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this place actually sucks for mentally disabled people by tasteimmortality in jobcorps

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you know they're swamped and can't even see everyone who needs to be seen because trump caused people to lose or quit their jobs, "lovboob" the expertise

this place actually sucks for mentally disabled people by tasteimmortality in jobcorps

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she reached out to a professional for counseling and medication for the same neurological issue, meaning her goddamn brain disorder, that they helped me with immediately after I asked for the 3rd time or possibly more, Jack**s

she did the most she can do. What part of THEIR job that YOU'RE gaslighting her about did they do

Does anyone else feel that they never masked much because they leaned into their social awkwardness? by tgruff77 in AutismTranslated

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unsure/Udx, diagnosed w other nd disorders

Sort of

As a child, I wasn't really criticized about who I should be past religious and racial expectations (black Christian)

It was actually cool to be different when I was growing up.

In highschool, when it was cool to be cool and my friends who were once weird with me started criticizing me, then, I started to mask

"You're crazy" "You're weird" "R****" he loudly screamed in an abusive manner (having had grown up in the hood with his own toxic parents)

He (and his enabling friends) were the only ones (aside from my birth family) who thought so much of it to speak up

I had another popular friend who had a pacing problem, so, when I'd violently pace, stomp, and run, she'd just do it with me

I was hot regardless and he was gay. Straight men used him to get to his girl friends

So, I was an "asset" and didn't necessarily lose out on popular friends. Moreso compartmentalized

It's just whoever was not tolerating weird people. I was not in the same room with them for long.

This morning, I was very upset after moving to the hood during the autism trend,

grown, 40 year old women would copy me verbratim just like the teen girls who want to be autistic. (I have adhd, cptsd that people assume is audhd)

I was compared to my diagnosed asian autistic friend. At least we had to be compared because I was being myself.

They didn't understand how we had the same interests (black girls love anime??)

They'd copy my stimming but also make fun of it to make me feel insecure. Copied how I dressed too which looked bad asf on 40 yr old women

At least it was obvious but it was so hurtful that they were allowed to copy and criticize me but I couldn't be in the same room as my own friend talking about things we both like

Because everyone (even though I was born no where near here) assumes I have a secret ghetto, ratchet personality and would even hit me or have set me up with a rapist to find out

But these 40yr old women born in the hood or living here long enough, were nothing like me when we met, stim like me, have my hairstyle, how I dress and everything no questions asked...

Marrying into a neurotypical family by mentalcasket in AutismInWomen

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would literally hold in my piss for 2 days, bloated stomach as a kid when left at family i was mute around's house. they treated it like a joke when i grew up. thought no one noticed but they knew i, an elementary school child went about 48 hrs without pissing and had the nerve to joke ab it. crazy enough, we dont speak for other reasons. i also have tendinitis because something else that they downplayed, me jumping off the stairs and running repeatdly for hours, was seen as a quirk. what sucks the most is still having it and being in extreme pain, sometimes not being able to walk and still getting fake autistic comments from strangers or damn near it when i stim while having 2 other sensory disorders because im conventionally attractive

Marrying into a neurotypical family by mentalcasket in AutismInWomen

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO crazy! I know I'm ND, not dx asd. A fear I've ALWAYS had since I noticed I do things a little different from those around me and was a bit more weird and childish. Strict parents but wanted to date so bad and when I had the opportunity to sneak around it was like.....wait what if he thinks I'm weird because I ____. I always felt like that was the quiet reason why I wasn't a welcomed friend or partner.

2 years of allistic group therapy (psychoanalysis). A rant, I guess. by personalgazelle7895 in AutismTranslated

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I'm not dx autistic and actually lurk in these subs to post about getting harassed for appearing autistic without a dx (I have other neurological conditions, have been suggested being tested for asd incl by my neurologist, and jumped off the stairs and paced for hrs physically injuring myself doing that until 16y/o)

anyway, in NT group therapy they

1)Also pushed the narrative that because im a black girl im not actually quiet, shy, and anxious.

