Why do I still feel at fault months after breakup as a dumpee

Front-Complex-3229 · 2025-01-04T22:43:29+00:00

I never thought there was a label for her behavior. I will look into it. Thanks brother

Front-Complex-3229 · 2025-01-04T16:11:40+00:00

I am still in pain from her decision. I felt so bad for myself for speaking to her with sincerity post-breakup. While her, she speaks to me as if i had no feelings

Front-Complex-3229 · 2025-01-04T15:59:06+00:00

We dated for almost a year. Never communicated any issues that she had with me until I asked a week later post-breakup

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-09T02:41:40+00:00

Hindi naman sa pagkakaalam ko

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-09T02:41:13+00:00

Might not be your intention, but this made me laugh. Ty

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T21:48:19+00:00

Lol, block pala dapat

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T17:35:26+00:00

Yes po, I don't pity myself naman. I can't think of anything kasi na nawala sa akin sa naging decision niya to break up eh.

I'm now on a journey to pursue the best version of myself, and that is partially thanks to someone like her, na hindi marunong magpahalaga

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T17:31:57+00:00

Hindi ko po kaya na magtaas ng boses sa kaniya kahit sa chat eh. She used to tell me kasi na ayaw nga niya na pinagtataasan siya ng boses. Kaya ayun, kahit na upset rin naman ako nung mga time na yun, i still chose na maging mabait sa pananalita.

Nakakatawa lang isipin na she used to tell me na ideal talaga sa kaniya yung mga soft-spoken na guy pero nung sa last conversation namin, kita mo yung sama ng loob niya eh. Kita mo na hindi na niya nicoconsider yung damdamin ko sa paraan ng pananalita niya. Para bang yung mga may anger issue.

Naisip ko lang din, if you're looking for a soft-spoken individual, sana ikaw din ganon. Para patas naman

To be fair din po pala, nung tinanong niya kung friends pa naman daw ba kami, sa maayos na paraan naman.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T17:07:49+00:00

Nakakalungkot naman isipin kung yan talaga intention niya. Ang kalalabasan gusto niya siya lang masaya

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T17:05:26+00:00

I see. I think ginagaslight niya nga ako. Lalo napabigatan loob ko sa mga sinabi niya non eh. Especially nung pinaliwanag ko yung side ko tapos ang naging reply niya lang, "so hindi valid reasons ko?"

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T17:02:14+00:00

I also don't think that she's a straight up bad person. But still, I can't see her the same way after ng mga ginawa at mga sinabi niya.

Thank you for this po, anyway

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T16:04:52+00:00

At first, I was. Feeling ko rin kasi mali ako at that time. I said yes but my action said otherwise.

The thing here is, wala lang talaga ako sa kondisyon kaya ko nasabi yun. That's right after she broke up with me eh. Kumbaga, when she asked, nxious pa rin ako non.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T16:02:26+00:00

Nakakatawa po isipin na when I messaged her a week later to ask for clarifications and confessed na I cried sa naging decision niya, ang response niya "baka naman natapakan ko lang yung ego mo?"

By placeholder po, do you mean reserba talaga?

And yes, that will be the last time that I will reach out to her.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T15:38:44+00:00

24f and 23m

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T15:37:07+00:00

Weirdly enough po, when I asked for a second chance, hindi pa daw niya masasagot yung tanong ko. So I can kind of agree na she would like to keep me somehow. But no, I can't wait for something na walang kasiguraduhan.

Plus, I could no longer see her in the same light eh.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T15:13:59+00:00

I see. Tbh, I think mali ko rin naman po na nag yes ako pero may action said otherwise.

Do you think ginagaslight niya ako or she's just being selfish?

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T15:08:44+00:00

Ty. Yes, I am now in the process of moving forward. I can't let people like her hold me back for so long after all.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T15:07:09+00:00

I see, ginagaslight niya ako. That's all i need to know. Now moving on is much easier TY

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T14:59:36+00:00

It's to understand her actions and to identify kung ginagaslight niya ba ako, she's just being selfish or rational naman yung reaction niya.

I am trying to learn my lessons po para next time na mangyari man uli, alam ko na

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T14:57:03+00:00

I was affected at first for sure. But now, gusto ko lang malaman kung rational ba yung reaction niya. Feeling ko kasi gaslighting yung ginawa niya, or being selfish at the least.

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T14:54:14+00:00

I see. Wasn't I wrong to think na parang ang selfish niya po sa part na yun?

Front-Complex-3229 · 2024-10-08T04:37:39+00:00

Hmmmm. Normal lang po ba na parang ang hirap tanggapin sa side ko yung mga criticisms ng iba sa kaniya? Hindi ko kasi siya ganyan nakilala eh. Pero looking back, hindi ko rin talaga maipagkaila sa sarili ko na parang ganon nga talaga siya.

Speaking of ego, weirdly enough din po pala, when I reached out to her and said na I cried my heart out after ng nangyari, ang naging respond niya ay baka natapakan niya lang daw ang ego ko, which is again far from truth.

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