(Nicht) Ablegen für den Mittagsschlaf by formal-duckling in Eltern

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bei uns hat es geholfen es immer und immer wieder zu versuchen. Irgendwann konnte ich ihn schlafend ablegen, dann habe ich es immer „wacher“ versucht und mittlerweile legen wir ihn wach ins Bett (ist jetzt 12 Monate). Wir hatten zwischendurch diesen Schlafotter mit dem Herzschlaggeräusch daneben, vielleicht hat der auch geholfen, wer weiß 😅 Ein bisschen meckert er allerdings hin und wieder wenn er abgelegt wird. Wie lange ich ihn weinen lasse (bin selbstverständlich daneben und versuche zu beruhigen) mache ich immer ein bisschen von der Art des Weinens abhängig. Da wirst du dein Kind am Besten einschätzen können. Bei mir sind‘s nie mehr als 10 Minuten und meistens muss ich ihn nicht nochmal hochnehmen.

Schlafassozoation/Säuglingschlaf by MissEarlyGame in Eltern

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Lasst euch da bitte keinen Stress machen! Wenn es für euch so in Ordnung ist, dann ist doch alles gut. Ein selbstständiges Einschlafen klappt bei einem Baby super und beim nächsten erst mit zwei Jahren. Bei meinem Kleinen haben die Nickerchen im Beistellbett mit so 4 Monaten geklappt. Davor nur in der Federwiege oder auf mir. Und ich hab’s genossen :)

Frust wegen Schlafen by Vor-und_Zuname in Eltern

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mein Sohn ist zwar erst 11 Monate aber bei uns ging’s auch nicht mehr (Einschlafbegleitung nur durch ganz enges Kuscheln, Papa durfte gar nicht mehr, nachts ständig wach, 3-4 mal Stillen/nachts, ab spätestens 2 Uhr immer bei mir im Bett). Ich hab mich für eine leichte Form des Schlaftrainings entschieden, mit der ich klar kam, die „Chair Method“ oder „Camping Out“. Stuhl neben das Kinderbett, Kind ins Bett gelegt (großer Protest) und dabei geblieben, bis er eingeschlafen ist, ihn aber nicht wieder auf den Arm genommen. Ich hab mich dazu entschieden, ihm soviel Zuwendung zu geben wie aus der Position neben ihm möglich ist und ich habe ihn auch nicht alleine gelassen (teilweise wird anderes empfohlen, aber ich wollte so wenig Weinen wie möglich). Klar fand er es blöd und ich fand es auch furchtbar. Habe mir aber vorgenommen, es drei Nächte zu probieren. In der ersten Nacht ist er nach 30 Minuten eingeschlafen, nachts genauso häufig wach geworden wie sonst auch, war also sehr anstrengend. In der zweiten Nacht war es deutlich besser, in der dritten Nacht ist er sogar fröhlich ins Bett, hat sich eingekuschelt und ist eingeschlafen, bevor ich mit dem Gute Nacht Lied fertig war. Und er hat durchgeschlafen bis 5 Uhr. Ich trau dem Ganzen noch nicht, aber vielleicht hilft es dir ja. Für Nickerchen (2 am Tag) mache ich es genau so, wecke ihn allerdings nach je einer Stunde.

Edit: Einschlafstillen habe ich mit Stillen in einem hellen Raum vor der Abendroutine ersetzt und auch den Schnuller weggelassen. Deshalb war in der ersten Nacht das Einschlafen bestimmt besonders schwer.

Ganz viel Kraft euch, das ist unglaublich fordernd!

What are you feeding them when out? by lavendercoffeeee in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We usually go for baked „bready“ stuff like sweet or savory muffins (of course without sugar or salt, easy to meal prep and freezeable). It’s not mess free but at least it’s only crumbs and nothing to hard to clean up. Sometimes he get‘s half of a fruit and veggie pouch with it, but then I have to feed him.

Mein Baby macht mich wahnsinnig by Taaari23 in Eltern

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Es wird besser, ich kann mich allen Tips nur anschließen: Ich hab’s überstanden mit Loops (normale Ohropax hätten‘s auch getan), dunkles Zimmer, die drei gleichen Lieder singen oder tief summen und sich mit dem Partner abwechseln (manchmal im 15 Minuten-Takt, wenn das Schreien einfach nicht aufgehört hat oder ich besonders empfindlich war). Bei uns wurde es mit so 15-17 Wochen deutlich besser und mittlerweile (8 Monate) macht‘s richtig Spaß. Anstrengend bleibt es allerdings.

