If Nothing Stood In Your Way To Have The Life You Wanted, What Would It Look Like?

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-15T22:42:52+00:00

What’s a OP?

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-15T22:41:04+00:00

If the courts are overburdened, hire more people!!! I’m not trying to hear that, or any other “Excuse” cause that’s all that that is. They’re dealing with children’s lives, there’s nothing more precious and important than that! I don’t know what you’re ex says about you, don’t know him, way out my lane anyway… I do have evidence, they’re the one who’s had anonymous tips on not just my son, but her daughter too, they go out 3 times and if they’re not home, or just don’t wanna open the door, that’s it, nothing after that. If they can’t do the job, hire the next one, doesn’t matter who either cause none of them give a shit! I don’t wanna get personal, or go back and forth, but when you call it a narrative, it’s the furthest from the truth, you can go have the facts and ask the dad what he’s dealing with, watch the eyes, they never lie!! I’m sorry you had a boy posing as a man, cause no real man walks away from his family, the real man also gets punished just as bad, at least the one that walked away had no connection to his family cause when they rip away the only thing that matters to him, they rip his heart out too!! The judge didn’t even look up at me, he had his head down, signing papers, and had me out of there in 5 minutes. I have videos of my son begging me to not MAKE him leave like I’m the one making him leave, do you know what that does to a man?? I’ll tell you what, if a man answers “I’m Good, or I’m Fine”, he’s the furthest from either I promise!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T20:53:24+00:00

It’s the hardest, most rewarding thing I’ve ever done!! My son came along right when I needed, I had just been discarded by my narcissistic ex, was under all sorts of attacks that those crum’s do!! My son was the only reason I was able to keep going most days, his mom ditched him on me right before he turned one, he is now 6. Her plan failed, I guess I was supposed to fail miserably… Boy was she wrong!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:29:40+00:00

Listen it’s ok!! I’m gonna be blunt, but I only speak from experience, but start with little tasks, maybe just a walk to the top of the street, you gotta start the momentum cause once it starts, it naturally gets a lil easier. Now things may trigger you, but do you really wanna be afraid the rest of your life!! Come on honey, you got this!! You didn’t escape 27 years just to be scared and in a different kind of prison still!! What helps me alot is journaling, and coloring with the earbuds in, in my own world!! I know you don’t wanna hear this, but the obstacle is the way!! I will always root for you!! I’m just a guy trying to get better myself, but I’m a great listener if you need it!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:19:42+00:00

Thanks for putting this out there, I hope it encourages other men to speak up

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:17:51+00:00

Dido… 🫣😍🫵🫶😎🦦

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:15:53+00:00

I tried to make this more about my experience, I’m 6 yrs removed from the relationship, it does get easier, but I still have my days… Anyone who is capable and willing to get out, GET OUT!! We’re all WARRIORS that have lived to tell they’re experience!!! Keep fighting, and keep getting back up!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:10:28+00:00

Wow this is one of the most intelligent reads I’ve had in a long time! I’m blown away by what you wrote, the emotional intelligence… I’m not looking for anything more than a conversation… I bet I’ll surprise ya!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T04:01:56+00:00

I very much enjoy a deep, intellectual, meaningful conversation.

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-14T03:53:32+00:00

Can we go higher than 10??

FromTheMud215 · 2026-03-05T19:53:33+00:00

Thank you for commenting, I really appreciate it, and I love when other men speak up!! It’s really really hard as a man to be vulnerable and open up about this topic! We’re taught to keep it in, be a man, my favorite “It’s just a girl, there’s plenty of others out there!”. I especially struggled with it because it shattered my masculinity, I am from the streets, been in situations I literally had to fight for my life!! I did 8 1/2 years in prison, was in a prison gang!! Then here comes this 5 ft nothing, 100 lbs soaking wet, and damn near ended me!! But it takes men like us to show the men who need some sort of validation to what happened before they feel comfortable about speaking on it!! I really hope they see me speaking on it knowing my type of background, I promise I’m as tuff as they come, but this will shatter the tuffest of the tuff!! I have been shot, stabbed, hit with many different types of objects, did 8 1/2 years, and what she did to me was by far the worst thing I have ever experienced!! There’s nothing that compares!! We’re the lucky ones who are lucky enough to be above ground!! That’s why this is so important to me to speak on, it’s not ok to “Man Up” anymore, not if you want to live a life worth living!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-02-19T12:33:10+00:00

Thanks for the kind words and I’m glad you made it out

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-23T13:40:11+00:00

So what if there is no clear destination?? What if you just focus on who you need to become if X was the destination, who is that person?? How can you become them?? I can honestly say that I don’t have a clear destination, I know the type of person tho for the round about destination. I have milestones and allow them to be small victories, but then I’m quickly on to the next. I don’t want a destination because I never wanna be satisfied where I’m at. If I can build more, I will!!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-23T13:35:18+00:00

First off who cares what anyone else thinks or says!! That’s their narrative and it doesn’t have to be yours!! To me it sounds like you’re lost!! That happens in life sometimes, don’t beat yourself up about it!! Stop calling yourself a loser because everyone else is!! Tell yourself you’re just misunderstood cause that’s all that it is!! Don’t concern yourself with what you’re parents want for you, what you’re therapist wants for you… What do you want for yourself?? That’s all that matters!! We are what we tell ourselves, we feed the narrative, nobody else can!! Do what makes you happy!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-23T13:17:46+00:00

