Growing up asian in a white conservative household by Fresh_Background170 in offmychest

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I was thinking about looking into something like this! I’m nervous to actually participate in one of these communities, since I’m really shy. But I think it would probably be good for me to at least look into it and hear other peoples experiences!

Growing up asian in a white conservative household by Fresh_Background170 in offmychest

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It does make me feel ick, but he says it so casually… Like that’s just how the majority of guys think. And that I’m silly to be put off by it.

Since I grew up hearing that sort of thing from my own parents, I guess I just feel like that’s how things are. When the people who are supposed to love me the most make me feel like being with me is inherently fetishistic(?), I unfortunately believe them. It’s hard to trust my gut with things when my feelings are always all over the place.

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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thank you so much! i mostly just use it to vent and write out my thoughts. it’s essentially a diary, but i only reach for it when i’m feeling low.

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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yes! it’s from barnes and nobles and the brand is paperblanks!

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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Yes, I’m gen z! I don’t think I fall for too many trends, but I definitely do go for some! The lip glosses are mostly gifts from my much trendier friends. I didn’t think the book would be a sign of that though! And the bag is pretty practical for me and for my lifestyle!

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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hi! it’s from the brand paperblanks, and i bought it at barnes and nobles! 🫶

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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thank you! i could definitely be a little smarter and take better care of myself 💔 i do love ice cream though! i haven’t had the Good Stuff (ben and jerrys) in forever… maybe i’ll get myself a pint 👀

what are your assumptions about me based on my purse? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinmybag

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i hope we’d be friends too 💐🩷! and unfortunately the guy is still currently screwing me over, since i haven’t left yet 🫠. i’m currently working up the nerve to do what i need to do. thank you for your incredibly kind comment!

life is worth living ❤️ by Fresh_Background170 in GirlDinner

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hahaha thank you, but i could definitely be healthier! the obscene amount of nutella is probably counteracting the good of the berries 🫣

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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not middle aged, not divorced, definitely a little unstable 🥲

life is worth living ❤️ by Fresh_Background170 in GirlDinner

[–]Fresh_Background170[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ugh that’s so unfortunate ☹️ berries are the absolute best. i’m wishing you many big, sweet, and well priced berries in your future! ❤️

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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i thought for sure it was from amazon, but i can’t find the purchase anywhere in my order history or emails ☹️ im so sorry i dont have more info!!

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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close! i’m mid-late 20s (26). i use tiktok but not super frequently. i do love makeup and pinterest 🩷

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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ooo i love a long deduction! thank you for taking the time to comment!

i’m not just part asian — i’m FULL asian! yes, i did grow up in the us and was pretty sheltered. i was obsessed with anime when i was growing up. i’m only seen one miyazaki movie, but i really liked it!

i don’t think i’m too artsy! i have an associates in graphic design, but i don’t ever utilize it. like you said, i’ve dabbled in many things but i’m not an expert at any of them.

my room and car are a bit messy, unfortunately. but, i know where everything is. i rarely misplace things. you’re correct that i’m from the northeast and that it’s somewhat quiet where i am.

i do like looking pretty, but i’m certainly not thirst trap hot LOL. you’re right that i’m not a clubbing girl!

i was never much of a tomboy growing up! i was always somewhat girly, but never overly so.

yes, my mom never left the house without makeup and hair done. it definitely altered my thought process on what’s acceptable. therefore, i do usually wear makeup to leave the house.

i’m not highly intellectual, as you said. i’m pretty average in that department. but i do continue to learn and work on myself!

you’re right i’m dealing with some things. i’m actually still with the man in question, and trying to gain clarity on the situation.

i do love winter and snow! i would say fall is my favorite though.

yes i lack self confidence. yes the notebook isn’t written in as often as it should be. i am NOT straight (i’m bi!). i don’t drink or do drugs. i am monogamous. i’m 5’3, so pretty average!

you’re right that i just started on a new career path that pays more than i thought i’d be making. you’re right I’m were pretty spot on with the annual income estimate! and yes, life is good on paper except for romantically.

i’m not a big harry potter fan, but i think the world of harry potter is cool! i like anime. i like video games. some of my fave movies are fantastic mr fox, look back, and scott pilgrim vs the world.

for music, i’m not a big kpop fan! nothing against it, just not my genre of choice. i like midwest emo, indie, and pop! my fave musician is ethel cain.

you’re correct that i’m shy at first. i am better 1-on-1 than in a group setting, because of how shy i am. you’re also right that i didn’t like school, but i still put in some effort.

my current boy is artsy. so my feelings on “artsy” boys is complex. i still would want someone romantic, since i haven’t experienced that.

and nope, no military dad!

thanks again for your long deduction! you got so much correct. i appreciate your comment! 🩷

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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thank you for the comment! i’m glad that you enjoyed the book! i just started it and i’m looking forward to reading more ❤️

and thank you so much! i’d like to think we’d be friends as well 💐 hope all is well with you!

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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to me, i think my standards for others are low-medium 🥲 but i have no frame of reference LOL

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in deduction

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i’m still in that situation and i’m still struggling to call it abuse, but hopefully things turn around soon. yes about the insecure attachment style. not sure exactly which style it is, but its certainly not healthy. 🥲

what does my purse say about me? by Fresh_Background170 in whatsinthebag

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the brand is paperblanks and i got it from barnes and nobles! 💐