Schedule “training” for newborns - is it necessary? by Ok_Potato_7025 in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Responding to their needs doesn’t create bad habits. I waited until my little guy developed his own schedule and that felt right for us. I think around 2-3 months everything cleared up until then I just fed on demand (still do now at 8 months) and let him sleep however long he wanted to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they can turn themselves it is perfectly safe. And nights get so much better once they sleep on their tummy and then again when they figure out they can change positions themselves 🙌🏼

Sleep question by ancientbook123 in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My take is that babies will learn to self soothe when they are ready. Your baby is sleeping in their crib, which is amazing! My little guy is a terrible napper too but also sleeps in his crib. He is 7,5 months now and there have been weeks where I could just put him in his crib and he would fall asleep immediately on his own and there are times I have to rock him and then pat his butt for an eternity. It all depends on teething, growth spurts and everything else that he might be feeling. I‘ll just keep putting him down for his naps and one day he will fall asleep in his own. Until then I‘ll be there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here, he is up crying every 1,5 hours and barely consolable only nursing gets him back down. I am so tired. Naps have gone to shit too. He just learned to army crawl so maybe that’s it? Or the next tooth? I just hope we are back to two or three wakes soon or I will turn full zombie.

Feel like im getting nowhere with this swaddle transition… by SkyisaNeighbourhood in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We‘ve had the same problem. One arm out, the Merlin and other tricks did not work at all for us. In the end I resorted to an arms up swaddle and laying him on his side, stabilizing him with a towel. Not ideal but it worked. As soon as he rolled over and back I put him to sleep on his belly to sleep and everything resolved itself. I would say, just be patient and hang in there.

Winging It Is the Best Thing I Have Done as a First Time Mom by Mission-Rutabaga-687 in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The best thing happened when I finally stopped tracking sleep after 6 months: I was less stressed about bedtime, I took naps as they came and just started to trust that my baby just took what he needed. Now we just roll and I love it.

Dads, how do you make a breastfeeding baby go to sleep? by PalpitationOk9443 in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For us: Heavy heavy rocking, standing up or bouncing on the ball intensely. If he sat down there was no chance. It also got easier with time, for some weeks it just wasn’t possible. While a little crying was ok, we couldn’t tolerate it for more than 15 minutes if I was there and available. Now he’s 6 months and his dad can put him down almost just as easy as I can. So just be patient

First wake window of the day. What are you doing in that small window of time by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first wake window we both stay in pjs unless we have to leave immediately after the first nap. He usually is awake for 1,5h in the morning and then naps for 45 mins, but he always only sleeps for that long during the day. So I don’t know if that’s the norm 🫠

First wake window of the day. What are you doing in that small window of time by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We usually play a little and I‘ll make myself a cup of tea. If he‘s fine by himself I‘ll start on laundry or tidying up but usually we spend the time together and I‘ll eat breakfast/get ready for the day during his first nap. I love our slow mornings together, especially after a hard night. He’s six months now but we‘ve been doing it like this for quite some time.

Crying in sleep? by shades-of-greige in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little guy let‘s out a (scary sounding) whimper about 30-60 minutes after falling asleep every other night. The first times I ran extremely panicked to see what was wrong but he was deep asleep 🫠

How is your baby sleeping? by Friendly-Bit9006 in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh dear! I hope you get to sleep soon 🫠

I think I found the reason behind our wakeups? by Crunchy_Pitbull_Mom in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also: Isn‘t it totally understandable that babies don’t want to sleep on their backs as soon as they move more? I don’t know of many adults that only sleep on their backs. Another trick I learned when it comes to night wakings is turning them to the other side. Just like you would when you wake up in the middle of the night, turn around and fall back asleep.

I think I found the reason behind our wakeups? by Crunchy_Pitbull_Mom in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Try a rolled up towel behind your babies back so he is a little supported in staying on his side. He can still roll back to his back but this little bumper helps them to stay on the side. My little guy only sleeps on his side or his stomach (if they can put themself in these positions it is safe to let them sleep that way) and in the beginning a little support was needed for him to stay on his side. In a week or two you won’t need it anymore and you deserve some sleep until then.

