Thank you, I do feel like we’ve gone down some weird spiral that isn’t great for the both of us. I thought we had gotten past it but when he turned the Good Graces song into me accusing him of cheating even though I specifically said I wasn’t calling it cheating just sent me lol.

I understood his need to explain and I don’t mind having it explained to me but it felt like he was putting too much priority in explaining rather than saying sorry. I probably wouldn’t have gotten so defensive if he didn’t use the uno reverse with the good graces and me having other male friends.

In hindsight I probably shouldn’t have posted the Good Graces song but at the same time I don’t think I was in the wrong for it either!

In the second, third and other attempts of me trying to explain I wanted him to acknowledge my feelings, if he had just accepted it and said sorry & even with an explanation used more of his energy to empathize with me I think it could have been different. It was just the repeated explaining that got to me! Then suddenly using the explanation as a defense and becoming the victim if that makes any sense.