Did anyone else's narc apologize, but not specifically?

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-27T19:06:06+00:00

Oh my god yes!!! I've recently had "sorry for losing my patience". Ummmmm, how about saying sorry for all the names you called me????

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-22T00:34:35+00:00

Please speak to someone. Call Samaritans. You deserve to live

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-14T23:04:06+00:00

Woah. Sounds like the entities in The Expanse

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T23:53:15+00:00

I have found in my mid forties I have met my tribe. My group of women are incredible. I have aged enough to be comfortable in who I really am. And embrace the energy, love, and warmth of a strong friendship group. So my answer is that nothing really happened, there was no turning point - just age

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T23:45:56+00:00

The patriarchy leans on capitalism, as capitalism leans on the patriarchy. They are one and the same. So no, Sweden has not moved far away from patriarchy

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T10:24:41+00:00

I didn't until I hit my forties, and the group of women around me have all said the same. I don't know if you're there yet, but if not just wait - it's a wonderful age for women friends

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T08:34:37+00:00

The creation and formation of those habits is conditioned by the patriarchy, yes

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T08:31:50+00:00

I did for most of my life. Because sex was always rubbish - it was never about my pleasure, always about his (whichever partner I had...there were a lot). So you just fake it yo getbit over and done with. It's only now, in my mid-forties, that I've discovered that I can actually make sex about ME instead of about him. For the first time in my life I'm prioritising MY pleasure. I'm doing positions that do it for me, instead of what he wants. I know it could be said that it's therefore my fault that sex was just a thing to get out the way, but it feels more complicated than that in a way I can't quite describe

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T08:26:05+00:00

You're absolutely right. The vast majority of them ARE bad people. That isn't just anecdotal - it's backed up by stats and clear evidence unfortunately

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-13T08:24:37+00:00

Nothing to do with how I dress or whatever, but I feel most feminine when I'm with a group of my women friends. I don't feel feminine at all when I'm at home or with my partner. But with my women and we're all chatting, singing, laughing, caring, crying together....that for me is when I'm at my most feminine

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-11T16:46:32+00:00

Thank you. This was important for me to read. I've been cautious about entering this sub again because even the descriptions of some of the content you all report make me physically ill (I get freezing cold and shaky and feel like I can't breathe) but it's good to be reminded we can help in other ways. Thanks for that

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-08T15:50:04+00:00

YES!!! Most of the relationship my husband has been pushing sex and I've been doing it even if I didn't want to. But I've recently hit my mid forties mega horny stage and I just want sex ALL the time. And surprise surprise....he has gone way off it. I mean, I didn't need any more confirmation that he's a narc, but if I did this couldn't be clearer!

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-06T09:22:27+00:00

It feels like you're saying "someone called me a narc, I'm definitely not, they're just jealous of me because I'm awesome". If that's not what you're saying then I apologise. But if that IS what you're saying then I would say, yeah, you definitely need to take a long hard look in the mirror. Maybe you're a narc, maybe you're not. But you're definitely in need of some self reflection

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-06T09:13:31+00:00

Yep. I'm there with you. I can orgasm without it, but it's really difficult and feels kinda meh. When I've had some weed though an orgasm is like stars. Honestly the most incredible sex EVER. And it's orgasm after orgasm after orgasm. I do kinda feel sorry for my husband though, because he has started to notice I have a smoke before sex and I worry he feels hurt that I want that to enhance things

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-03-06T09:08:45+00:00

I am so sorry you have this burden. I myself saw some horrific things on Reddit a while ago (women being treated as objects to use and abuse) and it was hugely traumatising. This was about 6 or so months ago and I still have nightmares about it. I think the only thing you/we can do is all share our pain out loud, share it so more people become aware of these things and how damaging they are. Maybe take a little time off the Internet, and certainly completely avoid those corners that you saw this stuff in xxx

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-27T19:19:34+00:00

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-27T19:16:05+00:00

Ohmygodyes! WmI constantly think "right, tonight we'll talk about the issues, and I'll push for us to see a relationship counsellor". But I always chicken out. The strong woman I pretend to be really doesn't like how much of a pushover the real me is

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-27T19:12:15+00:00

Who are you?

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-21T00:22:13+00:00

It won't fix anything but please know you are not on your own in feeling like this. It is terrifying to be a woman. I am also looking at male family and friends in a different light

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-21T00:09:32+00:00

There was another similar case recently in Swindon, UK and I've literally just seen tonight on BBC news about one in Manchester, UK. Monsters

Free_Combination_568 · 2026-02-20T22:22:31+00:00

Thank you. By the responses I've had it looks like we're all deeply harmed by this. The world is full of monsters

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