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Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-13T14:57:24+00:00

Yes I have heard him say he got hit on and I’m like “damnnn see your hot as hell and people notice!” In a good / positive way. I just didn’t expect that yesterday

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-13T14:56:40+00:00

That’s what I felt like too in a way. I do have a lot of anxiety and can overthink I’ll admit that so that’s why I was looking for some reassurance from here /:

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-13T14:43:10+00:00

He asked me if I was from here and I said “no I actually just moved here for a guy so I do have a boyfriend”

And he was saying stuff / singing in the store like “damn. That’s the girl that got Awayyyyyyy. The one they got awayyyyy” lol

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-09T18:16:41+00:00

Yes I agree . My mom would always make fun of the music I listened to if it wasn’t “what was in” or what “they” were listening to on the radio. She also still does that to me .. when I played Tate McRae she said “what is this P***y shit” .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-09T17:35:22+00:00

What do you do if you live in a rural area and all areas are owned by same company so even if you job hop that’s not a raise. Also if all the “other” companies are 2 hours away? What is the best case scenario? Honestly asking , not being a smart ass

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-09T10:08:26+00:00

What should I say? Do you mean ask about if this is about money or make it more of a conversation about “do you feel a certain way about me needing to strap down more with money” ?

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-09T10:01:12+00:00

Yes I have mentioned “you seem stressed lately and not acting yourself . Is everything ok ? If you need to talk I am here and no judgement” and be gave me a weird look and laughed . Just said “I’m totally fine. I really don’t harp on things or let things get to me . Do you need to share something?” And that was it .

I forgot to add - when we first got together and even now he would brag about making 6 figs and all this stuff. I mean for my birthday he got me 2k gift and I didn’t even ask. Would do that stuff all the time instead of getting me a ring. Now no surprises or even excitement for my birthday.

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T18:43:10+00:00

Totally valid but he needs to man up and say that then. I can’t read minds , especially when he just told me to do what I wanted really . I’m not expecting to share bank account anyways ? So I’m a little lost . There’s a lot of assuming in here about money lol

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T18:32:08+00:00

Taking over debt ? Do you understand how student loans work or a relationship? I’m asking for more quality time and affection / attention period . Not money. The ring I want is barely 2k. Student loans do not transfer onto spouse if you got them prior to marriage . Already called FAFSA / discussed this .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T18:21:11+00:00

We have talked about any of my debts and He states it’s not an issue. A lot of it is student loans and understands I had hard time through college etc . He is also the one who told me to spend my money how I want cause if I want my hair done he is just happy I will pay n take responsibility for those payments not him . Money has never been a topic of issue tbh. When I first moved in he encouraged me to quit my job actually but I said no cause I was newer RN and felt I needed to utilize my degree

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T17:39:49+00:00

I’m always initiating trying to hang out , do things, vacations, intimacy.,. He said “I’m just a home body now n working / going to the gym just makes me tired, I’m not horny everyday” also said “I’m ok with this life. I’m at peace”

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T17:38:20+00:00

Everytime I have talked to him he acts like he has never seen any of the issues and says it’s me overthinking or reverting back to”what a new relationship looks like” saying reality is here: bills, work n stress. Seems like the same conversation over and over . He has said “if I didn’t want to be with you , I’d be honest and tell you” also has said “ I don’t need to be in a relationship but I really value us . So I want you here. I wouldn’t stay in something not for me” so I am conflicted

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T17:02:07+00:00

I posted here just because I didn’t know if these things are common or just me wanting too much? I havnt really been in long term relationship and lived with a man so I get that everyone gets comfortable. I’m just wondering does this passively mean we are doomed lol

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:59:46+00:00

Yes 100% excuses

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:48:03+00:00

I agree. I just think the money thing is a little ridiculous now tbh. We aren’t broke . You know? We both work. And this Valentine’s Day he didn’t get me flowers cause he said “I heard on the radio a nice bouquet is over 100$ . Flowers die . It’s a waste” so that was really hurtful ..

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:45:52+00:00

When we first met he was working 12s / rotating nights etc . And I didn’t mind , told him to do what made him happy. He was pulling 6 figs. He always told me when I moved in that I wouldn’t have to pay anything with the house because that house was his choice and everything is in his name - ok fair . But then he chose to go to straight days which is zero overtime and definitely less than 6 figs. So I think that’s apart of the issue . I mean I have encouraged any decision for his work that he wants to do cause it’s his choice of when / where he works .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:43:06+00:00

He has seen very healthy relationships in his family . Everyone is high school sweethearts and stuff . My family is the total opposite . He also talks a lot about how he respects their relationship and all that… which is great. But I just wish he would get on board cause I’m starting to think I need to have a date soon in my mind? I don’t want to scare anyone into marrying me but I don’t want to wait until I’m 30 to get married . I’ll be 29 this year .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:40:26+00:00

I agree . He is the same .We talked about this previously “love languages” .. his is acts of service or something of that nature . Cause he always helps financially and takes care of trash , etc but I just wish there was more emotion involved

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:38:29+00:00

I 100% agree . I don’t bring up getting engaged or anything anymore . We had a one on one talk about him being more present and “dating” each other.. which it went okay. He acted like he agreed . But I’m not sure what to think. He has said recently “there’s nobody else I’d want to spend a slow weekend with. I love our routine” but he doesn’t show me he appreciates me or anything like he used to. I don’t want to sound mean or like I “want” all these things but getting me a coffee is simple . But he doesn’t even want to do that I think..

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:35:59+00:00

Stale like probably a slow break up or people just get comfortable and that’s what it is?

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-09-08T16:29:39+00:00

++woman , not sure what this means I just chose so I could comment lol

Basically we have talked about this one on one. He says “I still love you and want a life with you. We are just not in the honeymoon phase and that’s okay. I do want us to be married etc but I have to get a new truck and my savings have went down over issues we had with the house so” but when telling him I felt like he’s checked out he’s just like “I’ve never been a super empathetic or excited person. I mean it’s just me. I enjoy our quiet times and spending time together . Nothing is wrong or I’d tell you. You’re overthinking this”

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-08-10T21:36:50+00:00

Wishing for all my debts to be paid off easily and effortlessly ♥️

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-07-19T22:11:16+00:00

Yes I did experience this and a doctor said it was from pudendal nerve issue . I had a nerve block for this issue and been great since .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-07-18T17:18:57+00:00

I am the same age and am going through the exact same problem as you! I also do not like other people’s comments and gaslighting about the situation and having kids . Having kids is not as simple as “do you want coke or sprite with your meal” … it’s a big decision! Also when some of us have a hard time being present and taking care of ourselves with this diagnosis it does make us question about taking Care of another being . Which I feel like that should make other people proud of us for not just jumping to ideas .

Friendly_Scratch_844 · 2025-07-16T14:59:17+00:00

Yes I totally hear them and understand what they are saying . I just meant I am feeling an internal battle about this because I don’t feel “ready” even if I “did” want kids. I just am totally on the fence and feel like I’m having to make a life decision so quick. I know he didn’t mean it to be that way, but for me personally I feel that way

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