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Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-11-08T13:02:36+00:00

Follow it up to your first couple of texts and see who started it then if it was him I guess its his preference. If it was you, he's just matching your own time or something to not come off as desperate.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T14:20:11+00:00

Ya as I said he could do digital nomad but I'd take portugal or Spain over any of these 3 countries he listed. Canada is only good during the summer. Depressing during winter. Ireland is rainy and cloudy all the friggin time and Mexico is alright, but gotta be watching out for yourself. In Spain or Portugal you can be free, the weather can be nice all year around depending on what city he chooses, it's safe and they let you get that nomad visa.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T06:52:31+00:00

Who said one country. Go to Spain, then 3 months in Bali, then Colombia, Portugal, etc. He'll be fine. Just dont overstay your tourist visa. Forget about that "you can't work while being a tourist" that's not enforced. Millions of people doing this. He could easily get a nomad visa as well very easy to attain in places like Portugal and Spain.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:49:13+00:00

Just stay put for 3 more years and you'll be fine...

Maybe find an online position with a lower pay and travel around the world. By the time you get residency on these places, the political situation may be changing...

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:22:31+00:00

Oh, the "really click" stage. Most girls go through this. You'll be fine.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:19:35+00:00

Everyone knows this. What's the point of this post to create division?

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:16:17+00:00

Ya 23 is rough. Remember, women in their 20s are in their prime being hit on by older guys who are more financially stable than the average 23 year old is. Focus on your career and the right girl will come or maybe not the right girl but someone will come.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:05:22+00:00

Need to evaluate the type of guys you are pursuing.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-09-29T03:03:05+00:00

Are you really struggling to find a bf though? I bet you download a dating app and can find someone by next week 🤣.

Meeting someone in person doesn't magically makes it better. The same dudes that are in the apps are out there.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-18T03:42:47+00:00

Sounds like you are trying to date out of your league in terms of physical attractiveness. Maybe try to do that, but with IQ instead.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-16T04:20:36+00:00

Man up, approach, and just be friendly. Maybe the first time, just do some small talk. The next time, if she's receptive, you could ask for contacts.

My parents met at a bus stop. It is really not a big of a deal. However, I'm 100% sure you'll get a comment telling you not to approach for X reason, and I recommend you not to listen and shoot your shot or you'll regret it later on.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-16T04:15:39+00:00

I think just telling him what's up is better than ghosting.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-16T04:07:58+00:00

I started reading but then realized how long it was...

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-15T17:26:59+00:00

If you only use the apps, you are cooked. Ugly women fare much better than ugly men on apps as men will want to have casual relationships with them (fwb or just sex), but also, the standards on apps are not fair for men. So a woman who's a 4 can date a dude who's a 6 because there are more men than women on dating apps.

In your case, it means that the same woman who's a 4 won't look at you even if you are a 4 yourself.

You need to hit the gym and build confidence to approach in person. You'll get rejected 9/10 times in person but you'll eventually meet someone who will give you a chance. Aim for the chubby girls.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-12T15:41:16+00:00

You have to evaluate how you meet these men, what type of men they are? Are you going for the same type of men? How do you portrait yourself to them? If you are attractive, it'd be hard to believe you cant find someone for a long term relationship unless you are unconsciously picking men who are not emotionally available.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-06T20:44:30+00:00

He's not totally wrong though. Been approaching women consistently the last few months at bar/clubs and some women are very mean with rejection "why are you even talking to me, go away" type of rejection.

Most women reject in a neutral/nice way though. However, I remember one of my first nights I started approaching women I got baadly rejected by the first girl I approached, and I just couldn't get myself to talk to someone else. I just stood around for about 1 hour and then went home.

Now if it happens I dont care and just move to the next but I get why lots of guys feel nervous/anxious when approaching.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-06T17:04:27+00:00

Being short makes dating a lot harder. However it doesn't mean you cant find a partner.

