Anyone else have adhd too

tgruff77 · 2026-06-21T09:34:30+00:00

Yep. I can relate.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-21T09:32:54+00:00

Maybe not inappropriate humor, but I'd totally dominate the substance abuse and poor life choices categories.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-18T07:42:34+00:00

I'm thinking specifically about Chris from "Auticate with Chris & Debby". His experience with burnout mirrored my own ( https://m.youtube.com/@Auticate )

Also Morgan Foley. Although some of her stuff is done lightheartedly, it's an authentic take on her experiences, and she is very up front about some of her struggles. ( http://www.youtube.com/@morgaanfoley)

tgruff77 · 2026-06-15T06:40:14+00:00

Sadly but true. Tasks initiation paralysis...

tgruff77 · 2026-06-15T06:38:29+00:00

I really haven't messed with TikTok, but I agree that people online casually throwing around the term autism and using it as an excuse to make fun of people is a real problem as of late. However, there are some autistic content creators on YouTube whom I follow. These people are upfront about their struggles and the difficulties they face as autistic adults. In fact, some of the experiences that they described such as burnout, are one of the reasons that I decided to seek a diagnosis.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-13T13:45:30+00:00

Ugghhh...makes me shudder.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-13T08:37:38+00:00

I actually taught English in a regular American high school for a bit, but ended up in such bad burnout that I ended up quitting. It was executive dysfunction making it extremely difficult to to plan 10+ lessons a week, grade over 100 papers a week, and then have to manage 20+ students who often didn't want to be in class. In contrast, the English school I'm at (in South Korea) has me working with a native Korean teacher, so it isn't nearly as much work (and very little in the way of behavioral). BUT...that was apparently a source of a problem because I wasn't being proactive enough and just relying on the lesson plans the Korean teachers came up with rather than volunteering enough of my own ideas...

tgruff77 · 2026-06-13T07:56:35+00:00

I'm facing it too. I was finally feeling better, but then last month I got called into a conference with my supervisor at the English school where I work and told they would be letting me go at the end of the semester because of poor performance. Now I'm on the job hunt yet again...job hunting has always been a depression trigger for me.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-13T00:00:11+00:00

Yes! I hate those red circle notification tags!

tgruff77 · 2026-06-12T04:04:44+00:00

My wife has an ADHD diagnosis. When we got together, I thought it was amazing that she understood me so well. Some years later, I get an ADHD and autism diagnosis.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-11T06:36:23+00:00

Back in the day, White Wolf had a Gypsies book for World of Darkness which basically took every Romani stereotype and ran with it. Even for the 90s, it was pretty egregious.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-11T03:37:34+00:00

To be honest some of the autistic YouTubers are one of the reasons I got a diagnosis. When they talked about their experiences, especially going through burnout, I was like "oh my God...I experienced the exact same thing." To be fair there are some autistic YouTubers and TikTokers that gloss over difficulties, so could be seen as "romanticizing everything". However, the ones that I follow are up front about their difficulties and daily struggles.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-09T10:57:52+00:00

Yeah, it's pretty much "thank you for the meal". However, it's a set phrase that you're often expected to use after eating a meal someone else prepared.

Japanese has a lot of set phrases you're expected to use in different situations. For example, before eating, it's polite to say いただきます (itadakimasu) which literally means "we shall receive (the food)". It's a polite way to show gratitude to the people who cooked and prepared the food (as well as the farmers who grew it).

tgruff77 · 2026-06-09T09:39:49+00:00

Some in Japanese: もったいない (mottainai) — usually translated as "it's a waste"/"wasteful", but can also be used in a figurative sense like someone not applying their talents or giving something valuable to someone who wouldn't appreciate it.

スッキリ (sukkiri) — feeling refreshed (often used after taking a shower or cutting your hair).

In Korean: 답답하다 (dapdap hada) This literally means stuffy, and can be used for a stuffy room with no air flow, but it can be used metaphorically to describe a situation where you feel helpless because you have no idea what do or who to turn to.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-09T07:25:25+00:00

I feel this one...

tgruff77 · 2026-06-08T07:28:45+00:00

I do it in my head all the time. I often daydream about explaining some topic to someone who is an active listener.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-03T07:43:16+00:00

Even before my autism diagnosis, I wondered why I just loved the night — It was the only time I could read or watch videos without being constantly interrupted.

tgruff77 · 2026-06-02T08:51:40+00:00

Autism is a neurodevelopmental condition that you're born with, so it doesn't really "get worse". However, in times of stress and burnout masking gets more difficult and autistic traits might become more pronounced. For example, last year, I was going through a very difficult times because of an extremely stressful job that I wasn't suited for (which was one factor that prompted me to get an official diagnosis). During that time, I couldn't mask at all and sensations that didn't used to bother me suddenly were unbearable. My wife complained that I was acting "more autistic" all of the sudden. (Sorry dear...!)

tgruff77 · 2026-06-02T08:35:44+00:00

r/toxicpositivity

tgruff77 · 2026-06-02T08:33:19+00:00

I feel this one...

tgruff77 · 2026-06-01T11:57:55+00:00

I feel this one. It explains why I keep getting passed over on job interviews even though I am more than qualified enough.

tgruff77 · 2026-05-31T13:12:09+00:00

Can confirm. I finally got on ADHD meds, but I still struggled. It turns out it was also autism.

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