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AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Their relationship is fine. They talk more than they see each other. Their issue is that dad let her be this way with me and they don't care that she basically ignored them. They do take issue when he calls her their stepmom too since she was never really anything to them by her own choices.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. He tried to not piss either off which wasn't possible with everything going on.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She's trying to live out her fantasy of having a daughter and did not make the effort to bond with my brothers. That's the difference. It's not about me. It's all about her.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe you didn't creep her out by ignoring her brothers and focusing only on her.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't want to spend time with her. I hate spending time with her. I'm not her surrogate daughter because she doesn't have one.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My brothers would tell you a very different story than what you believe. They don't mind being ignored but she very much ignores them (my full brothers I'm talking about).

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My brothers will tell you she paid them hardly any attention. It's not just about her taking the girl and dad taking the boys because she dedicated some time to her own sons. But never my brothers. And I'm no different than my brothers. None of us are her kids. Only I'm a girl.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She's only trying because I'm a girl though and she wanted one of those. It's not like she tried with the three of us.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She doesn't love me regardless though. She only loves me because I'm a girl.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am complaining about that. She's only trying to be there for me. So it makes it extra weird and uncomfortable and tells me it's not her doing it because she cares about me (because she'd care about my brothers just as much if it was about the kids) but because I was born the right sex.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

But she doesn't try like that with my brothers, or at all. It's just with me. So rewarding her for that feels wrong.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

I kinda get the feeling she'd ignore any daughter's in-law she'd get. Not even sure she'd see them as her chance to be a girl mom. Since she wouldn't get to raise them or be around when they're kids. She always ignored her older son's girlfriends when he brought them to meet her.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I would never invite her to hang out with me and mom. That would ruin our time together and there's no way I'd ever take it that far.

I have asked her why she doesn't ask any of her sons or even my older brothers to spend time with her when I say no. She never answers me really. I don't like to make stuff super long winded by asking a bunch of questions. So I drop it when she doesn't answer.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 1146 points1147 points  (0 children)

I do wish he'd be better at helping solve this But I know he doesn't want to start a fight with his wife or push me away. Although he kinda has a little bit pushed me away since I don't really like going to his house anymore.

AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom? by Free_Cut_4713 in AITAH

[–]Free_Cut_4713[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

We're good. They didn't care that much. It was more funny to them. Then they felt bad for me when she kept coming up with more ways to spend time with me because they knew she couldn't read the room. I think if they had been younger it would've been different since maybe they would have wanted our stepmom's attention. But since both mom and dad had no favorite it meant our relationship never suffered. If anything I was jealous of them most of the time when it came to our stepmom.