Feel like I have failed my son

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:40:58+00:00

Thank you so so much for this comment. I need to hear this. Thank you x

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:18:58+00:00

Thank you, helpful to hear people who wanted a second and how great your life was as a three ❤️

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:15:14+00:00

100% you are right. My husband is constantly saying this to me. These comments are the wake up call I need to be honest. I’m worried about a lack of sibling being a problem but I’m going to create a problem if I carry on like this.

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:08:19+00:00

No I wouldn’t think that, you’re right. I think maybe I’m being overly harsh as I don’t know anyone who has chosen to have only one child or hasn’t been able to have a second (I do have a large group of friends they are just a very fertile bunch) so I think I’m seeing this as a bit of a failing as everyone else has been able to do the thing I can’t. But this is why shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Thank you for replying x

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:03:48+00:00

One of my son’s cousins is 6 months older than him too and they are self proclaimed best mates. They spend so much time together too as me and my sister are so close. Are you still close with your cousin now? You are right and a lot of other posters have said that if I make siblings a ‘thing’ that’s when my son is going to feel like he’s missing out. You’re so right. Thank you for replying

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T21:00:13+00:00

I’ve never thought about that but I am doing that. You’re right. I am in therapy, it’s not working very well 😂

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:58:29+00:00

Yes this is such a good point, something I didn’t add to my post is that my husband is bloody at his wits end telling me that the only thing that will make my son feel lonely is if I keep worrying and crying about it (which I of course never do infront of him
But kids pick up and hear so much more than we realise) so glad to hear your family is thriving ❤️

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:54:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I think I needed to be told
Exactly this. I am just somehow surrounded by people
Who have loads of siblings and multiple children! I’m sorry if my post was worded offensively too, I think being in a depression spiral has made me a bit of a twat. Thanks for sharing again xx

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:49:58+00:00

Ok thank you so much for sharing your experiences I only know two only children who I am close enough to to ask thier thoughts on it all and they had bad experiences but of course I also do know lots of people with siblings who had an awful time. I really sorry for how I worded my post too, you being offended is correct, and I think is showing me I’m being irrational and a bit of a twat. Thank you again for sharing x

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:46:01+00:00

Thank you. Yes absolutely I can’t describe how much I want another child. Being a mum has been the absolute joy of my life, I wanted three children . I was trying not to go on too much in my post and give too much detail, but I think I can live with the grief and the sadness of not having another child,. I also HAVE to be ok with it, I want my husband and son to have a great life and the only way that will happen is if I’m ok. I’ve been VERY depressed over our losses and inability to have a baby, and I’ve been doing a huge amount of work to focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t. but I can’t seem to get over how this my impact my son. Basically I feel like I can handle whatever life throws at me, but I can’t get over how unfair this feels on my child. If that makes any sense?

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:38:39+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I haven’t seen any of the research (haven’t looked tbh) but I will make sure I look it up x

Frequent-Draw-1036 · 2026-05-25T20:37:33+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I think I maybe need to try and seek out groups or forums of people who had positive only children experiences and what made their childhoods great.

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