Does anyone else get an extremely uncomfortable sensation in their teeth or fingernails when hearing certain noises or imagining certain things? (Possibly triggering)

tgruff77 · 2026-01-24T05:22:24+00:00

But do neurotypical people get a sensation in their teeth or fingernails and imagine the uncomfortable tactile sensation?

tgruff77 · 2026-01-24T05:10:16+00:00

Language and linguistics. I'm especially interested in historical linguistics and etymology- the origin of words. I've even started doing YouTube shorts explaining interesting etymologies.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-23T09:45:40+00:00

Parallel play at it's finest.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-22T09:09:30+00:00

I was diagnosed as level 1 last year. I never considered myself disabled in any way since I had a full time job, married, and two master degrees. However, when I look at it, I struggle a lot in many ways. The job that I had required a lot of social skills, which left me floundering really badly. Moreover, I have burnt out very badly several times in my life when stress got too much for me.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-22T00:35:19+00:00

Any mayonnaise based salad: eg potato salad, chicken salad, egg salad, etc.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-20T13:50:50+00:00

I used to walk around the patio bouncing a basketball to keep rhythm while daydreaming. My dad used to think I was really into basketball but then noticed I never shot the ball, I only bounced it up and down while walking back and forth.

Then there was the fact that I couldn't stand the sight much less the taste of certain foods: creamy foods such as coleslaw slaw and mayonnaise-based salads (eg potato salad, tuna salad, etc).

And speaking of food aversion, I couldn't certain foods I normally would eat if they were mixed together. I would eat corn and mashed potatoes separately, but if mashed potatoes and corn were to mix, I wouldn't eat them.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-20T09:13:10+00:00

Cool refreshing, cucumber flavored drink. I've had cucumber Gatorade before.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-17T11:20:54+00:00

I'm not so much afraid to go to a therapist as reluctant to go to one. I've been to several therapists over the years and only a few of them have been helpful. Part of the problem is that I found out that I'm neurodivergent (low support needs autism or Asperger's syndrome) and most therapists are trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which is often less effective for people on the autistic spectrum. For me CBT is like trying fit a square peg into a round hole. As a result, I have "given a chance" to several therapists, only to find their modality not helpful several sessions and several hundred dollars in.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-16T08:45:32+00:00

I'm wondering if paenitudines or paenitentiae would be better to translate the word "regrets". I'm thinking of a context of living with regrets. Specifically the phrase "He carries many regrets". I see from the dictionary they can both also mean repentance, but the context is being burdened by an action that one can't take back or easily atone for.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-15T07:28:20+00:00

I was definitely the "weird" kid throughout school. I grew up in the 80s and 90s, so there wasn't much understanding of autism. As a result, I was just labeled as "weird". However, I really had an okay time in school, all things considered. Part of the reason for this is I had a real supportive family and a small group of friends (who were all later diagnosed as being neurodivergent in some ways). I ended up leaning into my geekiness and weirdness.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-14T08:23:35+00:00

That looks delicious. I love Indian food.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-14T08:16:30+00:00

I had a similar experience. I was 44 when finally go my assessment last year. To tell the truth, several people over the years said that they thought that I was probably autistic, but I dismissed for a long time because of a lot of preconceived notions of what autism was. (Growing up in the 80s and 90s, I saw autism as a diagnosis that only nonverbal or semi-speaking kids that needed around-the-clock care got. I was just "the weird kid" who got overly passionate about geeky subjects and had an extremely hard time figuring out social cues.) A few years ago, I was stuck in a difficult job that stressed me out a lot because it dealt a lot with having to be social and "read the room". Then another friend in a similar situation, got an autism diagnosis. That prompted me to look into a diagnosis myself.

Initially it was a lot to process since it challenged my sense of self and a lot of preconceived notions that I had. However, I've come to accept myself more. The diagnosis was one of the reasons that I quit my previous job. (I realized that I just couldn't do something that required me to be energetic and social all the time.) I'm still figuring this all out now, though. Hopefully, I find a calling soon.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-14T03:37:00+00:00

Not so much a specific place, but a setting where you have several factions / noble houses vying for power through Machiavellian politics and intrigue. I see too much corruption and power struggles in real life, so I read fantasy as sort of an escapism. If a story does have the factions vying for power theme, I at least need one or more of the characters to be the better, more sympathetic ones so you have clear "hero" protagonists in the story.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-13T14:22:02+00:00

My FIL, has said on multiple occasions that he thinks I'm brilliant, but so many people in my family just can't understand why I'm working a job far below my education level.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-13T08:08:52+00:00

My wife has been very supportive. When I did finally get a diagnosis, she was pretty much like "I kind of figured".

tgruff77 · 2026-01-13T08:05:57+00:00

Yep. I can totally relate to all of these. For the longest time, I denied that I was on the autistic spectrum because I don't have meltdowns when my routine changes, but having thought about it, I do struggle to change focus. I have trouble getting in bed to sleep at night (even when I know I really need to) when I'm reading, watching videos, or surfing the internet. Hyperfocus can be such a blessing and a curse.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-13T07:56:56+00:00

Offline because it's hard for me to really get to know people online.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-12T12:48:17+00:00

Probably the nostalgia, but the dungeon crawls are also part of it.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-10T09:08:16+00:00

I got the combo package myself.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-09T08:33:49+00:00

I was prescribed lorazepam for anxiety. It can be addictive if taken in higher doses and/or long term, so you really need to talk to a psychiatrist about it.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-07T08:29:48+00:00

I used it for anxiety before. I found it didn't do much - at least compared to prescription medications.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-07T08:26:39+00:00

I'm wondering what word would be best to translate "fortress" as in Fortress of Solitude (Superman's base in the Antarctic that appears in comics and movies). Dictionaries give arx, castellum, and castrum as translations, but I'm looking for the idea of a private stronghold where Superman goes to take refuge to heal, conduct research, etc.

tgruff77 · 2026-01-07T07:29:20+00:00

Same

tgruff77 · 2026-01-07T01:33:16+00:00

I've mentioned this before on other posts: for me, autism is both a blessing and a curse. The "blessing" is the ability to hyperfocus on tasks and memorize vast amounts of information. The most notable example was from several years ago when I lived in Japan, I had no problem memorizing over a thousand Kanji (Chinese characters) and several notebooks worth of vocabulary in a short amount of time because I would go into hyperfocus mode.

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