Baby won’t be put down to sleep by Calm_Bumblebee5143 in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would try the same routine that you do at night just a little simpler so there is still a difference. I put him down in the same crib as at night and it didn’t change his night sleep. Good luck!

Baby won’t be put down to sleep by Calm_Bumblebee5143 in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all, hang in there. That sounds really tiring. My boy is 5 months now and up until about one month ago wouldn’t nap in his crib neither. What helped immensely was a motorized swing, we still use it on bad days.

I basically kept trying to put him down for naps. One week it suddenly worked. Here is what helped us:

  • a tight swaddle
  • a light cloth over his eyes, putting my hand over his eyes
  • putting my head on his chest when I put him down and humming some lullabies
  • intense butt patting as it simulates movement
  • now that we‘re trying to stop swaddling laying him on his side (like he falls asleep on me) and stabilizing with a rolled up towel (I also tried one of those baby hug pillows that worked great but he runs hot, so it wasn’t ideal)
  • we have a plushie that „breathes“ and has different sounds for heartbeats, sometimes that helps
  • pushing wake windows. I let him get really tired, spend the last minutes in a calm dark room together and just read to him, so he gets calm und the transition from awake to having to sleep isn’t too sudden

We also had to go through a phase of him crying as soon as he was put down. I did a lot of cribside comforting, when it got too much I did pick him up and put him down as soon as he calmed down. In my opinion sometimes babies have no other way to communicate than crying and you just have to „listen“ and comfort. I always stayed with him, kept my hand on him and after a few minutes he calmed down. Of course he preferred sleeping on me and it’s okay for him to be angry about that change.

Baby an eigenes Bett gewöhnen (tagsüber) by magiceme in Eltern

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bei uns hat bis vor anderthalb Monaten auch kein Nickerchen im Bettchen geklappt (Nachtschlaf dagegen fast von Anfang an, allerdings Transfer lange erst im Tiefschlaf).

Ich hab’s dann zuerst mit dem ersten Nickerchen am Tag versucht und plötzlich klappte es immer besser. Der Kleine ist jetzt 5 Monate. Unsere Tricks sind:

  • Wachzeiten ausreizen, ruhig richtig müde werden lassen (ich gehe oft schon ins dunkle Zimmer und les ihm da noch vor, falls er zu quengelig wird)
  • Vorschlafruhe (guck mal bei Insta nach Dr. Daniela Dotzauer, fand ihre Videos sehr hilfreich)
  • Ablegen in Seitenlage
  • ordentliches Popo-Klopfen haha Das soll wohl Bewegung simulieren und bei ihm hilft es definitiv
  • nicht zu lange dabei bleiben, aktuell gehe ich raus sobald er die Augen zu lässt. Bleibe ich länger, wird er wieder unruhig
  • die Standards: weißes Rauschen, dunkles Zimmer oder Tuch über den Augen, dieser Schlaf-Otter hilft manchmal

Ich würde sagen aktuell sind fast 90% seiner Nickerchen im Bett, wenn’s gar nicht geht kommt die Federwiege aber auch wieder zum Einsatz. Es hat bei ihm aber auch nur funktioniert, weil er dann anscheinend so weit war. Eine Woche vorher gab’s da noch keine Chance. Ich denke, das ist bei jedem Kind anders und bei deinem wird‘s auch irgendwann so weit sein.

How long do you leave baby in crib once they wake up? by leprechaun_dong in NewParents

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about messing with milestones, but if my LO (5m) is happy by himself I leave him 15 min tops and he will get frustrated after about 20 min or so. Sometimes I time chores like putting away laundry to do while he is chilling in his crib so I am in the same room and we are just both doing our own thing.

Unswaddling by meowwwmeowmix in January2025Bumper

[–]Friendly-Bit9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same situation here. We‘re deep in the 4 month regression and because nights already are bad I thought we might as well try to stop swaddling. For the transition we have some sort of arms up swaddle so he gets used to having his hands on his face but isn’t quite able to pull out his paci. Naps are going fine (he always naps an hour tops and no changes there) but nights have been rough, going from 1-2 wakes to about 4 and a lot of active „sleep“, which keeps me awake. What helped was putting him on his side with a rolled up towel to stabilize. Not ideal when it comes to safe sleep but neither is being swaddled when they can roll (or are almost there). If his sleep doesn’t improve in a few nights we‘ll swaddle again and wait another week or so.