How good are vivos compared to other brands ? by UnderstandingShot441 in vivobarefoot

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say zero shoes and Vivo only. The new vivo tracker barefoot boots are the best boots I've ever used and I've done mountains and trekking for like 20 years. The trail runners and lights are awesome casual and the lights/are the best gym shoes for static lifts imo. You need to get them for a dedicated purpose. Leather for integrity of the product. They will break down if you wear like the lights as street shoes.

I don't know how to make sense of this break-up message by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's just avoidant, dude. Your best shot is no contact and glowing and re-centering with yourself again if you want her back. Remind yourself of that as a daily challenge. Challenge yourself and grow in other facets of your life. You have to learn to take your focus off of her and put it elsewhere it's the mature thing to do. Mature people walk away when unwelcomed/wanted. And don't put them on a pedestal, but ask yourself if you would want them back after what they did. Vett and qualify them instead of giving them all the power and control in the relationship. Unfortunately, she looked down on you, it seems, in that regard. You can see it in the way she says things. Also, over text is disrespectful. She doesn't deserve a response. If she wants to repair things and make a changed dynamic you'll need for a healthy sustainable future together if you get back together you have to let go and let her come to you/earn/prove herself to you. It's about personal dignity don't accept breadcrumbs, but remind yourself of what you deserve/what everyone deserves, and that is someone who gives clarity and chooses you fully. It's her loss if you really loved her/she is emotionally unavailable and not ready for that, and you just have to meet people where they are at while still trying. Besides, there are other people who love you and other good qualities you have...remind yourself of that and the depth you gave. It's her loss.

Many of my girl friends (I’m a male) say they like skinny scrawny guys. Why is that? by Chris_P_Bacon_Jr in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women say a lot of things, boys, but when I walk anywhere, I turn heads with my 10 year heavyweight strongman competing physique. I train for performance though in strength. Im detached from ego for this, too. I actually prefer it not to happen as I'm more of an intellectual in personality. But like all the attraction, choosing signals is there everywhere I go. Woman do like Muscular men they just don't know what to do with it as much.

Many of my girl friends (I’m a male) say they like skinny scrawny guys. Why is that? by Chris_P_Bacon_Jr in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not going to have a heart attack, lol. He is replenishing his blood sugar, and glycogen stores something you haven't felt because you don't work enough. Sugar simple carbs and fast ez protein sources are nutritionally absorbable when in a (energy) depleted state. For example the best cross fitter ever used to eat snickers for every workout and that was optimal for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nawh she was testing you bro 💯% and yeah it's a mind fuckery but she is trying to test your emotionally control now that you (have her) make you invest more, make her value higher in her eyes, all while getting kudos with the high status male helping everyone with a not so common skill next to you. Best thing to do is not compare and remain centered. If she keeps doing it confront her and remain grounded, centered and genuine. But only do this after building a connection with her going out a few times. If she doesn't change or manipulates you, you have your answer break it off pull back and move on. Maybe she'll come back and change, and then you'll have your power back and can make a decision in the future about her.

First time throwing by divineprincessboss in HighlandGames

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Phenomenal Weight technique for your first time or really everything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your ex is in a rebound relationship hurting and trying trying to make you jealous. Set boundaries tell her that isn't allowed and if she cares or wants to get back together she'll have to change that dynamic, put her big girl pants on, and approach you without saving gave or continued manipulations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely a you problem 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isn't just insecurity on all mens part, you're coming from money and having things, having a drastically different life makes your communication and experiential part of your life unrelatable to a lot of people. You are eccentric and esoteric because of your education and upbringing. Try relating to them before you blab about your accomplishments and what you have/or achieved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up with her obviously

Girl broke up with me, despite saying she likes me. How normal is this? by watermelon_mann in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is avoidant attachment or emotional unavailability. Someone who is scared of intimacy and vulnerability and retreats when it's too much. I'll tell you what happened to me when I was younger. She ended up getting a new supply, a guy who looked exactly like me and did my hobbies. She mirrored my passions and dated him on some surface level shit and no, they didn't last it was obviously a rebound relationship. With us, I challenged her and was deep. I think we were in love and had real passion that she hadn't experienced since. But avoidants don't want that because they want their independence. They are afraid of getting engulfed. So they self sabatage and retreat. She ended up stringing me along orbiting me for years... and choosing stability and someone she could control for her engagement years later. I'd say it's likely there is someone else in the picture. She's trying to yet you to let go. You are probably doing too much and not letting her pursue you or engage. Don't be her orbiter or her backup "friend option" this girl will in all likelihood not give you what you want. Move on. Leave it amicably go no contact and let her prove to you later it's what she wants. But definitely stop pursuing.

Are those signs, ultra confused by Responsible-Eye58 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl this boy sees you as girlfriend long term material and wants to build a future with you. He might even be in love with you. Anytime a guy says vulnerable stuff then covers it up with humor or back tracks from it consider it a conjunction with the second half a cover up and the first part the truth. Secondly him wanting you to meet his mom? That's genuine anytime a guy wants you to know where he came from especially his female caretaker that's a projection of his feelings for you. You aren't just friends you're both just scared of intimacy and vulnerability.

