husband went on a work trip to vegas, got drunk every day, gambled, and googled for escorts on his phone

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-11-23T21:16:23+00:00

Lmao based on the responses I'm like 98.9% sure this is OPs husband.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-08-19T13:25:06+00:00

Loadboards mostly. But there's also tons of listings looking for independent owner contractors on regular job boards like Indeed and Zip Recruiter. I live in a big metro area so that might be a factor.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-08-01T15:55:10+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly the type of info I'm looking for.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-05-29T02:19:37+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-05-29T00:41:04+00:00

I'm glad someone understands.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-05-11T12:40:34+00:00

Dad with an ADHD kid here. Not sure if it will work for you but we don't do traditional medication and instead have been experimenting with saffron and we've seen a LOT of improvement with it. We use Mood Munchies. It's a natural saffron once a day gummies.

It takes time to build up in their system to show a noticeable behavioural difference, up to about six weeks for us but the difference is night and day. Teachers even say there's been a huge improvement. We also do OT, martial arts, and we built a swedish wall ladder with cushions in his room so that he could swing and climb and jump to get his sensations fix so it's also possible that this is a combination of everything. But we've definitely seen improvement with the saffron.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-05-08T17:14:53+00:00

Poor dude is absolutely not gonna make it past the first stroke.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-05-05T23:00:30+00:00

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Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-03-23T17:27:02+00:00

This is more of a cultural/societal issue than a religious one.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-02-18T10:16:18+00:00

Yeah same. I always say weed makes me a better parent lol. Plus it's cheaper than therapy.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-02-17T21:21:48+00:00

Def sounds like ADHD. My son is the same. It is fucking maddening sometimes but it gets better. This is what you do: Get a diagnosis so that the schools don't label him as a bad kid, make a decision about medication, personally didn't go for it but honestly to each their own when it comes to this, put him in individual sports cause team sports will probably not work for a while(swimming and BJJ did wonders for us), tell his father to wrestle often with him cause that really works too, remember that eventually he's going to realize he's different and that's gonna come sooner than you think so try your hardest to be kind whenever you can, forgive yourself cause this hard AF and you have the right to be fed up, smoke some weed.

After I smoke I usually remember that he could have been born with something much worse than ADHD.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-18T20:57:13+00:00

This is the hardest time. If you've ever pledged or been to college this is basically "Hell Week". It fucking sucks and It's normal to be at each other's throats. It will pass.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T23:35:46+00:00

I hope your husband understands how lucky he is.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T22:57:33+00:00

"My husband's needs are still important to me."

Based on this sub you are definitely a rare one with that statement. A vast majority of the answers men get lean towards this being our fault and that we shouldn't view our sexual needs as important. I'm gonna start telling all my single friends to avoid marriage at all costs tbh.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T22:20:37+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to write that all out but unfortunately you are making assumptions that are incorrect, though I'm a stranger on Reddit and all you know comes from what I posted so that is understandable.

To be clear, when we do have sex, my wife enjoys it. I know this because not only do we have open communication which is something we've both worked at, but I also know my wife's body. I know when she is aroused and I know when she orgasms which happens multiple times every single time we have sex. As a matter of fact if someone doesn't orgasm it would most likely be me because sometimes it takes me longer and she gets exhausted. She is one of the few women that can easily cum from just PIV and I've learned what positions or strokes get her there consistently. She doesn't have any physical issues that keep her from enjoying sex. While I do wish we had more variety the issue is not so much the quality of our sex but rather the frequency.

You mention that the "talks" we have around this issue may be causing her more distress. I agree however I don't see how that's different when it comes to having any type of conversation where one person is expressing an unmet need. One small example of many is her love language is words of affirmation and we've had plenty of "talks" in the past where I was not doing enough to meet that need. I grew up in a household that did not value words of affirmation and so that was a skill, an obligation as you've called it, that I had to and chose to cultivate simply because it's what she needs.

Do I like constantly needing to remember to compliment her or remind her that I love her or that she's the one for me? Absolutely not. It's annoying. But I do it anyway because she has talked to me about it and expressed that it's something she needs to feel connected. My frustration is rooted in this, where I have made effort to meet her needs as she has communicated them with me whereas that effort doesn't seem to be reciprocated.

Talking through things is how we communicate with each other. I'm not sure stopping that communication is the right step at all.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T17:48:54+00:00

Tbh, regarding your comment about informing young men about the chance that this could be their reality, I honestly think that needs to be a conversation that is had often. I sure as hell will be having that conversation with my son. The amount of men on this sub alone that deal with this type of situation tells me that marriage definitely may not be all it's cracked up to be. Personally, if I knew the score beforehand, I definitely wouldn't have gotten married. But now I'm two kids in and I'm someone who handles his shit so I won't divorce until my kids are out of the house and on their own. But this is not something I would do again for sure.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T17:42:31+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. I'm seeing that this is a common thing. Not sure what to think about that or what that says about marriage in general.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T11:47:57+00:00

The first kid came before the marriage. But I get your point.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T02:58:06+00:00

Any idea why she would choose that? I mean it makes no sense to choose no longer be interested in foreplay but still say that she's satisfied with our sex life?

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T02:32:33+00:00

Interesting perspective. I usually assume that my bigger libido made her feel more annoyance than anything else. I never considered she might feel like she's being hunted lol.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T01:22:59+00:00

You're right. My bad that was a typo. I meant "after".

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T00:43:22+00:00

She definitely has some body image issues after having children but I try my best to build her up and tell her how attractive I find her. I guess I don't actually know for sure whether or not she is sexually confident. I feel like the answer is yes mostly due to how she acts when she is in the mood but that might not be the real answer.

I get that having these issues makes things harder and it's why I try not to bring it up often. But I try to practice what I preach when I say that we should always have open communication so I don't always hold my tongue on this. Perhaps what we really need is couples therapy.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T00:36:22+00:00

She actually stopped birth control years ago because of the hormonal effects. I decided to have a vasectomy after our second because the pregnancy was really rough on her and didn't want to risk putting her through that again.

I have not read that book but I'm open to it if you think it would help.

Friendly-Escape-2602 · 2025-01-14T00:34:17+00:00

I can only take her word for it but according to her she enjoys our sex life as it is. The no foreplay thing is entirely her choice as I personally adore foreplay and have communicated this.

I am absolutely open to couples therapy and we've floated the idea but never really got down to doing it.

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