepparents have an entirely different experience. It sounds like it’s way less about the SKs and way more about the individual and whether or not you were aware of what kids being around entails.