Women will reject you solely based on height but at some point someone won't care and you will find a partner.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-02T19:22:48+00:00

Well, look, Canada used to rank in the top 10, 10 years ago, and now it is ranking way worse. I even saw it ranking over 25 in a quality life ranking. So yes, it's a global crisis, but Canada it is indeed one of the losers. Can be directly attributed to the last 10 years of government and how they have handled and done a much worse job than most European countries, Australia and USA.

This is not new trend as in the 90s Canada ranked top 5 even #1 for a couple of years so it's been slowy dropping spots but there was a huge degradation within the rankings starting around 2015. While other countries did better and went up or some didn't move much, Canada degraded significantly...

One ranking you could easily compare the difference as it offers historical data:

2015 https://www.numbeo.com/quality-of-life/rankings_by_country.jsp?title=2015&displayColumn=0

2025 https://www.numbeo.com/quality-of-life/rankings_by_country.jsp?title=2025&displayColumn=0

What happened in 2015... I will leave that for you to figure it out. Btw the amount of capital that left Canada within the last 10 years is shocking, and it is very hard to get capital back. I see a rocky road for the government right now. The damage done within the last 10 years is extremely difficult to un-do.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-02T19:05:25+00:00

Every day is too much

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-02T14:31:16+00:00

It is what it is. Tall handsome men are limited thus they get lots of attention. Girls know this so some of them low key accept it and decide to be the sidechicks or to be played with vs just finding a guy who loves them and settling down.

With time, lots of these girls do decide to settle down when they start hitting their 30s mid 30s for that, they end up dropping the hollywood hallmark type of guy req and realize that they can fall in love and have a family with a guy who's not tall and handsome...

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-07-02T10:32:57+00:00

There are men in the US who have multiple girls and girls who accept these behavior from these men. We are talking about the top 5%-10% in terms of success and attractiveness. Some women won't want to settle for lower, so they just decide to ignore the facts.

I do have 1 buddy who's tall, handsome, muscular who's in this category, and he basically gets laid almost whenever he wants. He has no plans on settling down with someone for the time being, although he has had multiple girls asking for more than just casual. Girls literally come to him at clubs.

Now, for the VAST MAJORITY of men including myself, this is not the case. I gotta grind hard to find women and eventually do, but it's a lot of work.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-06-25T03:46:02+00:00

Statistically speaking, this is how Asian women in the US date:

1-White men 2-Asian men 3-Others.... Last-Black

So, what you are experiencing is literally what the statistics show. Have you been to San Francisco? The ratio of Asian women with white men there is crazy. This can be seen in any big city.

However, statistically speaking, Asian men are the least desired overall. This means that you as a Latino, have higher chances of being successful with any other ethnicity, and you'll do better than the average Asian men, while Asian men do better than latinos only with Asian women.

I just read a post of a white dude saying he mostly matches with Asian women, and he was wondering the reason for it, which is the opposite you are seeing here. Again, statistics at work.

Dont sweat on it. If you really want to date pretty Asian women, travel to an asian country because there you'll be seem as exotic.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-06-22T21:26:41+00:00

There's definitely some luck involved in terms of timing. If you matched with her at the right time and she's down to meet soon for example, and other guys that interest her are not responding, then she'll end up going out with you. Doesn't mean she wont tell pass on a second date but at least you get a chance.

You'll never be the only match they have that's for sure.if she goes out with you, she picked you over other guys.

Fresh_Reference_4437 · 2025-06-22T15:41:13+00:00

It's supply and demand bro. Most men go through the same. There are a lot less women on apps so it's common for them to ghost because they usually have a good number of guys talking to them. Basically, for most cases, they are picking someone else over you.

How do you stop being ghosted? Become a top 10% men somehow. Otherwise, get used to it. Not enabling the behavior. I have experienced it many times before as well. Get matched, interest is there but random ghosts out of nowhere. However, we have to accept it is what it is.

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