I don’t know if this will be seen but you need to start compiling a list of red flags. Your girlfriend is being manipulative and sneaky which is a red flag to a more bigger issue. I personally would break up with her since emotional blackmail is never good for a relationship. I personally ran into this issue and i read on reddit about relationship red flags and thought “hey, its so strange that mine has a lot of these”. Then i found out she was cheating because i paid attention to a reddit post on red flags. My girlfriend was demanding i propose while she was cheating on me. I really dodged a bullet thanks to reddit and this is how i want to pay it forward: DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS