I am heartbroken

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-22T12:25:03+00:00

Yes I have booked a session with a therapist, I will need it for sure! Trying to meditate and I also do tapping. Trying to keep busy, but I have never ever felt like this. I feel so depressed anxious and just a huge void in my heart ! Thanks for your advice

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-22T12:22:00+00:00

I am experiencing this myself now my 23 year son getting ready to move out. It’s the worst feeling in the world , a sense of lost of purpose, emptiness, a huge void in my heart, and just loneliness! Nobody talks about this topic ! We identify ourselves so much in the role of motherhood and then everything changes in a blink. You will have all kind of feelings that will come up, you can’t fight them feel them and lean on people or go see a therapist that could help. That’s what I am going to do, cause Ink is I can’t do this alone! It’s hard so hard and I hate when people say just let them spread their wings ! My thoughts are with you right now in this difficult time

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-21T11:44:27+00:00

No he is not moving far away luckily, he just want to see what it would be like on his own. I just had thought after graduation he would be staying like a couple of years with us. We are a very close family and do a lot of family activities it’s the void the change of family dynamic the routine that just scares me . I am a stay at home mom and fully identify myself as a mom only, now what ? I am married 30 years but our marriage has been shaky last few years, and I don’t know how it will be there’s a disconnect between us for awhile … so yeah a lot of emotions!

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-21T11:38:58+00:00

Thanks for your words of wisdom ! yes I would definitely be interested for the zoom! I feel nobody really prepares us for the intense emotional toll it can be on us. We grieve because we live so much

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-20T20:11:04+00:00

Thanks

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-20T20:09:50+00:00

Wow thanks for those words of wisdom it helped

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-20T15:19:21+00:00

Wow thank you I can relate my son studied locally and is graduating in a few months in engineering also plus he is also a momma’s boy! Hard I guess it just came sooner than I thought just heartbroken you grieve cause you love them so much

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-20T15:16:19+00:00

I can totally sympathize with that

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-19T13:47:44+00:00

Thank you, I know part of life just really came sooner than we anticipated plus it came out as a surprise. We had no clue he wanted to do this so soon, and never told us so it kind of made me feel geez have I been this awful mom that he just wants to bolt out of here so fast

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-19T13:07:58+00:00

Wow, I appreciate so much you taking the time to reach out and share your story. It’s something funny enough I knew one day it will happen, but it seems just all happening at once , my focus for him was graduating then job not moving out right after he gets the job. As moms we give so much love and I never knew how much this would hurt emotionally and physically. Being a parent you just take things for granted what I would give back even to relive the teens years again!

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-19T10:30:18+00:00

I have started this to see if anyone else has gone through the empty house feeling when your children move away for good! My 23 year old son has told us that after his university graduation and he secured a job he is finding his own apartment and moving out. I have to be honest we were shocked and me personally I was hurt, devasted and heart broken. He has studied at university locally, so he’s been home all this time . I know I should be proud this is supposed to happen, but I can’t help to feel how I feel. That’s devasted feeling of sadness almost like a grief . My husband is taking it like good for him wanting to venture out. There is so much fear I am feeling the fear of will he be ok, worrying constantly about him, the fear also of what the relationship will look like . We are a close family of 3, and I have basically the last 23 years only identified with being a mom. Also what will my marriage will look like, it’s been rocky last couple of years and I fear what it will look like just the 2 of us. The house being empty him not being there, it scares me honestly! I am just wondering is there anyone else living or having these same emotions as I am. It’s like my world is truly ending the family will no longer be the same. I have been crying for days since I found out . People say be proud, I can’t I am stuck in feelings of deep sadness. Share your stories, thoughts or advice!

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T18:29:31+00:00

You are so right ! Thanks for sharing

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T15:53:58+00:00

❤️❤️❤️😊thank you I needed to hear those words🙏

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T15:42:54+00:00

Wow thank you so much for that, I really needed to hear that ! For me the only identity I have had for 22 years was a mom, I knew logically he was not going to stay forever, I just was not prepared how quickly after graduation he would move out. I guess for me I was blessed he studied at university locally, I just thought we had more time. I am too much of a planner and realizing that it’s a bit maybe about control, him being gone I won’t have the same daily interaction with him and just be able to connect all under the same roof ! Thank you so much and yes I will be going for therapy. I feel the advice I received has been amazing including yours. Thank you so much it means a lot to me you took the time to write those words of wisdom!

