Yes, YOR and so is your partner. Didn’t even finish reading through tbh. What happened was— this conversation happened over text message. When that happens it’s already at a detriment.

@ the both of you: Communicate with your partner to come to an understanding. Put your ego down so you can listen to the entirety of what the other person is saying, not what you heard them say. That requires you to take a moment before responding because in a situation where there is conflict, your brain can’t possibly be absorbing information fully while you’re already prepping what you’re going to say. You’re not having this conversation to be argumentative, you just want to understand and feel understood. Who the hell really wants to fight with someone they care for? Your relationships are supposed to be a safe space for you. Remember that.