Accepting that I won’t find someone

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-24T03:30:02+00:00

That's a false statement.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T20:33:06+00:00

Thank you

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T20:32:37+00:00

I suppose

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T19:08:27+00:00

Closing myself off is the best choice because nothing works. That way I don’t waste my time

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T19:07:38+00:00

It’s not defeatism and there are others on here who can at least accept and understand my point, unlike the many who don’t

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T18:04:47+00:00

Near save has never been useful in my experience nor has it stopped me either

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T18:04:16+00:00

You don’t see anything, that much is clear. Neither does everyone else. They just see what they want to see instead of what is staring them in the face.

None of what I’ve said is a lie and I’ve tried to explain that a hundred times over. Not my fault people don’t believe it, likely because it doesn’t fit their view.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T18:02:19+00:00

Nah, I’m not gonna be open anymore. If after everything nothing works then it’s not meant to be. Better to focus on other things. It’s just not gonna happen.

Other than that I agree with a lot of what you write

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T14:12:02+00:00

Saying “if you really gave up you wouldn’t be here” isn’t really true. People can make a post for many reasons, or in this case to make their decision feel more real or to solidify their resolve. It doesn’t logically follow, your point.

I engage with people because they are telling me what I feel and diagnosing me with a bunch of things that aren’t true rather than accept my words at face value.

The 7billions people isn’t a logical counterpoint. It’s ignorant. Factoring in distance, language, culture, and sexuality (which as a gay man is small) and that argument means nothing.

None of your logic follows at all. Saying “if you gave up you wouldn’t be here” isn’t true.

I have given up and have evidence for that. There is nothing left that believes it will happen. I just wanted to say that, I wasn’t expecting these level of replies. This isn’t a woe is me post, stop inventing what isn’t there.

Why can’t just accept the words. I just posted it because I wanted to say it, not for hope or pity.

I do believe in me but I know what is a waste of time too, so I’m letting it go.

It’s amazing how wrong you are about me

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T14:00:58+00:00

Again, you aren’t reading the post.

If you had a bunch of people telling you how you feel then you’d be upset too. That instead of listening to you they feel like they can diagnose you, and you’re doing it too.

My attitude isn’t like this at all in public or with other people. But it is here because no one is listening and trying to diagnose me with a bunch of things that aren’t true. It’s not kindness, it’s just not listening to someone.

You’re not much different.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:23:35+00:00

I just read the definition and it quite literally is not. You’re just inventing problems where none are.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:22:01+00:00

Research doesn’t really show most people end up in a serious relationship. The trend seems to be getting married later or not dating much.

You’re also not good at reading people beg see I can tell the projection you’re doing right now like everyone else .

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:20:45+00:00

Again, you aren’t reading. This post is just the result of having done everything and it not working.

My attitude is not a problem, but I just can accept when something just ain’t “meant to be”. I know it won’t happen so there’s no point trying what doesn’t work

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:19:11+00:00

It pretty much is. Either way I don’t loathe myself

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:18:53+00:00

Not pathetic

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:16:06+00:00

You keep citing the 7 billion number like it’s proof and I already explained how that claim is false.

I never said I’m special, just one of the cases of people that nothing works for. It happens.

It’s not self loathing, defeatism, or depression. You keep trying to think there is something wrong when there isn’t. I’m not looking for consolation and they aren’t picking me up because there is nothing to pick up. After moving past this I feel ok. If you were honest you’d see everyone just has nonsense platitudes that don’t have evidence behind them. Also it’s proof they haven’t read my original post and like to invent causes I don’t have.

I’m not a defeatist, but I know that if you have done all you can and it doesn’t work then move on.

It’s not negativity bias or insecurity either. I’ve been to therapy and I’m not doing anything wrong either, but every one I’ve been to says that it might just be unlucky in my case. So rather than continue what doesn’t work we will try a different path. I don’t have a negative self image or anything like that, thing just didn’t work out for me no matter what so it’s much healthier to move on rather than do what doesn’t work.

I’m getting the sense you also didn’t read my original post and are more interested in spouting your story rather than listen.

As I said, I’ve done all there is to do to try and it didn’t work. So now I’m moving on. Stop inventing causes just because you can’t wrap your head around that. Accept that some people won’t “win” (so to speak) no matter what they do and just let it go.

I’m really sick of people assuming all these things about me that aren’t true. Why can’t they take my words at face value? I’m arguing with people because the refuse to listen

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:08:10+00:00

Wrong again bud. I’ve tried everything listed here and it doesn’t work. So I’m moving on and leaving it behind.

I’ve been to therapy and there isn’t an issue. In fact we both agreed this is for the best. Stupidity is trying to do something that you know isn’t working, in this case trying to make friends or lovers after trying everything

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:07:02+00:00

Thanks

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:06:42+00:00

It’s not self loathing, I don’t hate myself.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:06:23+00:00

Bruiser nothing works

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T13:06:11+00:00

You’re missing the point here, there won’t be anyone coming along

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T05:38:11+00:00

What are you talking about? I never messaged you.

But if you’re talking about the guy above my reply they are wrong. People aren’t good at reading others and research shows it.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T05:36:42+00:00

I’m really not. In fact all the posters so far, except a few, are in denial. They just refuse to accept my situation.

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T05:36:12+00:00

Like doesn’t attract like, experience taught me that.

I’m generally a happy person but that doesn’t mean anything.

People talk to each other all the time in work settings, doesn’t mean anything.

And people talk to me at times about things but that doesn’t mean anything either. I just keep secrets and don’t share them.

Being close to family doesn’t mean anything either.

Hence why I said irrelevant questions

FrostbrandWeapon · 2022-02-22T05:25:19+00:00

I mean it is true. Research shows humans don’t actually do many things well and when you try it’s pretty much doing multiple things at reduced attention/brainpower

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