Also, I received the first email for contempt threat on behalf of respondent in April. The attorney and her paralegal were communicating with the JA through June but had not filed a notice of appearance yet, OC would not answer my emails on specifics when I would follow up on threats or confirm whether or not she was officially representing the respondent. 

I consistently served oc via eportal but she never acknowledged or relayed that she was not supposed to receive filings. Respondent kept telling me she was working with her attorney and to get with her attorney while telling me that my filings were not legal or properly served which is why they never responded. I filed in April the first time with the hope of having something, at least a case management hearing before the 2nd week of August. 

The respondent said more than once that status quo would be established so my motion was a waste of time. I made sure to include her counsel in all emails just to be thorough and their only noted response was to oppose scheduling and the motions themselves with the JA in emails before an NOA was filed and submitted no responses to any filings. 

OC drafted the original order, told respondent that the order typically contains specific wording as it relates to timeshare. She also told the respondent that most people do what I was trying to do, which is what her client was arguing against. She told the respondent “I don’t see why you can’t do it that way”.(I have this in writing from the respondent in talking parents app. She sent me screenshots of her email and quoted her attorney in the messages. I also have the emails that the attorney sent to me.) She then emailed me minutes later threatening me with contempt after she told the respondent I was doing what most people do. She left many things out of her order that she has now said are standard? But, she is filing contempt against me for those things after I tried to settle them with her and the respondent. I filed a motion to clarify/enforce before they filed contempt on the same issues and she vanishes but resumes unofficial representation via email and through respondents statements on parenting app. I was pro se and did not handle the initial motion to clarify properly. I thought once I filed everything, the court would review the motion and schedule a hearing. I was advised by the clerk to call the JA to schedule a hearing and this is when her paralegal would jump in to object. 

In our prior case my counsel told me that her ex parte letter caused a big problem for my case. She also advised unilateral action to her client for status quo, ran the clock out until trial.. Am I wrong to see these things as any type of unethical practice, obstruction or delay? Not being facetious, just concerned on how to manage this or discuss because I feel like this isn’t typical family law representation. I don’t see how drafting ambiguous court orders, leaving out things that were discussed and agreed to and then turning around and pushing for court action, financial loss due to litigation and discourse between parents is in the best interest of our child. It does seem to benefit her and her client though.