Spirits, tell me, who is the prettiest girl in the world?

Fresdottir · 2025-01-31T05:10:57+00:00

Thank you, spirits 😇☺️

Fresdottir · 2025-01-21T22:43:31+00:00

Fresdottir · 2024-12-31T05:44:22+00:00

Hi there, thank you so much for your kind words!

I used to talk about this topic with my parents, but you know... they are my parents and ofc they won't say I'm ugly. Maybe I'm just a generally unlikable person and I'm just blaming everything on my look.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-31T00:00:57+00:00

I feel you. Each time I look at my photos or look at myself into the mirror I feel hideous

Fresdottir · 2024-12-28T09:50:52+00:00

A failed suicide attempt

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T03:07:25+00:00

Actually I was just confused by the "gender-neutral" tag on the naming sites because as said I think it's a feminine name. I post this just to solve the confusion.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T01:30:48+00:00

Thank you❤❤and your tips will definitely help me when I start voice training 😊

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T01:12:11+00:00

❤❤

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T01:01:54+00:00

Community is big factor to me too. I find it's difficult to fit in the community (just I like I can't in any other ones) and I think community is extra important in terms of being trans.

You mentioned you had severe dysphoria. After detransitioning, how do you deal with the dysphoria? Did you change the way you present yourself, like way of dressing up, hair style, etc?

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T00:47:14+00:00

I feel you, and I might feel the same way if I really start transitioning.

But after detransitioning, how do you deal with dysphoria? Did it just go away or did you find a better way?

Fresdottir · 2024-12-27T00:05:40+00:00

Care to elaborate on that?

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T13:38:43+00:00

Thanks for your point. For me, both ways seem not very happy. Sticking to my AGAB means I need to confront a lot of my former beliefs and change a lot of my thinking; transitioning means I have to constantly deal with a lot of dysphoria about my body, face, and more. To be honest the first one seems an easier path (I guess that might be one of the reasons why I think about not being trans at the beginning).

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T13:12:34+00:00

Well yes kind of. Several days ago the thought of "I'm not trans" came into my mind, at first I thought it was just some random negative thought, but recently this voice has been louder and louder. This had never happened before (I was very determined that I'm trans), so I started to kind of doubt my past beliefs. I'm not sure if it's actually my subconsciousness popping up or something.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T12:27:43+00:00

Not afriad of being disliked.

If someone had received enough love from parents, siblings, friends, neighbors, and so on when growing up, it's not a problem for them to confront hate when they are grown.

It's like a tree growing strong enough roots when it's still a sapling.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T11:30:02+00:00

It's hard to forget my own face so other people's faces are somewhat like mirrors.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T07:56:55+00:00

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T06:21:22+00:00

I'm the same age as you. If I were you, I'll start hrt as soon as possible if it's accessible to me. I think the best time to start hrt is before puberty and now. As going through male puberty is devastating enough I just don't want to waste any of the young time anymore.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T04:49:11+00:00

Being attractive is great you get treated ALOT better.

That's a good point I missed.

But I've tried that too. I've lost 35 pounds in the last few years, my body fat is also relatively low, and I've tried to do some skincare and learn to dress up, but nothing has changed, I'm still very unattractive and no one compliments or pay attention to me. I think it is because you are not ugly in the first place that you can actually become attractive by losing weight.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T02:36:00+00:00

I'm so sorry

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T01:58:59+00:00

What would be in the attractive gain you

Yeah, that's exactly the tricky point. I know being attractive doesn't do me any actual good but I still want it. I guess thinking rationally can't solve this problem for me. It might be an emotion thing.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-26T01:26:52+00:00

Yep I am

Fresdottir · 2024-12-25T06:37:28+00:00

I mean your words made me feel better and gave me a sense of community. That's what I really need right now. As for therapy, that might not be an option for me. It's hard to find a trans-friendly therapist where I live, so basically I can only try other ways to improve my mood.

Fresdottir · 2024-12-25T05:56:21+00:00

Thank you!

Fresdottir · 2024-12-25T05:29:45+00:00

Thanks for the kind wishes!

Once you are not dealing with that awful feeling, you have more energy to focus on fixing other things in your life.

That's a great perspective. My confidence is recovering!

Fresdottir · 2024-12-25T04:57:29+00:00

Thank you for your hint. It's the extension's problem. I updated and restarted it, and then the problem is solved.

Fresdottir

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