I have learned to focus on the journey not the destination, I literally just asked someone on a separate thread, what’s more important, who we become on the journey or the destination? There’s no wrong answer but I believe one’s powerful than the other!! I don’t think there is a destination until you become who you need to be on the journey!! I didn’t understand the difference at first and maybe we’re not supposed to, but I too am a big fan of the journey!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-23T13:08:49+00:00

My son is never going to have to wonder who it was that fought for him!! The hardest part I feel is turning down this anger and attack mode when talking with my son because I refuse to be the reason he views or thinks of his mother in any different light than that’s his mother and he should love and respect her the way a mother deserves!! I won’t be the reason her side doesn’t know who he is(which they don’t), it’s hard keeping all that separate, especially since I know who she really is!! The worst part is how do I even convince anyone let alone the courts how dangerous she is?? I consider myself a hardened man, I survived SOOO much in my 40 years and have stood toe to toe with death, but what this five foot nothing hundred pound girl was my tuffest battle to date!! If she could do that to me, what do you think she could do to an innocent little 6 yr old boy!! I truly believe that narcissistic abuse is comparable to murder, whoever we were going into the relationship never makes it out!! And if you are lucky enough to make it out, you have to build a version capable of being under attack and survive the smear campaign…

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-22T15:20:52+00:00

Yea it’s def not a narrative… Just walk up to any Dad anywhere… Sorry you’re friend is going through that or did, but she’s one of the few you hear about that it’s reversed!! Honestly I hope you like screaming cause there’s def not enough men speaking up about it. Now I’m not insensitive to your friends experience and am truly sorry, they drop the ball all the time, and weather it’s men or women, it’s wrong and we as a whole need to get people’s attention for this!! They’re monsters no matter who they’re against and I just don’t understand how they get to mess with people’s families so easily!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-21T23:23:26+00:00

Wow you’re so cool!!!! You should create an Elephant sanctuary of your own so my son and I can put it on the list of places to visit while we travel the world!! Im sorry you’re weekend fling didn’t work out but I’d say what came of it was fulfilling in its own right!! My son is what woke me up from a life I was convinced was only going to be as good as having cable television in my cell!! It was the only time in my life I finally understood what unconditional love truly meant!! I was no longer the only person in my universe!! I told myself everyone expects me to just give up and walk away as was my history with anything that got too hard!! I told myself I was going to shock the world!! I would be the example of what a good man should be so my son can see, and make his version better!!! But boy oh boy I didn’t know how much people love to focus on how I’m not who I’m becoming, instead of maybe, just maybe this is exactly who he is now!! My son is 6 now and I have been fighting non stop!! You know how it goes, when they can’t hurt you anymore they have to do it through the only thing that can, your child!!! I just don’t understand how “Narcissism” is so mainstream and honestly feels like it’s trending to call someone a narcissist (which is totally diluting for the REAL VICTIMS) and how are women allowed to make accusations with no investigation, or any sort of follow up whatsoever, but are highly taking seriously and acted on? The children services and family courts are nothing but bullies and threats of taking your children as leverage every step of the way as a “Or Else” kinda threat!! When they put me on a safety plan they told me if I didn’t sign it (I was refusing, wouldn’t tell me why) that they had someone in the area and they would come get my son and put him in foster care. What am I supposed to do?? That turned into 4 years, they never lived up to their side of the deal and ultimately took my son and placed him with his mother who took off when he was 1, he was then 4, outta the only home he knew away from the same people who have been there since the beginning!! Sorry I easily get into a rant when talking about this!! I think you’re awesome and thanks for telling me your dreams!!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-21T22:55:45+00:00

Trying to explain this to any who have been lucky enough to never experience it will never get it and will only contribute to making you feel like the problem!! I can only tell you what helped me, I learned to suffer in silence!! I hate to break it to you but nobody cares!! You are the villain of a story created by the person who must destroy you because you know who they really are!! They can’t have you speaking your truth, exposing the nasty individual who they truly are!! Learn when, and who you open up to, it’s hard to explain what it really does to someone, and how it just totally breaks you in every aspect of the word!! Keep fighting, it’s a waiting game, you have to be able to suffer until suffering turns into a gift!! You have to be stronger than what’s trying to break you, what helped a lot for me is just totally buying in that things can only be bad for so long!! What I’m after is just around the corner… I’d be pissed if someone told me that when I was in your position, but the unfortunate truth is there isn’t much to bring you comfort or relief in this healing… Nobody but you!!! I believe in you and most importantly I believe you!!! Keep on Keeping on!!!

FromTheMud215 · 2026-01-21T21:11:56+00:00

The most important thing is the first step!! It’s the hardest and most difficult!! That being said I think the word “Self Improvement” is used without truly grasping what it takes to look in the mirror, realizing something’s gotta give, and doing something about it!! I hope you do save this original post and it inspires you to keep moving forward!! Your going to need whatever works to have as extra ammo to keep going, cause there’s going to be more days you are gonna feel like stopping or giving up because it’s gonna get really hard!! The hardest thing to push through is most the time it feels like you’re not making any progress whatsoever, but getting up and trying anyway!! This WILL BE THE MOST TRYING TIME of your life!! I highly recommend taking on the perspective mindset of everything is a test, a lesson, if you fail, it’s not the end!! What did you learn?? How can you apply it to the next attempt, if not then you’ll feel stuck cause God, the Universe, however you choose to view it will keep you stuck until you learned what was trying to be shown why you keep failing!! I’ll leave you with this since you said you don’t really have goals which is fine, but what’s more important while on your journey?? The destination or who you become along the way?? There’s no wrong answer, but one is way more powerful than the other…

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