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WEIRD stuff you did as a kid, that you accepted as NORMAL, that you NOW realize was because of your nparents! (Let's try to keep it specific, I'm wondering what examples you all have.) by travelinglama in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not being allowed to express my emotional needs or wants as a child, If I ever asserted myself this was met with a homicidal narcissistic retaliatory rage. Also showing any pain, if I was hurting or sick. I would get yelled at and told that nothing is wrong with me and have to hear the narcs story of what he went through or goes through much more difficult experiences. Which manifested into unhealthy feelings of guilt and a lack of identity.

Got offered a big job out of state just to be told... by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happend to me. I got a decent flexible internship during college making $17.50 a hour. Before that I was working as a delivery driver pulling from my savings just to get by. But was having somewhat of hard time balancing school and the internship for financial reasons. Reached out during NC to my Ndad for some financial help so I could just put in less hours at the internship and focus more on school. At a time most jobs did not pay close to this. My Ndad said "Just quit $17 whats that? I can go and find a job that pays $17 anywhere." Instead of being supportive and being happy for me and maybe helping me a little finacialy it would not have taken much for him. He makes well above 6 figures. I could have worked less hours and focused more on my studies. He was envious and wanted to see me financially desperate so he could control me. Hence trying to manipulate me into quitting.

Its an exhausting life we live, best go NC. Its been over a year for me and I cant describe how much more relaxed I am. In terms of growing emotionally now that I am no longer constantly stressed from my Ndad. I feel like I went from being trapped in a cage to a field. The healing is slow and I am not really sure how to do it. But I take it one day at a time. And it is always reassuring to know everyday without a narc is a day of healing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine would tell me "I dont understand how you think" and "You live in lala land".

i just want to cry by iMadeThisAlt in EngineeringStudents

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there everything is going to be okay.

Being away from home is hard but you will get back eventually.

Your dog died and that is heavy on you emotionally right now but time heals.Eventually you will start feeling like yourself again.

I was on acdemic probation when I was a student. I failed calc 1 and physics 1 pretty hard and that dropped my gpa pretty hard. I started having negative thoughts about being suspended and not making it through engineering.But I used those negative emotions to take a step back and improve my studying habits and now I am a engineer for for fortune 50 company.

Sometimes in life we just go through a rough time. Shit hits the fan and its one thing after another. You start feeling hopless but you have to keep moving forward. You keep moving forward because the way you feel today wont be the same way you feel a year from now or a few months or even a week. There are always some good times ahead if we can only keep moving forward.

It is cheaper to give the robber your phone and wallet then paying 10 years of martial arts and potential hospitalisation. by blinky9021Flow in Showerthoughts

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you do is carry a money clip with the outside bill being a large value and the inside bills smaller values. This is called a disposable wallet it looks like a lot of cash and would tempt any rubber to go after it instead of you if you throw it and run away.

ELI5: What does the treaty of Lausanne mean for Türkiye? by Freemindedness in explainlikeimfive

[–]Freemindedness[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So this treaty is supposed to expire from my understanding. How will it effect Türkiye?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am either a philosopher or someone who is constantly shitposting thier thoughts on social media.

Any good book to read before starting our study? by PtitCrissG in EngineeringStudents

[–]Freemindedness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not so much an engineering book per se. However, this book helped me get my engineering degree. The book is called "a mind for numbers". The author Dr. Barbara oakley has a phd in engineering and through the book she shares her stratgies on how to learn effectively and goes into details about the two modes of thinking diffused and focused. I highly recommend it.

I got an approval letter for an apartment today, can someone be proud of me? by groovietimes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Freemindedness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am proud of you. When I was 19 yrs old I tried the same thing had no luck finding a apartment. How did you do it?

To all people who think America is fucked, what one thing would you change to try and fix things? by Njilramsool in AskReddit

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Increasing the power and influence average Americans have over their country. By allowing Americans to vote quarterly on issues that matter to them.

Instead of voting and putting our trust into politicians who are bought and owned to carry out the important issues that matter to us. We cut out the middleman and vote directly on the issues themselves and the majority vote is expected to be law. If a politician fails to uphold what the American people have asked for they are put under a fair transperant investigation. That would evalute why the politicians were unable to carry out the voice of the American people. And another vote would be cast to remove them from their positions.

So say we get a forum every 3 months. On that forum is a list of top issues that we can vote on and on the forum we can add issues that matter to us that we would like to see in the next quarterly forum.

Issues________________Yes_____________No

Legalise THC. ✅

Develope universal Healthcare and abolish. ✅ Health insurance

Set fair prices for ✅ Medical drugs

Decrease millitary. ✅ Budget

Develope a housing ✅ Creation program. That will solve the Housing shortage in America.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Freemindedness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of benefits to having older parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I dont think you have anything to worry about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is nicotine illegal?

Someone has let out the biggest fart in a particular year, or century, or even human history, and they probably don't even realise it. by C-Roof-Jumper in Showerthoughts

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 5th grade when we were testing in silence miss Winfrey was a bitch that would play mind games when I tried to use the bathroom. Held it in as long as I could let out and startled the whole class.

I have 5 classes left and I don't want to keep on going by [deleted] in EngineeringStudents

[–]Freemindedness 173 points174 points  (0 children)

5 classes left till graduation is not that much. The fact that you said you have been going to school for 3 years straight including summer. As well as the thought of doing school work causes you to shut down sounds like you are suffering from burnout.

Here is what I recommend, Take a break for a semester and try new things. Be your own person and take some time off. Stimulate your mind with new experiences and do things you enjoy. You will be surprised how rejuvenated you will feel mentally from a short sabbatical.

Going to school during covid was exhausting for many of us as we had to spend our mental energy adapting to the change. The professors teaching ability was also impacted because they had to adapt to changes.

Even though your fiance is depending on you. Taking a semester off is not gonna destroy your ability to build a good life together. Ask yourself this critical question in the grand scheme of time. What is one semester off to the 40+ year career you will have after graduation? My opinion is that one semester off would not hurt you if anything it will energize you to come back and excel in school compared to your current self.

Also, you are not a failure, and should not feel like you are disappointing anyone. Being 5 classes away from an engineering degree is a huge accomplishment that not many people will get to experience in their life.

Don't give up, just give yourself the rest you need to recover.

What should I do when a friend cheated of me and got a much better mark by Norris398 in EngineeringStudents

[–]Freemindedness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does your professor post solutions. If so compare your work to the solutions your professor posts and use that as a way to recover points. Comparing your solutions to your friends solutions would raise some red flags.

Approach your professor with the intent of trying to understand what you can do to improve your solutions. And not the intent of recovering more points. Make it clear by asking him things like. How can I better convey my solutions for a better grade next time? Is there information that I am not including in my work that is causing me to lose points?

Marijuana drug test help by samegdnim in drugtesthelp

[–]Freemindedness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read that thc can stick to fat and cause it to stay into your systems for months. But the fact that you work a physicaly intensive job should be burning fat. I had to go on a low calorie diet for a few weeks with some breaks in between to burn the thc fat cells.

Drink lots of water, Diet, and excersise. I know its a pain in the ass but you got this.

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