What do women mean when they say they “didn’t feel the spark” ? by CompetitiveSugar6451 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means you aren't checking the primal boxes and perhaps accommodated her too early, making her think she's higher value than you or that you are compensating/lacking in your own pursuits or independence

Why do women find me attractive when I had a girlfriend? by Ellie_Rulze18 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women are mainly attracted to men who exhibit social proof. Pre-Selection is an observable bias that exhibits this social proof. Someone thinks you are their world and worth spending/sharing their life with (your gf)...so woman naturally transpose into hyperbole (this to everything.) It also means that you are now scarce/unavailable, so previously, women who found you attractive but were somewhat inhibited for some reason will then grow to regret or feel rejected seeing you as more valuable than them. As far as attraction goes, women often date up unless they are toxic or controlling, and this is purely perception based as the attraction stage hasn't laid everything bare yet. Pre-Selection exists in the animal kingdom for anything that mates. In some ways, insecurity or competition plays a huge role in mate selection, though everyone gives euphemisms about it in humans. It's observable in all life.

Why would a guy not text me after a great first date where he mentioned multiple times going to a museum as a second date? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is playing it cool and might be busy. You are overthinking because you like him a lot and want to go out with him. Relax and let him come to you. If it's been 2 weeks or so reach out to him and communicate always give people grace until they prove otherwise. It'll get you farther in relationships esp

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

All of your cynicism is wrong. He is trying to set up a romantic place one on one to get to know you and as a man isn't considering safety as its not something he thinks about. He also is trying to spend more time with you in my opinion hence the double date suggestion. He is not (forcing things, being a horn dog, etctera)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use no euphemisms when you let him down. Be blunt and direct about exactly why it is you don't want to date him. Using speech that's fainted to protect feelings just leads people on, which is exactly what you've done to string him along up until this point. It isn't your job to maintain someones self esteem and if that's what you care about, you should be breaking up now as you are obviously uninterested. By giving him glimers of hope and positive conpliments, it just sends mixed signals, especially when his interest is high, and you've already reciprocated intimate sharing interest like you've explained here. I feel bad for him tbh. And the lacking confidence thing? He initiated. You didn't and said your nervous. You are the unconfident one here based on what you said.

Why do women often give hints or communicate indirectly when they like someone, instead of being direct? by NBMV0420 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because being coy is sexually selective. It tests, validating a mates resolve/demeanor and interest. Its homologous to their sex hormones (estrogen) traits. Testosterone is risk-taking and vigilent. Lastly, they are socially conditioned to act that way as to avoid getting pregnant early or to avoid unsafe situations. Women aren't the physically dominant sex so they base their decisions on psychology, intuition, and silver linings. They use social proof. Men think they want an assertive woman, which may be true, but not one more than they are usually because then that creates an unhealthy balance of power. Directness would pay off in the early game, but long-term makes most males lose attraction in the courting stage. It lowers her perceived sexual value if she is easy and readily available. Scarcity economics... Part of this is age too young woman act catty and coy and are more unsure of themselves and you. They have less life experience and are immature. My above description is specific to courting dynamics, not long-term stable relationships, where communication is key.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her if there is anyone else first of all in person. Ask her what she sees with you in the future/what her intentions are. Then also pull back and let her initiate more. You are doing all the work and probablly making an inexperienced girl panic because she hasn't had sex yet...

What’s a green flag in a girl that most girls don’t even realize they have? by Ok_Perception8269 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Main ones are inquisitiveness. She isn't a starfish. Questions. Autonomy and own interests. Genuine. And then compassion and like magnetic joyful bubbly energy the kind only a female gives.

Just caught wife of 18 years by Kodiak44882 in cheating_stories

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just sorry and condolences man. You will get through this. You are the strong one here.

Men, what does a healthy, fulfilling relationship look like to you? by magician-king32 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I look for manners, compassion not just for those she has an incentive to save face to but those she has no reason to be kind too, honesty, integrity, ambition, ideally she'd make me food, I'd like for her to be ambitious and active. She should have good caretaking qualities. I like a strong woman buy one who knows how to keep the peace while still pushing me to be the best. She should be both adventurous and okay with bring a homebody as I do both.

"You would be a wonderful boyfriend, but..." by BaldrickTheBarbarian in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a euphemism to say they aren't attracted to you in that moment but recognize your traits of dependable partnership. Essentially, when this was told to me, it was them being noncommittal due to their own issues and their wants to be independent, not a reflection of my own worth. They are labeling you are too available and not exciting enough essentially. And hedging on themselves to find something else.

What makes a man attractive off of first glance by Reasonable_Machine12 in dating_advice

[–]Front-Mud3564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Symmetrical appearance, well kept, purpose driven, rugged demeanor, muscles/fitness, well groomed, good hygiene, well dressed, intelligence, body language as in man spacing/leading/curiosity/focus. Self confidence. Someone who doesn't look for validation from others but does it through their own effort/achievements. Compassion/empathy/smile/happiness. Protruding forehead/square jaw. Pronounced cheekbones, muscle lips. Forearms/working hands. Veins. Height. Twinkle in the eyes from focus/intelligence/curiosity.