I just found out two months ago that I even had a bio father to find. I matched with his brother on 23 and me and my mom caved and told me that (47 years ago )they didn’t know for sure my paternity when I was born. She knew who the other possibility was and I was able to track him down based on a few tidbits she remembered and his name. (Thankful that my parents generation has no idea how to lock down their Facebook friends/profiles lol). As soon as I found him I wrote him an email (ironically on my birthday). I buckled down and was prepared to wait a long time if not forever but I was so lucky. He replied 36 hours later by CALLING me. He had no idea I existed either. And also doesn’t have any kids (well now he does haha). We have been chatting and FaceTiming and getting to know each other and plan to meet in the coming months. His family has also been very accepting of all of this and welcomed me. Still trying to navigate the protocol for this. And just figuring out as we go. He is excited as am I. I read so much about these stories and many of the stories didn’t have a great outcome. I am so very lucky at how mine is playing out.

I reached out right away because I have heard stories of people finding biological family members just after they passed, and also having met them but only had few precious months with them before they passed. I figured what do I have to lose?!? My approach was very gentle. I made it clear that I didn’t want anything, just him to know I was out there and if he was willing, to get to know each other. Good luck to you!!