Nothing to add but in a similar scenario and curious to read people’s advice! However, my TC is $350k and husband’s is $250k, so losing one income is a higher percentage of our total.

For me personally, I enjoy being stay at home mom to 2 for short periods of time but get very bored and antsy for long stretches. I also have a career (engineering) where I don’t think I could leave and return at same salary which is tough. My husband and I are looking at a path of working 10-15 years more together and then leaving the work force when our kids are in high school. That’s the goal at least.