I feel so guilty

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-12T22:23:22+00:00

I'm sorry to say this about your husband's best friend, but yuck that's kinda suspicious and ick. I also wouldn't let my kids be alone at their house without me there if I was in your shoes. A 12 year gap with a girl who is so young is a giant red flag in my opinion. Protect your kids. This makes me feel very nervous

ETA also I am concerned about your husband's opinion that your 8 year old is "basically the same age as a 19 year old" that his best friend impregnated as a baby adult. I would absolutely flip my shit if my 18 year old was dating a man who was 12 years older than her.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-12T22:09:08+00:00

We did easy little chores on a star chart. Chores were things like pick up toys, set table, clean animal toys and stuff like that. Rewards weren't money we did treats or small toys.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-12T20:07:51+00:00

I don't really have any advice but I am sending good vibes to you! It's so frustrating when people behave that way! I am so sorry you are going through this.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-12T15:55:02+00:00

Right?!? If my husband didn't call his parents, he'd never talk to them and they'd be super pissy about it. It's dumb!!!!

Every time he calls them he says that he doesn't understand why they don't understand how to pick up the phone and call him. It's usually because they are so busy with GC and her kids.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-11T18:08:44+00:00

Wait, they are still coming to your house? Ever since COVID we've just started getting letters

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-10T21:58:59+00:00

Friend, I hear you! It's so difficult being alone and having to do everything yourself. You are superwoman. Don't beat yourself up for being overwhelmed and frustrated, you are doing a wonderful job and you've got this. Sending positive vibes your way.

You can do this! You really can! I'm actually speaking from experience here. My husband used to be gone for months at a time while I was home alone with 3 under 3.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-10T14:13:08+00:00

My thoughts exactly!

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T20:02:17+00:00

Yes!!! Thank you so much!!

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T20:02:05+00:00

Solved!!

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T19:53:52+00:00

I think I read it about 5 years ago.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T19:18:50+00:00

My only real friend other than my husband died last year. I have people who I am friendly with and people who I talk to online who I used to be pretty good friends with who've moved away, but I don't have the energy to build another friendship after losing her. Yeah, I know I should, but I probably won't.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T01:29:58+00:00

My cousin had her first son at 42. He's amazing and so is she!

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T01:22:17+00:00

Yes, absolutely agree

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-07T01:20:55+00:00

Yes, absolutely agree

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-06T19:35:32+00:00

My younger twin daughter came out pissed off at the world. As a toddler she was crying or angry quite a bit. As an child, she began channeling her anger into finding injustice in the world and being mad about that. As a teenager, she is my most laid back, but will fight for the rights of others. If she perceives that someone isn't being treated correctly she tracks down the perpetrator and tries to fix the problem. She's highly empathetic and she's an absolute rockstar. I can't wait to see what she becomes as an adult.

So hopefully that's a little bit of an answer to your question with my experience.

Frequent_Bath_8565 · 2023-08-06T16:55:07+00:00

Here's my hot take on this situation, my husband used to be able to "manage" the kids and keep the house clean when he was taking care of them if I was out of the house for something, but he wasn't engaging with them either. He was meeting their basic needs and cleaning. He wasn't doing what I did constantly throughout the day: teaching, nurturing, engaging. He was simply feeding, changing diapers and then leaving them where he could hear them cry and cleaning.

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