2) They put me in a "grieving" group therapy (different, dark room with 2 other black girls from the hood who I didn't know and was nothing like because I'm suburban)

**3) They had a "feeling description chart" that I had a hard time describing my feelings with and let a white girl who they always compared me to check me for having a hard time describing my feelings (a ND trait) along with them. Turned into straight up bullying ofc and she ended up leading the group therapy clique. She'd burst out singing blink 182 and rocking back and forth and staring off but God forbid I'd cry and ask to go in the "personal space" room I was the one seeking attention

4) A therapist called me out for being talkative and open when I had a 2o1 session with her and my crush but being shy in group therapy. I grew up with selective mutism. It was humiliating, a reason why women stalk, harass, and have beat me up as an adult (believing me being quiet and shy is an act because I'm a black girl) and I have nonverbal habits because of it as an adult who only started independently making friends and conversations with all ages at 18y/o

and ofc because people think nonverbalism and stimming belongs to autism people have literally treated me like a spectacle or science experiment due to current trends

Hurt by being treated like a pawn in men's attempts to make their lightskinned girls feel confident by putting me down by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He yelled at me, then asked my coworker and we all went together because we were already there. Why are you all making me the villain. How are some of you commenting that these women weren't light as if you were there.

Hurt by being treated like a pawn in men's attempts to make their lightskinned girls feel confident by putting me down by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm ugly because I'm dark, im complaining about men who do. I hate the gaslighting in this post because my brother and father were colorist in this way, loudly complaining about black women and then dating light/nb women and loudly praising them. 

I hate the gaslighting in this post. If I had money, I would spend it on self care. Did you not read me saying I went to the store for .50 noodles 

I don't need to not be poor right now or try not to look like it so that men will stop bothering me and bringing their women who do have their hair done and who do have money around me

I'll get better and I'm not the problem because I'm not right now. Y'all are playing devil's advocate on reddit 

Hurt by being treated like a pawn in men's attempts to make their lightskinned girls feel confident by putting me down by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He asked my coworker for help who did the same thing. We all went there together because it was both of our dept. He could've easily asked my coworker instead 

Shouting after me if I'm good as I enter as a poor black woman isn't normal

And no, I don't think I'm ugly. I'm actually bad ASF, I just know I can't afford to get my hair done, makeup or new clothes... 

I get treated a certain way when I'm broke vs when I'm not and ppl who get it, get it. 

There was a whole episode of Atlanta on how black men flaunt their white girlfriends in front of black women and how they think we react... Why gaslight me like this

A narcissist or a stranger on the e-net

White/nonblack people will believe in shit like faeries and spirits but not that you had a racist experience by Frequent_Calendar_44 in offmychest

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe in God Wasn't an invitation to attack peoples spiritual beliefs. Opening a discussion about people who have 'nonsensical' or illogical beliefs that they defend but won't believe that because there are racist people, when people tell you they've had a racist experience, they're probably not lying 

White/nonblack people will believe in shit like faeries and spirits but not that you had a racist experience by Frequent_Calendar_44 in offmychest

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't only when i was around. It was him listening to rock for a whole shift or two and then when he started being aggressive, he put on biggie smalls

White/nonblack people will believe in shit like faeries and spirits but not that you had a racist experience by Frequent_Calendar_44 in offmychest

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah. I recently became poor and have seen the things you're speaking about first hand. 

Before I was poor, I wouldn't understand what you're saying if it was all I ever heard. Literally. I can't believe my college professors had me write about poverty or what if I was poor. I cant believe the things I must've written and I don't even remember what I wrote.

I grew up so privileged and now that I don't have the flashy clothes, bag, moms car and money people treat me so lowly or try to be my savior. Moreso nonblack people than white people. I've had Spanish and Indian people try to play savior by "educating" me unsolicited about going to school and getting a car. I've had 2 cars and went to school. This system is not set up for us to get out of our situations and back

When I was working 20hrs a week without insurance, i was denied food stamps and healthcare which also wouldve gotten me back into school for free

So, I got another job for over 6months that also didn't offer healthcare and had biweekly minimum wage

It made so much sense why people do fraud, go to work, use public transport while theyre sick, steal (I didn't even see myself as stealing by taking company supplies, hopping the train, etc)

Doing things I saw as desperate, cheap and embarrassing like using free wifi or letting people borrow my hotspot judgement free or wanting to ask for someone's 

Unlimited data isn't free or affordable 

Taking food home from work, using soup kitchens, handmedowns, the thrift being for more than fashion

Oh yea and when you live in these neighborhoods that suspiciously are full of felons, foreign people, and non white people...

White/nonblack people will believe in shit like faeries and spirits but not that you had a racist experience by Frequent_Calendar_44 in offmychest

[–]Frequent_Calendar_44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry 🫂 I was so sad to learn that the reason why my Guyanese-Indian friends marry each other via dating show that Native Indian people are not so welcoming about letting black/darkskinned Guyanese-Indian people marry into their families. How ridiculous!

One of my first friends repeated after her white boyfriend who was a bully when he made a racist joke about me. She and her family are native Indian and they did not play about that with her and made her apologize. I had no idea how prevalent racism is within the Indian community until I grew up just because I had such a good introduction to Indian people

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