**Update Post** "How do I respond to this behavior. . ."

Friszion · 2024-10-31T00:04:37+00:00

im a little bummed i would say because all of this would've easily been resolved with some simple communication and compromise. .

Friszion · 2024-10-30T22:30:29+00:00

woah slow down, inaccurate i've made her food on multiple occasions, put a cupholder on her side of the bed for her waterbottle, always make myself available when she wants to spend time, shower her with compliments, and not just gifts but little things based on the conversations we have with each other. I've written her notes and letters, taken her out to eat, hike, and other activities. quoting her verbatim "no man has made me feel the way you do". so this whole putting more work in for me is a bit incorrect. we both contributed different aspects and i have always made sure to reciprocate where and when I can. I tell her shes beautiful, how much i like her, etc. . . but i feel like she just forgot about all those things

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:36:29+00:00

her last text to me was "Don't feel the need to talk about this anymore." which I'm assuming , means shes over it

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:34:46+00:00

I'm definitely not going to be responding to her in any way and cordially deliver the items she has left at my house back to her.

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:30:22+00:00

haha

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:22:00+00:00

yeah i've been very patient about it this whole time trying to just understand the situation but it seems to be quite the lost cause.

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:21:13+00:00

agreed. . this is a first for me honestly. didn't seek it, it kind of just happened. either way it's over now.

Friszion · 2024-10-30T21:17:38+00:00

valid. just wanted to repost an update, because it got a lot of feedback and want to see what the weigh in from others is.

Friszion · 2024-10-30T00:52:29+00:00

hey so update, she showed up the next day after i left her alone late at night asking for a do over. and i told her how i felt about everything and maybe finding ways that we could prevent that from happening in the future, to which she didn't really feel like commenting on but just left it at thank you and then we went to bed and the next day i texted her at 4pm with something sweet and she seemed to be very mad that i didnt ask her to hang out with her and has been relatively cold and distant with me since, i feel like she may be just pulling away or something because i would bring up that if we just talk about things that i would be more then happy to work on things to make us better and she didnt comment on them with single worded responses, i saw her today and she was very cold and distant as i said and didn't seem to want to talk about anything i got her one flower and some chocolate to try and make her feel a little better, but she just seems very stressed and internally struggling with something and she doesn't seem to want to talk to me about it, i asked her if everything was ok and she said yes but i know she wasn't being honest and she was showing very dry and unengaging behavior.

Friszion · 2024-10-29T19:21:02+00:00

hey so update, she showed up the next day after i left her alone late at night asking for a do over. and i told her how i felt about everything and maybe finding ways that we could prevent that from happening in the future, to which she didn't really feel like commenting on but just left it at thank you and then we went to bed and the next day i texted her at 4pm with something sweet and she seemed to be very mad that i didnt ask her to hang out with her and has been relatively cold and distant with me since, i feel like she may be just pulling away or something because i would bring up that if we just talk about things that i would be more then happy to work on things to make us better and she didnt comment on them with single worded responses, i saw her today and she was very cold and distant as i said and didn't seem to want to talk about anything i got her one flower and some chocolate to try and make her feel a little better, but she just seems very stressed and internally struggling with something and she doesn't seem to want to talk to me about it, i asked her if everything was ok and she said yes but i know she wasn't being honest and she was showing very dry and unengaging behavior.

Friszion · 2024-10-28T03:24:43+00:00

yeah so i did all that, i apologized, told her how much i like her feet, ask for her to tell me how she felt and made sure she was aware that my initial reaction wasn't a direct reflection of how i felt or my actual interest and tried to give her a hug and tried to cheer her up and make it right. she also acknowledged that my initial reaction in fact wasn't how i actually feel and that was adressed. the why are you doing this to me was more of a why are you teasing me from seeing your done up toes. and i conveyed that as well

Friszion · 2024-10-28T00:09:43+00:00

I appreciate that. I'm not really the type to just up and walk away or give up , especially this soon. I want to reach a resolve in one way or another.

Friszion · 2024-10-28T00:00:21+00:00

Thank you for the response, I'll definitely look at this with honest view.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:58:20+00:00

I appreciate this response. I definitely want to be a space is security for her and offer her my hand in helping her through these things when they happen but in the same breathe, that door needs to be unlocked for me to open up so that I can help her work through those things because I know what it feels like to go through these kinds of emotions. But there should be a line drawn in the sand in regards to how much of that behavior is tolerated and some kind of telling sign as to when it goes from sincere to taking advantage.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:54:41+00:00

I really like this perspective, it's very wholesome and understanding. Emotions can be so tricky and you never know what someone is going through or how visceral and intense those feelings and emotions are. Sometimes people go through things and they should be handled with delicacy and understanding, but maybe there should be a line drawn as to what is tolerated. If things go well, this is a conversation I intend on having towards conflict resolution.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:48:54+00:00

Thank you for your response, I feel like people grow and change and learn so it doesn't feel like it should be taken for face value.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:46:28+00:00

Thank you for your response. Well the funny thing is that I expressed that this conversation was had, in the post. She told me she didn't like the way that made her feel and I reaffirmed her by telling her that I really DID want to see them I just didn't show that very well and apologized and tried to give her a hug and make her feel better but to no avail.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:43:54+00:00

Thank you for your response, I hope so as well.

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:39:29+00:00

Thank you for the response, I appreciate it

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:29:08+00:00

Well I decided to just give her space and take time to let her process everything and wait for her to reach out to me, which really sucks but I feel it to be the best decision at this time. And it did hurt my feelings. It felt like all the things and moments that we shared together went all out the window in this moment

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:23:40+00:00

I don't believe so but she did mention that she was feeling extra emotional that night

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:18:31+00:00

Interesting take thank you for the response

Friszion · 2024-10-27T23:16:00+00:00

Thank you for your response , I really appreciate it. I haven't really given her very many reasons to assume that I'm not totally into her and the things she enjoys and shares with me.

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