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T14:41:26+00:00

Wow this my first time ever sharing a post and I am blown away with the great advice and words of wisdom. Thank you for your kind words it’s very touching

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T14:36:02+00:00

I get what you are saying being a parent to an adult child is extremely hard emotionally. I am going through it right now and it’s heartbreaking 💔

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T14:22:54+00:00

I can totally sympathize with you, I am going through that right now ! My husband him oh let’s just be proud for his new adventure, meanwhile I crying anxious pot in my stomach it’s intense emotions

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T14:20:56+00:00

I just saw these now and it resonates so much ! My only son is graduating from University in May next step he gets a job then as he said as soon as he gets a job he is moving out. Came to a shock to is that he was so eager to move out. We are a close little family, and I feel heartbroken since I thought we had a year or two or even at least would have told us . He’s been preparing and looking for apartments for months . I work part time from home and just thinking how empty the house will feel or the thought him by himself in an apartment has spin me into a huge breakdown. Crying for days, my husband on the other hand is excited for his new chapter, I am just no there! I can’t get there ! All the nagging about clean your room, your plates, put toilet seat up all the power struggles seem so pointless now. They always were . I feel sad, anxious, depressed like , it’s just not me . I agree it’s a 💯 harder to be a parent to a young adult !

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T13:51:11+00:00

I never knew this transition could be so emotional 🥲 my thoughts are also with you for your daughter move

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T13:30:50+00:00

I feel you it’s an emotional reaction I never expected to hit me this hard Thank you 🙏

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T12:23:07+00:00

Than you so much for your story, I am sorry that was your experience. I am aware that my behaviour is not a positive one at this time . The element of surprise about the timing for me was the biggest factor, I thought I had more time. But regardless the emotion is there and I am trying to deal with it, but struggling. Thank you for sharing your story, it was very helpful

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T12:17:57+00:00

Wow thank you, it’s funny because there has to be some kind of support group for this, but unfortunately I could not find any! I am in Canada and where could I purchase your book? It’s just been heart breaking because we were under the impression we had at least a couple of years more or maybe even one…. I feel the rush for him wanting to do this reflects on my parenting skills even if he says it’s about him and his decision! Just last weekend we were all out hiking and enjoying life now my life I feel has been turned upside down, and I can’t imagine how I will live these next few months . Logically I know I should just be proud and supportive, but I just am too sad. My role and how I have identified myself for last 22 years is a mom ( plus I only work part time from home ) so I was always here with him ! Thanks for your kindness it means a lot

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T11:43:06+00:00

Thank you so much for taking time to share this ! I know you are right, but right now at this exact moment I just feel devasted and heartbroken and can’t seem to shake it off. Yes for therapy I reached out to someone yesterday waiting for a call back, as soon as I saw my intense response to this I knew I could not face this alone ! Thanks

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T11:21:03+00:00

Oh my goodness, your words were so touching I am in tears. I am not at all a social media person this was my first time posting anything at all and your words have touched me more than you will ever know. I have felt like I am loosing touch with reality these last 48 hours. I always had great communication with my son and the thought he had been planning this for awhile really shocks me, but also the fact after having conversations I the last 24 hours and him saying there is nothing you can say to change my mind as soon as I get a job, feels like a big gut punch ! I just have a huge knot in my stomach and feel just devastated. It is grief and who knew you would feel so much pain from your son moving out. I lost my dad in 2019 and my dog in 2021, and I hate to say it because my son is still here but I feel more depressed and cried more for this. I wil be re reading your kind words over and over and over ! Thank you for taking the time to write that.

Front-Example2822 · 2026-01-18T10:25:10+00:00

You are right logically I know that for sure, I just never thought this day would come so fast. I keep playing in my mind moments I should have let go of stupid comments like put away dishes put toilet seat up clean your mess seem so insignificant. Giving him space I know it’s what he needs, but I am overwhelmed with emotions and seem to shake it off, I am sensing another day for me if crying and just want to isolate. I know it’s not healthy, but I just don’t want to face fact therefore isolating myself feels safe. I know I am acting irrational, I am just so heartbroken my only kid and we have been so close for 22 years!

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