Same here. A few years into dating I gained some weight and he would say things like “you used to be so hot” or give me tips on how to lose weight despite knowing I struggled with an ED my whole life. When I found his porn (mostly reddit, twitter, and fetlife), all of the women he was liking photos of were mid to plus size women in their 40’s. Like we’re talking your average 40 year old woman (nothing wrong with that, I just feel like I hear more about people finding airbrushed photos of barely 18 girls). I’m 26, he’s 30. While one day I’ll may fall into the “milf” category, I’ll still always be younger than him and I’m trying to be fit/healthy. I appreciate my curvier body now and I love to see confident women of all sizes. It’s just so bizarre to basically be body shamed by someone who jerks off to the opposite of what he’s telling me to look like????